Easter Weekend
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Happy easter everyone !
I spend this week-end at my parents home, and it's, unfortunately, never a good thing... Since 4 or 5 years, my dad is slowly becoming like his own dad, a horrible, angry old guy who annoys everyone around him because of his constant yells about everything, not to mention his alcoholism. I tried many times to talk to him, and each time he just complain about how sad and how old he is (he's just 54, btw), and "yeah you're right, I will try to calm myself down". But it's only getting worse and worse, of course. He became more and more violent. Yesterday he nearly destroyed the whole kitchen in an access of rage
. Hopefully, he didn't beat anyone... yet.
I go see my parents one week-end per month, and it's already unbearable. But my mom have to bear him 24/7, as they own a business together. She's really tired, I don't think she can handle this anymore. My sisters and I have proposed to her many times to spend some time with us in Paris, far from him, but she always refuse. He drives her into madness... I told her that he doesn't want to improve anything, because he deluded himself as being the victim, and he will keep feeding on her unless she runs away.
I feel like I have a responsability in this, that I have to do something before something very bad happens, I just don't know what. Any ideas, guys ?
I spend this week-end at my parents home, and it's, unfortunately, never a good thing... Since 4 or 5 years, my dad is slowly becoming like his own dad, a horrible, angry old guy who annoys everyone around him because of his constant yells about everything, not to mention his alcoholism. I tried many times to talk to him, and each time he just complain about how sad and how old he is (he's just 54, btw), and "yeah you're right, I will try to calm myself down". But it's only getting worse and worse, of course. He became more and more violent. Yesterday he nearly destroyed the whole kitchen in an access of rage
. Hopefully, he didn't beat anyone... yet.I go see my parents one week-end per month, and it's already unbearable. But my mom have to bear him 24/7, as they own a business together. She's really tired, I don't think she can handle this anymore. My sisters and I have proposed to her many times to spend some time with us in Paris, far from him, but she always refuse. He drives her into madness... I told her that he doesn't want to improve anything, because he deluded himself as being the victim, and he will keep feeding on her unless she runs away.
I feel like I have a responsability in this, that I have to do something before something very bad happens, I just don't know what. Any ideas, guys ?
shellycheval
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Polonel wrote:
This feeling of being responsible and needing to "fix" things is common among people who grow up in alcoholic families. There is a lot of literature and web information out there geared to adult children of alcoholics, 12 step and otherwise. Much of it is useful and it is very helpful to learn you are not alone in feeling this way. Read up on surviving alcoholic families and it can help you figure what your boundaries should be and what you can and cannot do to help. There is a dark little comic movie that is wonderful for all survivors of alcoholics families called "Stuart Saves His Family;" it is both halarious and informative at the same time. Take care and good luck.
shellycheval
This feeling of being responsible and needing to "fix" things is common among people who grow up in alcoholic families. There is a lot of literature and web information out there geared to adult children of alcoholics, 12 step and otherwise. Much of it is useful and it is very helpful to learn you are not alone in feeling this way. Read up on surviving alcoholic families and it can help you figure what your boundaries should be and what you can and cannot do to help. There is a dark little comic movie that is wonderful for all survivors of alcoholics families called "Stuart Saves His Family;" it is both halarious and informative at the same time. Take care and good luck.
shellycheval
