Stop Being Nice to a Narcissist—Do THIS Instead | Jordan Peterson Motivational Speech

[loreta]

We are far away to be perfect, me the first.

 

[Martina]

We are far away to be perfect, me the first.

Me even more but the good thing is, we can see that we need to work upon something to improve ourselves and narcissists see themselves as perfect just as they are and demand worshipping. Like my cat. He only cuddles with me when he wants food. But I can live with that. It's just, some humans are like cats.

 

[Natus Videre]

We are far away to be perfect, me the first.

We are perfectly imperfect.

 

[Martina]

Guys, I just wish younger people wouldn't have to go through some things I did. When you care about someone, you wish to protect them. I had to explain my son that how his father was treating me wasn't how people should behave and I don't know what consequences will this exposure to such behaviour have on my son. That's why I don't recommend staying too long with someone who treats you bad, but I couldn't leave due to financial situation. I don't feel hate or resentment or anything negative but just to give one example. My ex cracked my front teeth many years ago while we were still on college, my son was around 3 years old then. I was talking about my seminar and the guy thought it was so boring that when I was talking, he was trying to throw rocks in my mouth and he succeeded and part of my front 2 teeth crumbled and I had broken teeth for many years. I thought that was an accident, but he told me some years ago how I was rambling some boring stuff and he decided to throw small rocks in my mouth for fun and he was laughing while saying that. So that's an example that people like that really behave like children. To fix my teeth, I went to a dental surgery last year and I lost 10 kilos because I couldn't use my new teeth immediately and now I'm underweight but I have fixed teeth and I don't bite people with them. I don't want people to suffer uneccessary if not needed.

 

[Breo]

One of the things that might be helpful now to stay on track and become consistent again - within a narcissist relationship/encounter - could be to remember: our peace, health and self worth isn’t up for debate. To hold on tightly to our true self and letting go again and again of toxicity is part of it, osit.

 

[Alejo]

I had to explain my son that how his father was treating me wasn't how people should behave and I don't know what consequences will this exposure to such behaviour have on my son.

I am sorry you went through that, and what impact it will have on your son, it's going to be difficult to tell. However, knowledge protects, and that is what you've done, not just sharing your words but your life experience. I think that gives some purpose and meaning to your suffering, and hopefully to that of everyone who has ever been in such a terrible situation, it's difficult to say but sometimes navigating through hell is the only way to learn it exists.

 

[heinrich]

Hmm, I don't understand very much your statement, maybe because I am not English speaker. I think it's important to listen to J. Peterson on the subject. Roughly speaking, he defines what a narcissist is, and how to act with him so as not to suffer. His advice is that we must absolutely not react emotionally to the narcissist's attacks. That is to say, the narcissist will never change, and that the one who must change is the one who is stuck with him. He also talks about the challenges of this change and how to protect oneself from the narcissist. It is not an easy task because the narcissist is very manipulative and the one who lives with him has either been manipulated for many years and suffers the consequences of this person who has power and especially J. Peterson insists that a narcissist does not think like us, has no remorse, does not feel guilty, does not realize the harm he can do, has no regrets, does not question himself. That's pretty much the bottom line for this video, which is definitely worth watching even if you don't live with a narcissistic person.

thyou for the conversion of the spoken word into text. i can only agree, and it did take me less than a minute to get the summary of this 25 minutes video.
I HATE VIDEOS WHICH ONLY EXIST TO FLATTER THE EGOS OF THE SPEAKER, THE CAMERAMAN, THE ASSISTANTS, PUB FOR YT - which i despise - AND ALL THE OTHER STUPID MANIPULATIONS AND MANIPULATORS. voilà.
making people watch videos only serves to WASTE THEIR TIME. revoilà

 

[loreta]

thyou for the conversion of the spoken word into text. i can only agree, and it did take me less than a minute to get the summary of this 25 minutes video.
I HATE VIDEOS WHICH ONLY EXIST TO FLATTER THE EGOS OF THE SPEAKER, THE CAMERAMAN, THE ASSISTANTS, PUB FOR YT - which i despise - AND ALL THE OTHER STUPID MANIPULATIONS AND MANIPULATORS. voilà.
making people watch videos only serves to WASTE THEIR TIME. revoilà

But you are not oblige to look at the video, me I listen that's all.

