My Brother's Neighbour

[cassandra]

My brother suffers, I think, from Asperger's. He hasn't been diagnosed yet, because living in England, on the National Health Service, waiting for treatment can take a long time. And anyway, I'm not sure if he has filled out an application form for treatment, as he feels ashamed of his condition.
Anyway, he lives in my father's flat in London. Above him, lives a lady doctor, respected by all who live in the building.
Apparently, she spends most of her evenings mocking his loneliness, calling him a pervert, jobless loser, weirdo, etc. She says she
picks on him, because he hasn't got anybody.
The walls are very thin, so she knows which room he is in (and follows him around), which radio programme he listens to, who comes to visit - everything.
My uncle, cousin and father have done a lot to help him, including finally getting him benefits to live on.
After he had confided in them about this problem, they approached her, but found her charming, educated, plausible and concerned for my brother, so of course since he has obvious mental health issues, they think he is imagining the whole thing.
So do the police.
He tells me she is an accomplished liar and a sicko, who herself has absolutely no one. Who would believe his story against hers?
I think you get the picture...
Now, although I don't see him often, as I live in a different country, I know him better than anyone else and I don't think he is imagining this, although there is a chance he is being paranoid. His mails consist mainly of one line, so it's hard to glean much information from him.
I sent him a voice recorder to settle the matter for once and for all, but her voice was too soft to be picked up.
Can anyone recommend a device? - not too hightech - that will do the trick? I've looked on Amazon, but can't find exactly what I'm looking for.

 

[Chopper]

Hello Cassandra you might try a tool used to diagnosis an engine noise , Thay are Very sensitive tool for noise ..

In US thay would cost around 30 dollars I would guess one with a mic plug would be a little more..

Hope you all get this figured out , my best to your brother ( perhaps the lady wants a date?? would be really weird way to go about it tho!)

EDIT for link: http://www.ebay.com/itm/Engine-Noise-Diagnostic-Tool-Electronic-Stethoscope-/160670945370

 

[cassandra]

Thanks a lot, sounds good. If I bought one here in Germany, I don't know if it would be compatible with English electronic equipment.
Still, worth checking out. Do you happen to know the name of this tool?
I have to admit that I am an utter ignoramus when it comes to electronic-speak. I've got the oldest phone in the world and I threw away my 20-year-old microwave only last year with sadness! My brother isn't any better!
Yes, she definitely needs a date. I should send her my brother-in-law. You don't mess with him.

 

[Chopper]

Well the engine noise tool is just a turbo mic sort of speak Cassandra , It doesn't have code of any kind just a passive device so any tape recorder in any country would work.

There are many kinds of them some have suction cups on or with them some you just hold to whatever what you want to listen to , there are some with a little "dish" attached to them to hear noise at a distance like for hunting ect...

All the best to you.

 

[cassandra]

Thanks a lot, Chopper. Sounds just like the kind of cunning device I was looking for...

 

[davey72]

I know that there are a number of devices that would serve the purpose. If the above doesn't work, you should find a spy shop, or even enquire at a local electronics store.

 

[cassandra]

Thanks davey72, but the trouble is that in Germany/Europe(?) the stores are still in the dark ages compared to the US, so I've never heard of a spy shop here.
And come over here if you want to experience the worst customer service in the world! People from abroad are absolutely shocked with their experiences.
(All you Germans, there are plenty of things that are great here. E.g. You are pretty safe walking around alone at night.)
I know a few people who are clever with these things. Chopper's suggestion does sound a great idea, and I'm going to check it out.

I just think it must be awful to go through this, and doubt your own sanity, because no one believes you. His life is already challenging enough.

 

[davey72]

That is awesome that you are gonna help him figure this out. I hope things go well for the both of you. :)

 

[cassandra]

Thanks you guys for all your help!!

 

[Gwenllian]

I just think it must be awful to go through this, and doubt your own sanity, because no one believes you. His life is already challenging enough.

It is awful to go through this. I have also been on the receiving end of predators, big and small.
It sounds as if the lady doctor is one. I have not read the book yet (Predators by Anna Salter), but maybe that one helps? So you could plan a strategy together and with other members of your family, once they believe him. Maybe you could suggest the book to your father afterwards? Do not know, I am just brainstorming.

I have had a lot of problems with neighbours, still have them and with people that come past our house. But it was ever so much harder when I was more unstable. I still don't like being called names or laughed at or talked about, but I can handle it better. These predators know who to pick. Masquerading their own severe deficiencies.

I got a lot of stick from some neighbours, who were truly horrible. Father was an ex-psychiatric patient and during the day he was nowhere to be seen. Only when it became dark he would come out and spy on us. Some of his kids had to sleep in trailers, the house was dangerous to live in, etc. etc. and still they managed to poison so many people, turning people against each other. Only years later I understood what the mother and the daughters had been doing. They had been taking the attention away from their family.
These kids will be let loose in society and create more havoc and misery. Meanwhile, the mother was telling the police how my kids were to grow to be thieves and murderers.
Sometimes the only option is to move, find a new place and check out the new surroundings throroughly with as many people as you can (which I haven't done ;)).