Partner´s love in my life

[mkrnhr]

Hi Galaxy2000,
Things change very dramatically indeed.
Personally I could not advice you. But did you try to analyse the nature of your relationship with this woman? What about the jealousy issue? Personally, I view that sometimes the jealousy can hide some possesivity, leading to an energy transfer. You have to see. You are courted by two women, is that a reason for your doubts or is it more profound? IMHO, analysing personal relationships from the energetic point of view could reveal a lot about what is the nature of your relationship and how you force yourself to view it.

 

[anart]

Re: Partner´s love in my life

Hi Galaxy2000,
Things change very dramatically indeed.
Personally I could not advice you. But did you try to analyse the nature of your relationship with this woman? What about the jealousy issue? Personally, I view that sometimes the jealousy can hide some possesivity, leading to an energy transfer. You have to see. You are courted by two women, is that a reason for your doubts or is it more profound? IMHO, analysing personal relationships from the energetic point of view could reveal a lot about what is the nature of your relationship and how you force yourself to view it.

I would tend to agree. I'd also like to suggest that Galaxy's post seems to have the flavor of someone looking for a reason to end a relationship so he can enter into another one. I see no attempt whatsoever at Galaxy examining his own role in this or the fact that if someone one else is 'courting' him, then he is encouraging that while already involved with another woman. It can be no other way.

There is also the factor that Galaxy got involved with someone who believes in/relies on sorcery and predictions - when it seems merely being a reader of this forum, much less a member, would provide copious amounts of material to dissuade from such things.

In short, it appears that Galaxy wants his cake and to eat it too - and is using the forum for a reason to do just that. It also seems that until he actually takes responsibility for his own behavior/motivations/actions there cannot be a positive outcome in any relationship - much less one he's started while being involved with someone else. Of course, I could be completely mistaken.

 

[Galaxia2002]

Yeah mkrnhr, I know that what is behind jealousy is possesivity but as human I believe a little of this is normal because we are in SAS world. I consider myself few possessive, but this person have tried to wake up or induce this on me. My doubts exists before to know this other woman because until now I don´t feel 100% confortable (I don´t know is have to do with the loneliness I have lived before)
thanks for your reply

 

[mkrnhr]

Maybe the best thing to do IMHO is to take a rest (alone) in order to analyse this relationship as if you were outside, without any pressure. On a weekend take a long trip on bus or train, usually it cleans your view.

 

[Galaxia2002]

I would tend to agree. I'd also like to suggest that Galaxy's post seems to have the flavor of someone looking for a reason to end a relationship so he can enter into another one. I see no attempt whatsoever at Galaxy examining his own role in this or the fact that if someone one else is 'courting' him, then he is encouraging that while already involved with another woman. It can be no other way.

Yes, it could be that the fear of being alone is stopping me from to end the relationship with a person who doesn´t like me completely until this other people appeared. Could it be that this fact is drive me to decide to end the relationship. I think what is behind is fear to be alone. (please read the last paragraph)

There is also the factor that Galaxy got involved with someone who believes in/relies on sorcery and predictions - when it seems merely being a reader of this forum, much less a member, would provide copious amounts of material to dissuade from such things.

I´m not sure to understand well what you wrote in this paragraph anart because english is not my first language. dissuade me? or her? When this person started to talk about this I tried to explain her briefly what is behind of spiritual manipulation but she wasn´t receptive to hear that things. Also she is a person who doesn´t like to read a lot. From my part I don´t take seriously in the beginning what she had said but I was alert to a negative influence of her part because people who get involved in this practices could have things like astral parasites. From this moment I questioned myself about whether or not she was the right person for me, but how she was the first woman who I see ready for a relationship I decided to explore more time, and it was when this attack of jealousy and misunderstandings began. At that moment I already thought to left her but I thing well, why not work in construct a relation? are you to give in so fast? But I have always been apprehensive of this other part from this person because I don´t want to get involved in a depredatory relationship, and this is what I could see lately.
Also I can see that I get involved so fast with this person, she was pushed me for the time. with the time I started to see the bad things. I did´t have the capacity in that moment to see I was proceeding bad been in a hurry.

