Things I learned in Florida

11) Iced tea is appropriate for all meals, and you start drinking it when you're two.

domi, soo true, and it should be SWEET-TEA.

And, when going to WALLIEworld, one is interested in parking in the shade and not how close ones is to the entrance.
 
Now, with everything that has been said about it, allow me to share my memories, extracted from my book, Amazing Grace:

The Farm

Everyone in the family called it The Farm with capital letters. An old Florida Cracker style farmhouse already a century old when my grandparents bought it in the Great Depression of the 1930s, it came with eleven acres, a tidal spring or "bayhead," and half a dozen huge grafted pecan trees of several varieties.

The Farm was situated nearly three miles from the nearest neighbor, on a stretch of the Old Dixie Highway bypassed when the new Highway 19 was built a mile or so to the east. The house faced the Gulf of Mexico with a shaded front porch a hundred yards away from the lime rock road. On the opposite side of the road a broad expanse of tidal flats stretched away to the Gulf for about a mile, dotted by little islets of cabbage palms and cedar trees and palmettos. It was a setting entirely appropriate for a brontosaurus to graze.

The bootleggers of Prohibition times ran their illicit trade along the Old Dixie Highway. About five miles to the north of The Farm was a little town called Aripeka, named (supposedly) after a semi-legendary Indian chief. Aripeka is "The Town Time Forgot".

A little bit north of Aripeka once stood an elegant resort, raised up in the middle of nowhere, which extended regular hospitality to such luminaries as the great Babe Ruth and Scarface Al Capone.

The Farm was the greenest and lushest place I have ever seen. Along with pecan trees, there were several tall cedar trees, cabbage palms, a camphor tree, orange and tangerine trees, fig and pear trees, and a wide variety of semi-tropical shrubs scattered over three acres of thick green lawn. Climbing roses and honeysuckle grew up a big trellis on one side of the porch, and wisteria meandered on another trellis to the north of the house.

The house had no electricity or indoor plumbing, but there was an outhouse to the back of the barn, and a big iron hand pump in the backyard. The whole place, except for the long front drive, was surrounded by pine woods. It was, quite literally, paradise.

My grandparents bought the house as a vacation home, and it was furnished with no longer stylish, too-treasured-to-be-thrown-away antiques and cast off furniture from various family households. The cupboards were stocked with stacks of odd dishes from many times and places, and a special shelf held the row of kerosene lamps always ready for duty.

The key was hidden on a rafter on the back porch, and if you used anything in the house, you replaced it and you always left it cleaner than when you arrived.

For years, various relatives and friends of the family had enjoyed the use of The Farm, and with all the coming and going, and an occasional hired helper, a large garden was kept year after year in the black muck adjacent to the bay-head in the back. The Gulf high tide pushed through the porous lime-rock against the shallow aquifer, and fresh groundwater rose and watered the garden faithfully twice a day. Grandpa kept his garden like his mind, carefully planned and geometric, growing excruciatingly straight beds of highly prolific things like okra and squash. Rutabagas grew big as pumpkins and collards big as palm fronds. Grandma was able to indulge her obsession for "putting food by" and canned endless bushels of pickles, corn, peas, peas, beans, beets and more.

The "bayhead" was a slow freshwater spring which rose and descended with the tides also. When Grandpa waded in to clean it out, intending to make a fish pool and lily pond, he found an old polished chunk of limestone with a name and two dates carved into it. It was obviously a gravestone. The bayhead was thereafter allowed to grow wild. This became for the kids, my brother, cousins and myself, a challenge to our courage, a place of mystery and foreboding known as "The Spring!" The gravestone was placed as a curio on the hearth in front of the fireplace, joining a gigantic turtle shell big enough to cover the entire fireplace opening.

Rattlesnake skins from "big ones" killed by Grandpa hung on either side of the door to the dining room. The still attached rattles rustled slightly every time you walked through that door, whispering softly "watch out!"

There were, of course, some little drawbacks to the place: the above-mentioned rattlesnakes, cottonmouth moccasins, and mosquitoes. Grandpa solved the mosquito problem to some extent by installing screens on all the windows, and screening in the porch, but life with mosquitoes is just something that a person learns to deal with in Florida.

Sitting on the front porch in the expansive shade of those massive old pecan trees, listening to the rustling of the cabbage palms and the droning of mosquitoes outside the screen, watching the sun descend the last quadrant of the sky to set behind the distant, silhouetted bayheads, is a memory of inexpressible poignancy. Sometimes an entire day would pass without the sound of a single automobile. And if we heard a car in the distance, it was usually someone we knew on their way to The Farm.

The Old Dixie between the Farm and Aripeka was empty of any other dwelling. There had been a couple other houses up the road, old farmsteads still in use during Prohibition, but they had long since burned down.