 

[heinrich]

But you are not oblige to look at the video, me I listen that's all.

oui, but listening takes the same time as looking...

 

[Deliverance]

But you are not oblige to look at the video, me I listen that's all.

Sometimes there are things that we absolutely must hear...

Thank you loreta, it was the right time for me

 

[Breo]

thyou for the conversion of the spoken word into text. i can only agree, and it did take me less than a minute to get the summary of this 25 minutes video.
I HATE VIDEOS WHICH ONLY EXIST TO FLATTER THE EGOS OF THE SPEAKER, THE CAMERAMAN, THE ASSISTANTS, PUB FOR YT - which i despise - AND ALL THE OTHER STUPID MANIPULATIONS AND MANIPULATORS. voilà.
making people watch videos only serves to WASTE THEIR TIME. revoilà

I think it would be more appropriate to discuss what you refer to in an according thread, where eg. media manipulation is the topic.
Here in this thread, where Loreta, also Martina and others share helpful links, their pains and experiences, what they are/were going through, IMO, it is a matter of respect not to deviate from the originial topic, which is: Stop being nice to a Narcissist.

 

[Alejo]

oui, but listening takes the same time as looking...

well, then don't watch or listen to the video. I think Loreta shared it because she found dit compelling and valuable enough and thought others might benefit from listening to it, but Loreta wasn't suggesting anyone should watch it, only that they could, if they wanted to.

 

[SlipNet]

It's a timely item to share. In our world there are people who just seemed to be there to test our patience, even our will. I've had to deal with some furious ego-driven whackos in my University days in particular. They were like anarchic children, slaves to their inner drives with next to no restraint in crucial episodes in time. For some reason I was always the designated mediator figure to bring two rancorous individuals to peace after another draining event in our student house back in 1995-6. I moved out of that place 6 months into a 1 year lease. To salvage my energy and sanity I chose to take my final year in Uni living alone in a tiny North London bedsit, and it was blissful solitude, like manna from heaven for my tired and weary soul after living with 2 egomaniacs. I tried being the nice guy and ended up choosing not to associate with either of them. For the record both men are now very successful professionals today, I know that much. One is an academic and the other a documentary maker I believe. I hope they've grown up from those times, that's for sure.

So thank you @loreta for sharing a vital bit of worldly wisdom. I miss the old style Peterson, before he got ensnared by the slimy snakes of Zionism and the Daily Wire. For a few years back then he was a breath of fresh air. Now, sadly, he is a fetid stench that hangs in the air of our media landscape. A tragic lost man these days, and he could have been a real ally in these dark times.

 

[palestine]

Thank you @loreta for endorsing Jordan Peterson, a great person to me who has been part of my personal journey. I have, inside, a Peterson, a teacher, and all the recent wrong sayings that he did recently don't overcome the inner teacher! I find it positive, and it indicates (to me) that his teachings may have been quite valid.

The C's have clearly stated that he has been through a very difficult event during a medical procedure ("4D STS programming") and we have been noticing a completely different person, right after. But there is an explanation, and I don't believe that such a great guy would actually have lost all and everything.

In a will to honour the serious teacher, here are some pictures of him that I like:





The above is very relevant; Lobaczewski stated that the natural world view was missing a basic necessary focus on "evil" - be it at least one concept or two. Lobaczewski states that without it, the natural world view is thus docked on "emotion & the pursuit of happiness", for navigation - like a default mode. And here we have Jordan Peterson stating that the pursuit of happiness is just an insufficient principle! That's a rock solid philosophy.

This is the Jordan Peterson who I like:



I had those two pictures of him in my folders, that I enjoy much:




My best feelings go to Sir Peterson!