Playing Sports and programs.

[Infiniteness]

Hi all,

I recently started playing volleyball and I enjoy it, takes my mind off of things and gets me some good exercise. But I was observing myself and others on the ground, and felt the predators mind and other programs come out, within me and others. I tried telling myself that its just a game, be a good sport and just play for enjoyment and not for self satisfaction, but the other peoples programs, kept influencing me to some extent. So I was thinking playing in such competitive sports brings out narcissistic behaviors and other programs, so would it be better to just do exercises then rather play such competitive sports? Or should we play with certain people only? Any other input would be great.

 

[Bobo08]

I think whether you play competitive sports or not, the programs are still there. The sports just bring them out so that you can see them better. In that sense, it can be a good opportunity for self observation. Moreover, if it helps you get some good exercise and be with your friends, that's even better. The key is to keep a handle on it so that you don't get too carried away (or know when you are carried away and should stop).

On the other hand, some people do have the tendency of being too competitive in sports. They may resort to tricks just to win or get upset when losing. I just try to avoid them if I see that happen.

Just my take, anyway.

 

[Turgon]

Is all this narcissistic behaviour going on during the game or afterwards, when everyone is changing, deciding to hang out afterwards and what not?

If it's during the game you might want to try this:

1. Focus solely on technique and how your body moves and reacts to game play. You'll become more aware of your body, exercising it better, and not focused so much on fleeting thoughts.

2. If there's a lot of narcissistic trash-talking, try and avoid too much eye contact with the people that are initiating it and keep your eyes focused and scanning as to what's going on around you. It gives the impression that your seriously focused in on the game (even if your not) to the point that the trash-talkers won't try and suck you in as much. (Maybe add in a serious look for believability ;) )

I've found both of these techniques helpful (during game-play) in avoiding the narcissistic thoughts and getting sucked into trash-talking.

 

[Menna]

By playing volleyball with others you will not only exercise the physical but by playing among people who show their programs you are also exercising your decrement and higher self by recognizing when these programs arise in others and not joining in. When you feel your own program start recognize the feeling and from there I believe once your recognize and are conscious of it you then have the power to stop it.

 

[Infiniteness]

I think whether you play competitive sports or not, the programs are still there. The sports just bring them out so that you can see them better. In that sense, it can be a good opportunity for self observation. Moreover, if it helps you get some good exercise and be with your friends, that's even better. The key is to keep a handle on it so that you don't get too carried away (or know when you are carried away and should stop).

On the other hand, some people do have the tendency of being too competitive in sports. They may resort to tricks just to win or get upset when losing. I just try to avoid them if I see that happen.

Just my take, anyway.

Hi Bobo08,

Yes that's true the programs are still there, just sleeping if not active and self observation with self remembrance will help one work out the programs. Good point about walking away if you get carried away or the other players are getting to competitive, Ill keep that in mind.

Is all this narcissistic behaviour going on during the game or afterwards, when everyone is changing, deciding to hang out afterwards and what not?

If it's during the game you might want to try this:

1. Focus solely on technique and how your body moves and reacts to game play. You'll become more aware of your body, exercising it better, and not focused so much on fleeting thoughts.

2. If there's a lot of narcissistic trash-talking, try and avoid too much eye contact with the people that are initiating it and keep your eyes focused and scanning as to what's going on around you. It gives the impression that your seriously focused in on the game (even if your not) to the point that the trash-talkers won't try and suck you in as much. (Maybe add in a serious look for believability ;) )

I've found both of these techniques helpful (during game-play) in avoiding the narcissistic thoughts and getting sucked into trash-talking.

Hi DanielS,

Mostly the narcissistic behavior is going on during the game and before it, just a little narcissistic behavior afterwords(just to let the other team know they lost) and then we started talking about other things. Really good pointers, but the "serious look" one, I would not due, because people get really anger over the littlest things because their so stressed out already, maybe I'm wrong.

By playing volleyball with others you will not only exercise the physical but by playing among people who show their programs you are also exercising your decrement and higher self by recognizing when these programs arise in others and not joining in. When you feel your own program start recognize the feeling and from there I believe once your recognize and are conscious of it you then have the power to stop it.

Hi Menna,

Your right its a good exercise with decrement of programs, after all that's why we here in the 3D to exercise are learning. I guess we cant just try and ignore everybody that is harmful to us, we have to work with them.

 

[Wunjo]

Great comments and thoughts! I find sports to be a great teacher for the work because it does put us in situations where we are in direct contact with other as well as our own very base programing. Over and over we are presented with the absurdity of the situation we are in, whether its because the little round ball didn't go into a net, or the birdy crossed over an arbitrary line. Over and over we are presented with the programs of being better than someone and how we attach to that, having someone be better than us and what we are attached to, or our attachment to fear of "making a mistake" in front of everybody. Realizing that we are these little creatures floating through space on a little blue marble while someone is frothing at the mouth over a missed free throw. Rejoice in our petty tyrants, they will help us face infinity. Besides its easier to calm someone down because you flubbed the match than his stock portfolio right?