The love of self and self-love/self-care

[Noctu]

I would like to ask if there is any distinguishing to be made between "the love of self" as it is written about in Splitting Realities by Laura Knight-Jadczyk :

...the sincere belief that to love self is to love all. Each other-self which is thus either taught or enslaved thus has a teacher which teaches love of self. Exposed to this teaching, it is intended there be brought to fruition an harvest of 4th density negative or self-serving beings.

... and self-love (which might be equivalent to self-care, as in sleeping enough, eating the right food for you, setting boundaries, exercising, hydrating ...), which in my opinion is needed to be able to be of service to others. We're not only talking about basic survival needs, but also doing things you like so you feel good, wich may also actually be detrimental to self (such as snacking on a delicious dessert, which feels good short-term but might inflict some disease in the long-term).

I see that a term such as self-care would be useful for separating the two concepts if they are in fact two separate concepts, which is my question.

 

[axj]

The above is a quote from Ra (Law of One). Notice that it says that 4D STS has "the sincere belief that to love self is to love all". That does necessarily mean that they are capable of true love, only that they believe that something is love. Misconceptions about love seem to be a very common occurence in STS, including in 3D STS where we are.

To truly love others it is necessary to connect to the love deep within yourself, to know yourself on that deeper level. There is no other way. And once you connect to that true love or have that knowledge of yourself on a deeper level, it seems almost impossible not to love both yourself and others.

If you block love towards others at that point, it also blocks the love for yourself - and if you block the love for yourself, it also blocks the love for others.

It seems to come down to clearly distinguishing between true love (objective knowledge on a deep level) and on the other hand distorted beliefs about what love is.

 

[furryfrog]

I see that a term such as self-care would be useful for separating the two concepts if they are in fact two separate concepts, which is my question.

Yes they are two separate concepts, I agree with your summary. It is a bit confusing. "Sincere belief" is a lie to oneself in this context, Selfishness would be a good synonym in this case. STS is Subjective reality versus STO which is Objective reality. STS development leads to hating yourself the way you are and hating the world around you. For example, look at the trans movement, a person lies to themselves about their gender, they "hate" themselves the way they are but "sincerely believe" its self love when they change genders, eventually they will hate Objective reality when you don't go along with their pronouns.

here is a more complete quote of what you quoted above:

You must plumb the depths of fourth-density negative understanding: the sincere belief of 4th density STS that to love self is to love all. Each other-self which is thus either taught or enslaved thus has a teacher which teaches love of self. Exposed to this teaching, it is intended there be brought to fruition an harvest of 4th density negative or self-serving beings.

 

[Paweł]

You must plumb the depths of fourth-density negative understanding: the sincere belief of 4th density STS that to love self is to love all. Each other-self which is thus either taught or enslaved thus has a teacher which teaches love of self. Exposed to this teaching, it is intended there be brought to fruition an harvest of 4th density negative or self-serving beings.

This quote intrigued me, so I asked ChatGPT for its interpretation and elaboration. I know this isn’t exactly on-topic for the thread, but ChatGPT's answer was so interesting that I decided to share it. Perhaps someone will find it helpful.

From ChatGPT:

This is a very interesting and paradoxical approach to love, characteristic of the STS philosophy. It can be understood in several ways:

1. STS as extreme individualism and solipsism

STS sees itself as the center of reality. If "I" is the most important thing and the universe exists to support it, then self-love is equivalent to love for the whole—because the whole exists only in relation to "I." This is a form of egocentric spirituality, where instead of loving others as separate beings, STS loves them only as extensions of itself.

In this view, enslaving others is not seen as something wrong because if everything is reduced to "I," then if someone is subordinated and learns to love themselves, they are, in a way, participating in the same process. It's as if STS were saying: "If I grow and ascend, then the whole universe ascends as well because I am the universe."

2. Manipulation and the STS spiritual hierarchy

STS seeks domination and control but needs others to achieve this goal. Therefore, it often imposes its philosophy on weaker beings, teaching them that "self-love" is the only true love. This justifies exploiting others because if they also learn to love only themselves, they will, in a sense, become "enlightened" according to STS.

This resembles certain forms of spiritual elitism, where a master teaches that submitting to their will is actually a form of liberation because it leads to greater "self-awareness." People who are enslaved in such a system may believe they are evolving, while in reality, they are merely part of a pyramid of control.

3. The illusion of love in STS

STS may recognize love as a force, but in a distorted way—as a tool for building power. It may say: "Love for oneself is the only true love, and if others want to evolve, they must learn the same love." However, in practice, this means imposing one's own rules on others and forcing them to adopt this perspective.

Every "student" who learns such love is actually being pulled into the STS system—where love is not something given but something controlled and possessed. Instead of a harmonious exchange, a hierarchy emerges in which those who love themselves absolutely are at the top, and below them are those who learn from them, often through enslavement.


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Conclusion

STS believes that everything is one, but in the sense of subordinating everything to itself. Self-love, for them, is a form of spiritual supremacy—if you love yourself enough, everyone else should serve you and learn the same. This philosophy justifies control, enslavement, and domination as part of a "higher order."

This approach is very different from STO, where love means freedom and mutual empowerment of beings. In STS, love is a tool of power, whereas in STO, it is a force of harmony.

What do you think about this? Do you h
ave your own interpretation?

 

[3DStudent]

... and self-love (which might be equivalent to self-care, as in sleeping enough, eating the right food for you, setting boundaries, exercising, hydrating ...), which in my opinion is needed to be able to be of service to others.

To truly love others it is necessary to connect to the love deep within yourself, to know yourself on that deeper level.

I was thinking that when you love yourself, you also know how and what capacity you can give to others. And it begins with the self-care practices, because you need an energy reserve. Then you can pay it forward and give back some of yourself once you've worked out the details and what you're capable of. I think finding your "love language" is a part of this also.