Losing Hari

griffin

Jedi Master
Hari left suddenly today.

My wife took him to the vet to be treated for a sinus / upper respiratory infection, maybe a shot of antibiotics and/or liquid antibiotics for a couple of weeks. He didn't want to be dropped into the cat carrier so we lured him into the front of it with some tuna and stuffed him into it. He did not like being in there and broke most of his front claws trying to rip open the door or claw his way out through the sides. I talked to him to calm him down a few times and that worked, a little. I felt bad that he didn't understand and told him he would get better soon.

Then my wife took him and one of our other cats to the vet's office just a few blocks away. The vet offers a discount if you take two cats at once in for exams. An hour and a half later she was back, brought in the smaller cat carrier, set it on the kitchen table and went back out to get the other one. I went to the cat carrier and found that it was empty. Hari had stayed at the vet clinic.

When she came back in with the other cat carrier my wife was crying and choked up, but she managed to choke out that Hari had feline leukemia and immune disease - he was not going to be coming home. Blood tests had turned up positive and she had decided to put him down. She said feline leukemia is contagious and we couldn't put our other cats at risk

I quickly looked up and read about FLV and FIV online and tried to ask questions, but she was too upset to talk. By the time I tried to call the vet's office it was after 5pm and it didn't answer.

Hari had turned up last summer, a solid male dark chocolate tipped honey colored Burmese.

He was a great cat, quiet and reserved, not aggressive with the other cats, but not intimidated either. After he got used to me he would jump up to get petted a bit, and then later wanted his head scratched occasionally. He learned to stay off my keyboard and get down into the chair behind me when I had to work. I had no idea that she would quickly choose to put Hari down.

He clearly had grown up in a home and likely had been vaccinated when he was young, and that would explain why he tested positive for FIV antibodies. He might have encountered FLV during his life and become immune, but not contagious. I think we might have let him down, and I feel sick about it.

I'll call the vet tomorrow, and will have to ask my wife not to make such decisions by herself, once she recovers from the loss. Maybe it was necessary and the right decision, but it hurts.
 
Very sorry for you and your wife's loss of Hari. It is not easy to put an animal down and when ill with leukemia, it is not a nice way for animals to leave.

Take care :hug:
 
Hi Griffin,
I am sorry to hear about your cat Hari. Take care and try not to beat yourself up over what happened as you take time to mourn this loss. Pipe breathing would help.
 
Very sorry for your cat. Accept my condolences, our pets are our friends and I know how sad we are when one of them goes to the rainbow bridge.... :hug2:
 
Sorry about the loss of Hari, griffin. Hope you and your wife will be able to mourn properly. Try not to beat yourselves up and second guess the decision. :hug2:
 
My condolences in your loss of Hari, griffin. These losses do hurt. But as has been said, don't beat yourself up over it. :hug:
 
So sorry for your loss of Hari. The sinus and upper respiratory infection might have been a sign of things to follow. We don`t want our four legged friends to suffer. It`s really hard to put so much energy into keeping our pets alive and them really not having quality of life. It must have been very hard for your wife to make that decision. I know personally it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. My Sadie Girl was my best friend. :(
 
griffin said:
I'll call the vet tomorrow, and will have to ask my wife not to make such decisions by herself, once she recovers from the loss. Maybe it was necessary and the right decision, but it hurts.

Hopefully it will help to get more information from the vet. It is truly unfortunate that your wife didn't at least call you and talk about it before making such a final decision.
 
anart said:
Hopefully it will help to get more information from the vet. It is truly unfortunate that your wife didn't at least call you and talk about it before making such a final decision.

I just called the vet and talked with him for a few minutes. The FLV (leukemia) test picked up live virus, not antibodies that could indicate a previous infection that had been overcome to confer immunity. The FIV (kitty AIDS) test was also positive. Hari had a nick in one of his ears showing that he'd been neutered by a charity, and those don't vaccinate for FIV though they do test for it. If he'd been vaccinated for FIV by a vet, he likely would have been microchipped to disclose it, so he almost certainly was infected with FIV. The leukemia was more communicable however.

We have younger cats, a couple of whom haven't been vaccinated yet. We'll get them tested, and hope they'll be fine. To all of you that have expressed your condolences to me, thank you.

There must be a very special circle of Hell for people who raise good cats, don't take proper care of them, and then simply abandon them.
 
Sorry for your loss griffin. We had to put down our last cat a few months ago, so I know what it's like. But it was shocking to not know that you would not be greeted by your cat after a vet visit. Take care. :hug2:
 
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