Polar Couple question

[lilies]

There are a couple of people, who are resembling to each other so much outwardly, they could be doubles. As there is a gradation in outward look, how people resemble each other:
- No he or she definitely doesn't look like you
- He remotely resembles you, maybe
- Okay, but she only has some features similar to yours
- Yeah, he definitely resembles you. Are you his brother?
- Oh, my god! She could be your double, the resemblance is striking!
- Um.. are you two twins?

Could there be incarnated souls living now, who have an above spiritual gradation of Being toward whatever is the requirement to be The true polar opposite, a grade of resemblance from 0 to 10 to my true polar opposite with whom together we could live so close to a polar couple as possible? As the 'chance of finding' allows?

From 0/10 = definitely not my polar opposite, to finding 6/10 or 7/10 or 8/10 spouses, who could be very well the closest thing ever to my polar wife / polar husband and we could be the closest thing to a polar couple? Because the true polar one might be simply not available in this life.

 

[MusicMan]

Hello lilies, I think we have to be careful that we are not wishfully thinking about this.
Perhaps the Universe will present us with our perfect partner who will help us to learn the life lessons we need.
Just let it happen.

 

[Nienna]

Hello lilies, I think we have to be careful that we are not wishfully thinking about this.
Perhaps the Universe will present us with our perfect partner who will help us to learn the life lessons we need.
Just let it happen.

Agreed! Searching for a partner based on their looks is a bit ridiculous. What makes a person is what is inside of them. That's where one finds what is needed to decide whether that person is an ideal partner.

 

[Laura]

Hello lilies, I think we have to be careful that we are not wishfully thinking about this.
Perhaps the Universe will present us with our perfect partner who will help us to learn the life lessons we need.
Just let it happen.

Agreed! Searching for a partner based on their looks is a bit ridiculous. What makes a person is what is inside of them. That's where one finds what is needed to decide whether that person is an ideal partner.

Not only that, but consider the following factors:

The literature and observation/research suggest that the "Polar Couple" is EXTREMELY rare assuming it is even a valid concept.

If it is a valid concept, and rare, then one may hypothesize that it is rare for a reason.

The most logical possible reason would be that it is a manifestation of a "soul" that is too strong to manifest in a single body and thus "divides" in some fashion in order to incarnate.

Such a soul would probably have to have a good reason to do that.

If there was a good reason, it would most likely be as something like a debugging unit or systems buster intending to make adjustments in a system gone wrong.

If that were the case, then the system itself (or its operators) might wish to put obstacles in the way of the souls finding each other while in the body...

And that might lead to the creation of physical bodies that exactly mirror the incarnational body of one or both of the polar souls with the intention of bogging them down in the soup, so to say.

If that is the case, looking for a polar person by physical appearance (if one has the hubris to even think that one is part of such a dynamic), would be the wrong thing to do.

Obviously, other speculative scenarios could be outlined, as I have just done, but this one seems most likely to me.

 

[lilies]

Oh, the question was not searching by physical resemblance, but by soul-resemblance in other souled people. Can a person be found who's soul has a resemblance to the other soul-half of the polar Being.

Can souls have a likeness in their Being or spiritual composition? To serve as a substitute to the polar opposite, when the polar opposite is not available for some reason, like early death, coma, accident, prison, etc..

But:
Laura's answer makes it clear that if a polar soul chooses to incarnate, then it is incarnating for a reason in two bodies so they can find each other in life. That is the goal. So the other half is available, only great obstacles must be surmounted for the two people to find each other.


For other people, who incarnated in one single soul - no polar opposite -, there is apparently a possibility to find a souled partner, who is near the ideal match soul-quest-wise. If 50% of humanity has a soul, its relatively easy to find a souled other, but its harder to find a souled partner, who is a good fit: the couple complements each other, have similar goals and better energy together, can achieve more spiritually, have deeper understanding, having largely one aim.

I guess the last paragraph was my question.

 

[Alada]

Oh, the question was not searching by physical resemblance, but by soul-resemblance in other souled people. Can a person be found who's soul has a resemblance to the other soul-half of the polar Being.

Well that is not the way the post read at all, you were writing about physical appearance, if not why write this:

There are a couple of people, who are resembling to each other so much outwardly, they could be doubles. As there is a gradation in outward look, how people resemble each other:
- No he or she definitely doesn't look like you
- He remotely resembles you, maybe
- Okay, but she only has some features similar to yours
- Yeah, he definitely resembles you. Are you his brother?
- Oh, my god! She could be your double, the resemblance is striking!
- Um.. are you two twins?

Could there be incarnated souls living now, who have an above spiritual gradation of Being toward whatever is the requirement to be The true polar opposite, a grade of resemblance from 0 to 10 to my true polar opposite with whom together we could live so close to a polar couple as possible? As the 'chance of finding' allows?

From 0/10 = definitely not my polar opposite, to finding 6/10 or 7/10 or 8/10 spouses, who could be very well the closest thing ever to my polar wife / polar husband and we could be the closest thing to a polar couple? Because the true polar one might be simply not available in this life.

So then stating "Oh, the question was not searching by physical resemblance" doesn’t make sense. I don’t buy it.

I’d say as Laura has outlined, the question of polar opposites concerns something vanishingly rare. We’re far better off working on ourselves and learning how to recognise ourselves better, first, before anything else I think.