At the time we moved to The Farm, the "parent house" still stood about 300 yards to the south. The Farm had been built by the owner of this larger house as a wedding gift for one of his children. The big house was a rather grand plantation-type affair with a detached kitchen connected by a covered walkway. It was a glorious and mysterious place. We spent many days wandering slowly through it, savoring the ghostly atmosphere, straining to catch the echoes of life and laughter that must have permeated its walls. But we heard only the rustling palms, droning insects, and the calling of an occasional distant bird. The grounds surrounding the house always seemed to be cloaked in a preternatural stillness that added to the thrill of exploration.

Later on, when we were no longer living at the Farm, the big house burned to the ground. I felt deeply the loss of its history and meaning and essence. In later years, I heard rumors of the wild boys who bragged about burning that gracious old home. I was sickened and sad. What poverty of soul must exist in those who would derive satisfaction from such wanton destruction?

Because of the machinations of my mother, I was forced to sell The Farm in1989. It broke my heart. But, it's just as well. Nowadays, the sunset view from the porch is blocked by nearly a mile of identical houses built on man-made canals carved out of the prehistoric salt marsh. The honking of horns, squealing of tires, the drone and stench of a sewage treatment plant, have replaced the rustle of cabbage palm, buzz of insects and silence of that clean, balmy air we breathed so long ago. Even the "greenness" of the place has faded. But, for the time we were there, it seemed to have the same effect on me that it had on all the other living things there: growth.

The Old Dixie Highway was, for a while, a time warp - frozen by the spirits of bygone days - some gracious and beautiful - some violent and twisted - some narrow, like the road where they lived and moved. The whippoorwill no longer sings at my grandfather's Farm and the woods where we once hiked and hunted is a golf course now. U.S. Highway19 is the world's longest parking lot. Take a number and get in line!

Time flows on.

The house was rather primitive. We had only the fireplace for heat, and an old gas range in the kitchen that required bottled gas on a regular basis, but after all of the events of the past years, getting settled down in the old house was truly like coming home. It was familiar. Every object settled in its precisely correct place according to the designs of my grandfather. A barn full of interesting items waited to be explored: an old "woody" station wagon, a big diesel engine. The tool shed held sets of tools for every design and purpose. The storage shed contained an old Victrola, boxes of magazines from the 20's and 30’s, trunks full of old clothes, and jar after jar of old coins among the treasures.

There were also boxes of books.
 
Laura said:
It's all true: you think the spiders are bad? Heck, I protected them because they had to get REALLY big to eat the giant, flying cockroaches!

Snakes, alligators, mosquitoes, heat, humidity, flat landscape, neon sky... really, a strange place to grow up.


My Hubby was working in Miami for about a year or so, and I'd go visit him regularly. I never saw any large spiders or snakes of any kind. My Hubby was very strict where I could and couldn't go, and we did go on several jaunts to Key West to go snorkeling, and see a few sights. But he never once let me bush whack, something I've always done from childhood. :rolleyes: It was something I agreed to, since I'm allergic to stings of all kinds. In hindsight its a good thing I stuck close.
 
Sitting here in the record-breaking-more-snow-than-ever-recorded in the Greater Washington D.C. area, reading these Florida notes warms my heart if not my feet. The Gulf coast of Florida is my “Southern Home,” having lived in Safety Harbor, Clearwater, and Panama City on and off for years, and visited family and friends in these areas more times than I can count. Old Florida was still evident when I began going there in 1972. Citrus tree blossoms still scented the air when the planes depressurized at Tampa International, as orange and grapefruit groves where everywhere behind the budding suburbs and trailer parks. Traffic on Gulf to Bay highway was still navigable on the way to sleepy Clearwater Beach and its glorious pier that stretched to the setting sun. Moss hung from the twisted live oak trees and, being ignorant Yankees, we stuffed our tourist’s suitcases with it to show the folks back home in the “Great White North,” not realizing that each handful of moss was a thriving ecosystem of bugs and creatures that we found crawling through our clothes and memorabilia when we returned home.

Mandalay Beach and Caladesi Island remain my favorite beaches in Florida. Although I had been around the large inland seas with their own tides and beaches in Michigan, the white sugar sands and bright aqua waters were an enchanting change from the brooding brown sands and gray waters and harshness of the Northern Great Lakes. As youths in the pre “Jaws” era, we would swim by moonlight on Mandalay, skinning-dipping with the glowing phosphorous dripping off our skin that we would bake the next day under the Gulf sun, brown pelicans, seagulls, and sandpipers for company.

