Life of a Senior Smoker

jariel

A Disturbance in the Force
I'm a 64-year-old smoker - been smoking for 45 years - my lungs are healthy, and look about 10 years younger than my age. I live in the USA, in the state of Virginia, which, when I moved here 12 years ago, was extremely welcoming and more than tolerant of smokers, but things have changed drastically in the past few years.

I lost my first apartment, after being an excellent, clean and responsible tenant for 9 years, when my landlady, an ex-smoker nagged into quitting by her 3 children, morphed into a rabid antismoker and decided my smoking would harm her children and ruin her property (even though my apartment wasn't even connected to her house and, in fact, was about a half-block away from it). I moved into a nice basement apartment. My landlady, a sweet 89-year-old who lived upstairs, had no problem with my being a smoker because her late husband had smoked. I lived there happily for about 10 months, and one day she informed me that I had to move in 30 days because she had told a friend of hers that I smoked, and the friend came to visit, and swore up and down that the "stink of cigarettes" was all over my landlady's house (even though we shared no walls or vents) and it would end up killing my landlady, not to mention the grandchildren and great-grandchildren. My landlady (who was a very suggestible type) was terrified and gave me notice immediately.

I was homeless for 3 months trying to find a place to live where smoking was allowed and that I could afford on my disability income. (my disability has nothing to do with smoking). The only place I could find to stay was the YWCA. The brochure said they had a smoking lounge. Went to the interview and was told that there was no more smoking lounge and if you wanted to smoke, you had to go outside onto the street. In a really bad neighborhood. Without even any street lights at night. They accepted me but I really didn't want to stay there because the other tenants were, well, kinda scary. (i.e., ex-cons). Luckily when I told a friend - who smokes! - about what I was going through, and what the Y was like, she and her husband insisted I stay with them until I found a permanent place. They lived about 80 miles outside of town in an isolated rural area, I don't have a car, and it would be extremely difficult for me to get to necessary appointments, but that was the only roof over my head that was available.

In the meanwhile, I started applying for senior housing. I was accepted at the first place I applied and would have been able to move there in a month, but was told, "Tomorrow we're telling all our residents that they can't smoke inside the building any more, not even in their own apartments, and not in front of the building." They'd have to walk down a block or so to an unsheltered area without even any benches to sit on. I was like, WHAT? These people are 62 and up. A lot of them are on walkers. A lot of them use wheelchairs. And when I walked into the lobby, most of the people sitting there were smoking. This is CRUELTY! Soooo - I applied to place number two, where smoking was allowed in one's apartment. There was a three-month waiting list. And it was quite difficult to get into this privately-funded apartment complex for low-income seniors. But I made it in, and I'm happy to live here now. BUT - who knows how long smoking will be allowed? There are noises being made about a ban. Nothing concrete - just talk, and rumors. And some of these elderly people here are absolutely terrified of being anywhere near smokers - probably thanks to being bombarded by anti-smoking "public announcements" on TV and scare stories by their doctors and grandchildren.
 
Thanks for sharing jariel.

Quite interesting and scary how successful the smoking propaganda has become in a lot of places...
 
My, my, You certainly have been through the wringer!
Stay strong, jariel. It's a test, and all there is, is lessons.
 
Pashalis said:
Thanks for sharing jariel.

Quite interesting and scary how successful the smoking propaganda has become in a lot of places...

Yup. Welcome to full-blown fascism!
 
SeekinTruth said:
Pashalis said:
Thanks for sharing jariel.

Quite interesting and scary how successful the smoking propaganda has become in a lot of places...

Yup. Welcome to full-blown fascism!

This is appalling! What happened to live and let live...? As a non-smoker I hadn't the faintest idea how far this social terrorism has spread around already. This seems like total hysteria, and completely unfounded to boot.

Anyway, for the moment you are safe and sound, jariel. Hope it stays that way. And welcome to the forum! :cool2: :cool2: :cool2:
 
Personal experience with this issue was a bit of a shock for me as well. Luckily(after several months of searching for a place to live), I was able to find a caretaker, farm management position for a person who smokes. The negative information people seem to believe about smoking is a problem.

Having quit for 16 years and 6 years since first starting in 1969, I also had problems with the smell of tobacco surrounding smokers. Once I learned that smoking has many benefits, tobacco smoke started to not seem so bad, almost pleasant. It seemed that my sub conscious was not happy about my conscious choice to not smoke and smelling something that my body couldn't have made it a conflict of interest. Now, I just say to myself "you can have a smoke later" and the desire to smoke dissipates.
 
Palinurus said:
SeekinTruth said:
Pashalis said:
Thanks for sharing jariel.

Quite interesting and scary how successful the smoking propaganda has become in a lot of places...

Yup. Welcome to full-blown fascism!

This is appalling! What happened to live and let live...? As a non-smoker I hadn't the faintest idea how far this social terrorism has spread around already. This seems like total hysteria, and completely unfounded to boot.

Anyway, for the moment you are safe and sound, jariel. Hope it stays that way. And welcome to the forum! :cool2: :cool2: :cool2:

I know that in the state of Massachusetts this is now the norm. Senior/disabled buildings are either now, or soon to be, smoke free. And most of the residents are so happy about it. They are, also, very unhealthy, eat dismal diets and take lots of pharmaceutical meds - but smoking - no way. :rolleyes: Keeping them unhealthy with the diet and meds, smokefree and plenty of mainstream media is just the ticket to keeping them dumbed down.
 
That stinks, jariel. I hope the no smoking rumors at your new place remain just rumors.

In the meanwhile keep :cool2: while you still can.
 
And it was quite difficult to get into this privately-funded apartment complex for low-income seniors. But I made it in, and I'm happy to live here now. BUT - who knows how long smoking will be allowed? There are noises being made about a ban. Nothing concrete - just talk, and rumors. And some of these elderly people here are absolutely terrified of being anywhere near smokers - probably thanks to being bombarded by anti-smoking "public announcements" on TV and scare stories by their doctors and grandchildren.

I'm glad you found a place where you don't have to torture yourself just to light a cigarette, Jariel. It's insane how nowadays you can't even relax and talk and just participate in certain social circles if you dare to smoke. As a matter of fact, I'll make a smoke just to celebrate your new home and hope it remains a place for smokers and non-smokers for a long time!
 
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