Brewer said:
About the 'glass ceiling'. Simply because I don't mention does not mean that I'm unaware of it. Why are there more men above it? It could be that they're prepared to make the effort to get there.
anart said:
Brewer, honestly, you have some serious blinders on and aren't seeing the bigger picture at all. It's the same formula that always - always - runs. Those in power do things to stay in power and that applies no matter who 'those' are in each situation. 'Those in power' can be men or pathologicals or royalty or corporations or whoever - though in western society they are almost always men. Women have never (in recent western history) been in power nor have (nonpathological) people of color. For you to honestly think that men are in power only because they 'make more effort' is just ludicrous.
No I said "It could be that they're prepared to make the effort to get there" From the many I've seen up there through the glass, most were miserable, pathological or not. All that struggling, competition and fighting, much better to be a beta than an alpha. Look at the situation carefully and adapt accordingly.
Anyway, how has this benefited men? My granddad, born 1911, died 2007 worked his butt off all his life, was drafted into WWII, strafed and bombed by the Afrika Korps in North Africa, caught nasty diseases, didn't see his family for 6 years and died aged 96 with not much to show for it. Some patriarchy! Ditto for my dad and all my friend's dads, they went to other wars though. I work for a guy in my area, he was till recently the general manager for a large manufacturing company in Australia. He's a nice guy, pays well and we've had many interesting talks over the years. He worked his way up from the lower management, was drafted to fight in Vietnam. Most definitely non pathological. He told me that the official reasons for the outsourcing happening in the west is a big lie. The labour costs involved in making stuff is but a small fraction of the end product, there was no real reason to do it and the social costs are high. He was above the glass ceiling, didn't believe in bloated bonuses or massive managerial wages. A rare breed (but he's not the only one I've met) to be sure and now he's gone the 'bright young things' are moving in and will probably start the outsourcing and the destruction of an iconic company.
As for royalty, I served at a party hosted by Prince Charles twenty years ago. Somewhere in this forum or in one of the Wave books HRH is described as a nincompoop. I used to know men and women who worked for him, I knew a young woman who worked at Buckingham Palace as a maid. They all described him as intelligent and more or less a nice guy considering his circumstances.
Back in the 80's one of my friends worked for Rupert Murdoch as a printer for his tabloids. He met him a couple of times, he and his workmates described him as a decent employer who looked after his employees. I'm by no means a fan of his conglomerate.
In the late 90's I briefly worked as a security guard at the head office of an Australian shopping mall magnate. I never met the big guy but of all his higher management I encountered I never met one who was not rude, arrogant or downright nasty. I also worked in their shopping malls, same people running those too. Pathologicals.
Effort still does seem to work. I've done it a few times in my life in different countries and am doing it now. I'm not about above the glass ceiling, never wanted to be, I don't want to be the top turd on a pile of sh*t! My ex wife, various girlfriends and mother wanted me to be there but no thanks! I'm quite successful, I'm happy, I've got a great son, a nice house, little debt, four great jobs and work a 30 hour week with 2 miles of commuting daily. The people in my little town respect and like me and I've got a fabulous girlfriend. She doesn't wallow in victim hood, she just goes out and does it and plays the cards she's dealt. She started her own business 6 months a go, a cafe, a raging success! I help out, do the handyman work and cook. My stews are sell outs!
Wherever I've gone in my life I always managed to carve out a comfortable niche for myself. Be productive and of service to my community without treading on toes. The biggest mistake in my life was to get married, that's when I had the blinders on!
anart said:
I think you might benefit from checking into some books on women's history, rather than reading books that support your already deeply ensconced and unbalanced view.
You could say that I lived it. My mother was deeply involved (platonically) with the one of the Australian leaders of the feminist movement in the late 70s to mid 80s. I witnessed it first hand. I married a woman who turned out to be a feminist in the late 90s. By then the movement had morphed somewhat but was no less bizarre and angry. From the high hill of her old age my mum realises that she made a huge mistake in giving the movement support. She's watched as her friend's sons have been removed from their children's lives and have lost their homes. She babysat them as boys, watched them grow up, date girls, get married, start families and finally get disembowelled, emotionally, financially and spiritually. She played her part in enabling the laws that enabled this to come about. She was a useful idiot.
With my ex, her behaviour, inspired by her culture, upbringing and education, makes her intolerable to be with. She desperately wants to be in a relationship but cannot keep a boyfriend. Being an ex model she's very attractive and has no trouble attracting men but cannot keep them for long. Some are game players, others are genuine but will not put up with abusive behaviour which she regards as completely normal.
I don't read books that 'support my worldview'. Where possible I experience first (which in this case I've experienced a lot) then research later. If I find books that more or less encapsulate that research in an articulate and balanced manner then I shall recommend them. Another thing too, studying history is a good thing and can shed light on what's happening today. However I think it's much more important to look at what's happening around you in the here now. The author I recommended discusses contemporary issues, Another author I recommend is Steven Baskerville.
anart said:
Ultimately, it's a bit of a 'us against them' mindset you seem to be displaying regarding men and women when the only true 'us against them' situation on this planet is normal human beings against pathologicals.
No, I don't see it as 'us against them' situation. Yes, the pathologicals will draft and push for laws that increase their control. They will appoint agents that act according to their wishes. A large section of society becomes aware of these laws and uses them for their own gain, becoming somewhat pathological themselves. Harnessing the power of the state to bully the other party who is often almost helpless. The family court in western countries fits this bill perfectly. Accompanying this apparatus are a swarm of lawyers, counsellors and other 'experts' all seeking to first to suckle, then when teat runs dry, kill the beast and feast on it's flesh. When the bones are picked clean they'll turn on somebody else. Look out!
However at the end of the day it's up to common person if they choose to use these laws or not, if they didn't the laws would have little or no effect. Unfortunately many seem to do so. Seen it many times, experienced it myself. They're useful idiots.
I began researching family court in the west when my wife's true colours became apparent, that was two years before 911 and the laws that followed the attacks. What I found was a fully functioning police state within a state. You know, I think family law was some sort 'dry run', or at least one of them, for the full fledged police state that's to come.
I'll answer some more posts later
Take care