Struggle

[Scheherazade]

Thank you all for your answers!

As to your oldest child, if he/she is approaching adolescence, there are some good articles out there on how a paleo/ketogenic diet can prevent acne. If only I'd know that when I was thirteen! I'd have been on it immediately, never mind all the other benefits. Find whatever motivates! :)

Some links:

http://www.acneeinstein.com/low-carb-diet-acne/

http://paleoforwomen.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-acne-in-3000-words/

Thank you herodancer, he is 12, and everything goes to stimulate his curiosity, although he doesn't have acne yet, I'll keep the links at hand.

My 72-year mother moved in with me a year ago. Her diet was the typical standard American diet (SAD). And my diet is paleo/keto.

Now, after a year of me leading by example (without any preaching), my mother is pretty much paleo. Not 100% and not perfect, but she's lost around 25 pounds and has no desire to go back to the SAD diet. And she is quiet happy with the results.

Hang in there. All my best to you.

Thank you Moonbird, all the best to your mom.

I'm more or less in the same situation, with a teenager who is awake and a companion who has difficulties to understand.
I'm not yet on Keto diet stage but what I do for idees, I reserve discussions with my child, there are some topics I only speek with him.
For health, I apply to myself natural medicine in which I believe, sometimes they follow me and are surprised in the results. Things change.
I think everyone has to make his own way, I do not force but I launch tracks.
What I've remarked is that since I myself changed they have also progressed, at their own pace, but it's a step forward.

Go ahead

Thank you Plume, yes, I'm going to have the conversations with my child more privately, although I think a bit weird about that, it almost feel like it is a 'tabu'.

 

[bianca etezete]

dear Scheherazade

thank you for sharing your thoughts - it is literally funny how much the images look alike here and there. I also found myself in the situation "what's the right thing to do?" with my partner and my son. Both don't follow "my" changed way of diet - and i know i cannot expect them to do so.

Not preaching is hard for me. Especially with my son, who seems to crave baked things and sugary drinks even more since these things aren't around anymore. Or maybe it's just my renewed focus on the topic, that changes my perception. Or both. Or none of these things. Lol. A kiss to Gödel!

I can only agree that one should act (as a parent) with love and as a model. I give to my family the food of which i think it is the most healthy nutrition we can get - and leave it to them to add their carbs of their choice (I'm not providing it). [Mostly they are to lazy... and it already smells so good... ;) ]

with all the other stuff - it has taken a long time for my partner to accept, that I'm interested in such things like the C's, working on ones self, learning and growing. Yesterday he mentioned for the first time that he is thinking about joining yoga class (I didn't say anything in this direction), and here and there i can trace my points in his arguments with others.

What I mean is: I very often thought maybe it's only me here who is extremely challenged with patience, but reducing expectations and leaving others the air of "taking time is OK" and NOT preaching works fine for me.

Do I ask myself whether my partner is slowing down my progress? Yes i do. Do I have an answer? No. Because sometimes I think maybe he's just the right person for me to develope these qualities. But sometimes it is hard - answering his questions (he has a lot of them, plus a somewhat grumpy allday mood) which can sometimes also be posed to me in a way that makes me think of a cellar room with a desk and a stool and a bright light right into my face...

Reactions generally are quite extreme, even though i am not even in ketosis. From all sides it seems to be a non stop barrage of common sense narrative concerning food. "How can you eat meat?" "If you don't eat bread or noodles, what do you eat?" "Isn't ketosis an emergency metabolism/severe illness?" "What do you mean, Paleo... Do you want us to live in caves again?" And every time I start to explain, answer the questions, sharing knowledge about food and nutrients and water and stuff, someone else feels bad somehow. Bad because I tell this person basically what he's doing wrong with food. And I realized that there is no way to avoid that. I don't tell anyone "You are doing this or that wrong" or "You should eat this or that",no, I give just the information: This or that causes or effects or provokes whatever effect in our body. And this leads to something else. Like that. If they get too aggressive I leave. And this is maybe all I can do, answer when asked. (besides making my knowledge into my profession by educating and skilling myself further).

I think this is all for us to grow.

greetz and ears up!

 

[Scheherazade]

Do I ask myself whether my partner is slowing down my progress? Yes i do. Do I have an answer? No. Because sometimes I think maybe he's just the right person for me to develope these qualities.

Thank you etezete, for your comment. I have thinked the same as you, my partner 'resistance' is a personal chalenge. As Laura said:

The more you can BE, the more you OUGHT to be there for others in the ways they ask for.

This phrase says so much, and helped me a lot to clarify my thoughts. I think it is possible to achieve a balance.

 

[MusicMan]

Scheherazade, you might try to be strong whilst making your weekly purchases at the market, and aim to fill your larder with the ingredients required for the Paleo/Keto living.
There may be some items which you might refuse to purchase, or accidentally 'forget'.
Don't worry, I need to do this also.