As I make my way through reading about the Tao, I came across this quote in the book I am reading (The Tao of Love and Sex by Jolang Chang). And I thought it was rather interesting in a few levels. Sun S'su-Mo is a physician from AD 581, so it's difficult to find his stuff, however the author quotes him as saying, in response to someone asking him about a man in his 60s who's attempting to forego female companionship.
And here's where I think it connects with something the C's have spoken about on several occasions, not just about the individuality of self awareness and recognizing your own cycles and so on, but also about mental hygiene.
The notion of mating with ghosts as a disease, could be interpreted in a few ways, from actual visitations of succibi at night, which is a terrible enough prospect, but if you think about it, things like porn addiction (or overindulgence) could be akin to "mating" with a ghost. Giving up your energy attention and intent to a lie that you participate in by passively letting it go unquestioned. "Falling in love" with something that doesn't exist.
So, the thing with single men doesn't seem to be on unconscious repression based on fear, but on healthy, and maybe that is the keyword, healthy expression. So, I suppose failing having a partner to explore and learn these things with, one could perhaps attempt its next best thing, use the same curious and learning approach with the same intent, love, as defined by the C's as knowing.
Know thyself takes on another dimension when looked at through this lens.
I suppose living alone, or being alone or single is a terrifying prospect for many, and that anxiety can lead one to seek to soothe oneself by overindulging in self gratification, when it doesn't lead to the wrong relationships or ones based on the wrong principles, but I think that's where the healthy aspect of it should be meditated upon. It isn't healthy to seek release simply to soothe one's anxieties about quiet moments, however long they may last, it should be, optimally, with the intent on healthy living.
And that requires a clean mental space, clean emotional space and self-awareness of what is healthy, in general and for the self in particular, as we're all individuals.
Ching is the name for ejaculation. Now, the reason I find it interesting is because the topic of single men comes up when considering the entire idea, optimally yes you would perform these explorations with a partner that you love, but what if you don't have one?
And here's where I think it connects with something the C's have spoken about on several occasions, not just about the individuality of self awareness and recognizing your own cycles and so on, but also about mental hygiene.
The notion of mating with ghosts as a disease, could be interpreted in a few ways, from actual visitations of succibi at night, which is a terrible enough prospect, but if you think about it, things like porn addiction (or overindulgence) could be akin to "mating" with a ghost. Giving up your energy attention and intent to a lie that you participate in by passively letting it go unquestioned. "Falling in love" with something that doesn't exist.
So, the thing with single men doesn't seem to be on unconscious repression based on fear, but on healthy, and maybe that is the keyword, healthy expression. So, I suppose failing having a partner to explore and learn these things with, one could perhaps attempt its next best thing, use the same curious and learning approach with the same intent, love, as defined by the C's as knowing.
Know thyself takes on another dimension when looked at through this lens.
I suppose living alone, or being alone or single is a terrifying prospect for many, and that anxiety can lead one to seek to soothe oneself by overindulging in self gratification, when it doesn't lead to the wrong relationships or ones based on the wrong principles, but I think that's where the healthy aspect of it should be meditated upon. It isn't healthy to seek release simply to soothe one's anxieties about quiet moments, however long they may last, it should be, optimally, with the intent on healthy living.
And that requires a clean mental space, clean emotional space and self-awareness of what is healthy, in general and for the self in particular, as we're all individuals.
