my sweet daddy is no longer suffering...

Im not sure where to post this or even if it's appropriate to post at all...
My dad passed away in the night... and is no longering suffering from all of his deseases... its been 15 yrs of suffering which started as a neurological disorder, they never could tell us exactly what, then diabetes, ...
I guess I'm posting this because I'm kind of at a loss of how to think about all this...
If I were still going to church i would reach out to my paster for a prayer but I'm still reading and learning about FOTCM so do I meditate? sorry if I sound stupid... or naive... so where is he now? :shock: Is his mind\soul aware? Is he looking down on me now?
I love you Daddy! I miss you...
 
LadyRodgers said:
If I were still going to church i would reach out to my paster for a prayer but I'm still reading and learning about FOTCM so do I meditate? sorry if I sound stupid... or naive... so where is he now? :shock: Is his mind\soul aware? Is he looking down on me now?
I love you Daddy! I miss you...

I am very sorry for your loss, LadyRodgers. May your father rest in peace.

If you feel like sharing your emotions or thoughts, we are here to listen and support you. Take care of yourself, and take as much time as you need to mourn. I think that pipe breathing and the meditation will help as well.
 
Hi LadyRogers,

My sincere condolences with the loss of your beloved father.

I lost mine about a year ago after a short illness. We had ample time to say goodbye, it wasn't unexpected and he had reconciled himself with the fact that "enough is enough", "it's time to leave now" and "I'm over and done with".

Nevertheless, when it finally had happened I felt a strange form of bewilderment and was at a loss as to what to do next. I decided to let all feelings come out as they were presenting themselves and to just self observe my reactions to the developing situation. I made several notes of what happened internally to write down more extensively later on how things were developing at the time, in order to be able to assist the mourning process taking its course and learning on the way as much as possible about my machine and myself in these extraordinary circumstances. With the benefit of hindsight I can say that in the long run this helped me go through a rather difficult period in my life not only unscathed but really a bit more integrated and matured.

I hope this helps a bit.
 
Very sorry to hear that LadyRodgers, you have my deepest sympathy. I'm sure your dad is in a more peaceful place now.

Take good care of yourself, and don't hesitate to share if you need to :hug2:
 
Hi LadyRodgers – my deepest condolences on your loss.

I think that at this time it is very important to be gentle with yourself. Grief is a natural process that unfolds in its own time, and should not be rushed. You will have 'good days' and 'bad days'. And don't let anyone try to tell you that you should be 'over it' or that it's 'time to move on'. No. Stay with your process at your own pace.

And as Alana says, I also think that pipe breathing and EE will be helpful.

:hug2:
 
Hi LadyRodgers,

May I offer my condolences to you. Many of us have also lost parents. We are all here if you need us.
:hug: :hug2: :hug:
 
My condolences and a big hug.

I think that one thing you can do is to tell us a little bit about your dad so that we are better able to share in the loss.
 
I'm sorry about your loss, LadyRogers. My sincere condolences.
As others have said, be gentle with yourself and do not hesitate to share here how you feel, if you feel like it.
Hugs to you. :hug2:
 
I may specially relate with your loss and sorrow, LadyRodgers, because my dad is right now dying from leukemia, with ups and downs and no hope of surviving more than a few days or weeks, at best a few months.

Here is an excerpt from Khalil Gibran, on death :

...what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?

And what is to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.

And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.

And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

Your mind\soul is aware of your dad, let him go gently...

Take care
 
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