DGF said:
Well you know chicken, veggies, red meat, pasta, shrimp, bread which I know isn't that great but I like it. Still it's been a long while since I had one. Then again I could have one tonight, I never know.
When was the last time you had one of these dreams?
From what you've written, it sounds as if it wasn't that long ago but because it's been such a regular part of your life, you've normalized it. If you're really interested in getting to the root of what's causing it, I would take some of the suggestions given. If you want to, take a look at some of the threads in the diet section, note that much of what we think is normal or okay really isn't. From what I understand, many, if not all, diseases or ailments we have are really symptoms due to digestion (the root cause) and other environmental factors.
Another thing, in your last two posts, your thoughts seem to run into each other - you begin writing about one thing and then switch subjects in the next sentence which can be a bit confusing. Please realize that you're not being put on the spot. This is the nature of this forum - to get to the bottom of what's going on. While there's nothing at all wrong with sharing experiences, more than likely people will be asked questions in order to suss out what the real issue is about.
It also sounds as if you're not getting much sleep, which is understandable under the circumstances but realize that it's crucial for physical and mental well being. There are threads available to you if you're interested in reading up on that as well.
In terms of what you related, that must have been an extremely traumatic experience you had as a child even if the gun wasn't pointed at you and I don't think it's coincidental that you were calling for your Mom in the dream you related. Also interesting that those particular dreams stopped when she died. However, this doesn't mean that whatever trauma you suffered was dealt with but rather may just have changed forms. The unconscious is an amazing thing and seeks to protect us when we are children so that something in us can survive. This may provide you with some clues as to what the current dreams mean.
These dreams of being held down and not being able to move may also hold roots in feeling trapped. Perhaps your fight/flight reaction is being triggered due to feeling paralyzed in your childhood and was never properly confronted. Can't say for sure but will say that you may want to consult with a therapist again if you ever feel the need to dig deeper. One book that may help is
In An Unspoken Voice by Peter a Levine, PhD.
Again, I do realize that you said you were just seeking to share your experience but I also write this for those who may be suffering the same things. It also seems that on some level you are searching for some answers. I think what's been mentioned come closer to the truth than what THC is feeding the general public.
Making these changes isn't always easy because one can tend to 'like' the feeling of being victimized or special and so will readily accept looking for answers outside of themselves. They may also be afraid of what they may find. Looking within can be more difficult because there begins the work of taking responsibility for ourselves and then doing something about it. Looking back on my own life, I wouldn't have it any other way.