 

[lilies]

Oh, the question was not searching by physical resemblance, but by soul-resemblance in other souled people. Can a person be found who's soul has a resemblance to the other soul-half of the polar Being.

Well that is not the way the post read at all, you were writing about physical appearance, if not why write this:

There are a couple of people, who are resembling to each other so much outwardly, they could be doubles. As there is a gradation in outward look, how people resemble each other:
- No he or she definitely doesn't look like you
- He remotely resembles you, maybe
- Okay, but she only has some features similar to yours
- Yeah, he definitely resembles you. Are you his brother?
- Oh, my god! She could be your double, the resemblance is striking!
- Um.. are you two twins?

Could there be incarnated souls living now, who have an above spiritual gradation of Being toward whatever is the requirement to be The true polar opposite, a grade of resemblance from 0 to 10 to my true polar opposite with whom together we could live so close to a polar couple as possible? As the 'chance of finding' allows?

From 0/10 = definitely not my polar opposite, to finding 6/10 or 7/10 or 8/10 spouses, who could be very well the closest thing ever to my polar wife / polar husband and we could be the closest thing to a polar couple? Because the true polar one might be simply not available in this life.

So then stating "Oh, the question was not searching by physical resemblance" doesn’t make sense. I don’t buy it.

I ain't selling anything. The polar couple was on my mind and I gave the phenomenon 10/10 points in power, meaning they match perfectly, have deepest understanding of each other and can achieve most in life. Then because the polar couple is so rare, I pondered further, is there a possibility that two souled people become a couple and they complement each other so well that their relationship _resembles_ that of the polar couple _to an extent_, but of course not so intense in "power". Less intense, less matching than a polar couple and to define the intensity, power and understanding between the two people I thought of giving them a 9/10, 8/10 points.

Think about a staircase with 10 steps. Souled couples standing on each step and each step represents intensity, understanding, power of relationship. The polar couple stands on top on the 10th step of 10. A couple stands right below them [9th step of the 10], then on the bottom step stands a couple [1/10] and there are couples in between them with their relationship having a gradation, intensity, understanding, power, signified by the steps.

0/10 I thought of being a dysfunctional marriage.

Then, on my mind was: Is there a possibility that I can find someone with whom we could make a couple with a gradation preferably between 1/10 and 7/10?

I’d say as Laura has outlined, the question of polar opposites concerns something vanishingly rare. We’re far better off working on ourselves and learning how to recognise ourselves better, first, before anything else I think.

Matching souls could mean then that both members of the couple are willing to work on themselves and are willing to learn how to recognize themselves better. Not doing it alone, but as a couple. That was on my mind.

I was just trying to search for words or a term for _matching souls_ and I only could think of trying to explain, describe a better match with above example of physical resemblance, meaning the soul quality, naturally matching soul features. So if either of the two is outside of the Work, he or she can pick it up easily, because of being a natural [in talent in grasping in spiritual work]. That was the question on my mind. Is a match like that of the polar couple but to lesser extent possible? I would be happy to find someone with a 3/10 or 5/10 match in the staircase example. Spouse doesn't even need be on same staircase step, just close enough. That was on my mind.

 

[shellycheval]

In 3D our existence here the purpose is to learn the lessons needed to move on to the next higher level of soul progression, so we engage in a variety of relationships to get our earthly needs met and to provide opportunities for learning those lessons--which are usually stressful experiences. I think what the other's advice is trying to say is that our best bet for finding a compatible partner is this life is to stop looking for one and put the focus on DOING The Work (read In search of the miraculous, the Wave etc) which requires intensive self-monitoring and networking with others on the same path. My understanding is focusing outwardly and searching for someone to meet your needs is a surefire way to meet only people who will cause great stress (but GOOD LESSONS!) in your life. It appears better to focus on your own growth and improvement/awareness/knowledge. When others come into your life/cross your path you will be better enabled to choose a partner at the time. The goal is to seek your authentic self first, not another--others will come when the time (and you) are right.

 

[lilies]

In 3D our existence here the purpose is to learn the lessons needed to move on to the next higher level of soul progression, so we engage in a variety of relationships to get our earthly needs met and to provide opportunities for learning those lessons--which are usually stressful experiences. I think what the other's advice is trying to say is that our best bet for finding a compatible partner is this life is to stop looking for one and put the focus on DOING The Work (read In search of the miraculous, the Wave etc) which requires intensive self-monitoring and networking with others on the same path. My understanding is focusing outwardly and searching for someone to meet your needs is a surefire way to meet only people who will cause great stress (but GOOD LESSONS!) in your life. It appears better to focus on your own growth and improvement/awareness/knowledge. When others come into your life/cross your path you will be better enabled to choose a partner at the time. The goal is to seek your authentic self first, not another--others will come when the time (and you) are right.

Thank You All for your excellent insights! You All gave plenty of food for thought that I need to ponder, process and understand. I have nothing more to add at this time.

 

[angelburst29]

Thank You All for your excellent insights! You All gave plenty of food for thought that I need to ponder, process and understand. I have nothing more to add at this time.

You give the impression ... You just built a solid wall? Maybe, when you get around to actually pondering and processing the helpful information and guidance given, you'll have a better "understanding" of the wisdom you were given? It's always best - to keep an open mind - when dealing with hypothetical questions and what variables involved might represent.