In short, it appears that Galaxy wants his cake and to eat it too - and is using the forum for a reason to do just that. It also seems that until he actually takes responsibility for his own behavior/motivations/actions there cannot be a positive outcome in any relationship - much less one he's started while being involved with someone else. Of course, I could be completely mistaken.

Yes it´s true I am like a kind in this area. I accept I am being irresponsible for my action. Again I think that big part of my situation have to do with fear to be alone and accept that I don´t know how to choose a person for me, and this is related a problem with narcisism. I have big problems to make decisions who commit me at long term, also in my job. I feel afraid in these situations and this come from my childhood. When I was 6- 8 years I am afraid to go to school, with terrific headaches and develope a chronic fear to people who talk strong and to be alone, I felt my mother abandon me in any moment. I was carried to psychologist and with theraphy I overcome part of this. I have done exercises from the gifted children drama book but I don´t know how to attack this problem with make a decisions of personal type, and I thing this is part of the problem I brought here. Generally life bring me situations like crossroads, this is a pattern in my life and when this is present i don´t know how to do. I´m an indecisive person and I postpone the take of decision until is too late, because I can´t ponder well the elements of one decision. May be I need to open a thread for my problems to make decisions

Thanks for your observations anart


Edit: spelling mistake

 

[anart]

I´m not sure to understand well what you wrote in this paragraph anart because english is not my first language. dissuade me? or her?

Well, since you are the person who has access to this information, then you are the person who would logically be dissuaded from becoming involved with people who are involved in such things. She will do what she will do. You seem to be motivated by 'getting' something you want, to the extent that you are ignoring the facts and the signs around you.

It also seems that you are thinking only of what you can get from these women - what they will give you - not being alone, etc. - and you've not considered what you can give to them, how they will benefit from you. This isn't uncommon, but as long as you look at relationships from the point of view of what they will do for you, you are feeding and nothing good will come from it - well, nothing good other than painful lessons, for you and the woman involved.

Perhaps it would be best to find what you are so desperately seeking within yourself (this will take Work) before going from woman to woman because you're 'afraid to be alone' - you're really doing nothing but using them to serve a purpose and that's no way to start a relationship with anyone. This is just my take on it, of course, and it might not apply.

 

[Galaxia2002]

I left her. We were talking a lot. I could see that she really love me, and she said that I had brought peace to her life, and hope of a better future in our life between other things she said. I couldn´t stop crying all night long because I felt so bad to have broken up her heart and my own, and at the same time I started to see the possitive in this relationship. I believe that the fact this person had said to me that she went to a sorcerer three times in the past didn´t let me relax and enjoy and give the best of me, and I was all the time warned of an attack, and I also saw pay more attention to negative things while I didn´t see the positives. I have doubts if I have taken the right decision.

I was attracted to this person but I fail to be in love with her, in fact I expected it to be emerging over time and maybe I was impatient.

 

[Voyageur]

Greetings Galaxia 2002,

Love and relationships; for what it’s worth, I have met so many people longing for meaningful relations and they try so hard at finding the right person that they admit to being blinded in some way. I believe the C’s discussed “Anticipation” as being a human mental trait that can help to lead one astray in so many arrays. Be open and truthful with yourself and a partner. Watch how media or family programming shapes your views, your expectations and if these are strong it may often affect/deny your feelings that lead to not finding the right person as they don’t fit your preconceived patterning. Watch how your chemicals fire in your being when interacting especially when disappointed and ask yourself why this is so, why is my thinking thus; notwithstanding your intuitive nature should something seem askew.
Please take this with a grain of salt – I am no authority at all, but it seems to be an observable historical human relationship complexity since the dawn of linear time.