Safety Harbor was just that—a quiet village between Tampa and Clearwater that I lived in for the winter of 74 while I worked as a hot walker at Florida Downs. It was a place out of the 1950s with its Dairy Queen, wooden boarding house, and citrus and moss covered sidewalks that led down to the spa by the fishing pier. Tampa was always the place where the seamier side of life educated me out of my Midwestern naiveté with occasional visits to the hot rock bars, old town Tampa dockside taverns with their sawdust covered floors where we drank Mogen David with the brothers, and Ybor City where we would go for Cuban food afterward. One place that appears unchanged for the most part is Tarpon Springs where we would walk along the sponge docks and shops and flirt with the Greek boys hustling tourist girls: “Beware of Greeks bearing gifts,” said the curly-headed, dark-eyed Greek boy with a smile, as he picked up the postcards he had passed out to us at the beginning of the sponge boat ride—we thought they were free with the tour, but no—we could purchase them for a modest price and have our memories of this day forever he said. We smiled back. Later we attended the Epiphany Celebration with him and watched the boys dive for the cross and the priest bless the sponge boat fleet. After, we went to the service at the Orthodox Church in the center of Tarpon Springs—or was it before? Later we ate baklava from a bakery and kissed on the bench in the garden behind the church under the oleander bushes.

Forgive me Laura, but New Port Richey was known to us as the hard-core place to party. One night I found myself at a party talking to the “Sunbeam Bread Girl.” She had a bus stop bench in her living room with her picture on it as the smiling, gluten devouring, blonde epitome of cultural correctness of the time—an image totally at odds with the dark haired, hard partying, inarticulate Head she had become. She said her mother made her do it for the money. Once my best friend and I drove through the middle of the night to the East coast to watch the sun rise, then followed it back across the swamps and gators to watch it go down at a Spanish restaurant on Indian Rocks Beach while devouring prawns the size of our hands and homemade sangria.

Later, after a brief starter marriage with Ex1 in Hawaii, I returned to the Gulf coast to Panama City with Ex2 in 1976. This was the Deep South; along with the moss and sand burrs, images of the deep division between black and white America were still present, the glowing heat-white cinder-block homes and stores along the clean streets of the white areas of town contrasting with the wood store shacks with their antique even then metal Coca-Cola, Mobil gas, and Nehi soda signs rusting over the heads of the old black men in kitchen chairs pulled out on to the dirt under the big tree, telling stories in the heat. The pulp mill was a nondiscriminating polluter pouring its stench over the beautiful, dolphin filled bays, inland swamps, and human traffic of all classes.

I loved it all, especially the panhandle beaches that I though were more beautiful than Hawaii’s. When you go to the beaches in Hawaii you are going to the edge of the Earth and the water meets the narrow, sometimes, rocky beaches in a violent, smashing glory, that is stunning to look at but tempting only to surfers! I preferred the wide, crystal white beaches of the Gulf with their usually gentle swells, hypnotic waves, and comforting sunsets—I could sleep at night with the window open, smelling the salt air, and think like Scarlet, that there is always tomorrow.
Thanks for the memories.
shellycheval
 
shellycheval said:
I loved it all, especially the panhandle beaches that I though were more beautiful than Hawaii’s. When you go to the beaches in Hawaii you are going to the edge of the Earth and the water meets the narrow, sometimes, rocky beaches in a violent, smashing glory, that is stunning to look at but tempting only to surfers! I preferred the wide, crystal white beaches of the Gulf with their usually gentle swells, hypnotic waves, and comforting sunsets—I could sleep at night with the window open, smelling the salt air, and think like Scarlet, that there is always tomorrow.
Thanks for the memories.
shellycheval

Yes, that's what I remember too... thanks so much for writing it! There was a really glorious side to it all. And I've heard from a couple people who have traveled the world sampling beaches, that the panhandle beaches in Florida are the finest in the entire world. The combination of the sand, the surf, the water quality, the safety, and the weather makes them number One! Thankfully, not everyone knows that or they would be ruined.

Ark and I (and the kids) really enjoyed our stay at Gulf Breeze for a UFO conference there.
 
Glad you enjoyed it Laura--it was pleasant to bask in warmth of the memories before having to go out in the snow to do chores. Least I be accused of euphoric recall here are some of the negatives of life in Florida, especially for a Northerner. :lol: One develops a new relationship with mold while living in the Sunshine State. When you are young there are better things to do than wipe your shower curtain off every day. You soon learn to wash without moving—never touching the black tile and avoiding the living shower curtain that seemed to reach out and try to envelope you with its slimy darkness. When it got too bad you threw it away and bought another one. Mold in Florida is a crafty entity growing on all organic matter that doesn’t move at least once every twenty-four hours, and on your toothbrush even when you use it twice a day.

There is only one place to store food in Florida—the refrigerator. Cereal, crackers, bread, flour, and cookies all packed in the icebox to protected it from the second great trauma of life in Florida for a Yankee—cockroaches!!! It is hard to say which are worse—the large Palmetto bugs whose footsteps you can actually hear strolling across the wood floors at night (no BS), or the small silent scurriers who flee when the light switch comes on. They lived everywhere—in our electric alarm clock—a hostel of warmth and safety as there was no way to remove them having long since adapted to the poisonous sprays of the day. They particularly liked living in the toaster, feasting on the crumbs, only vacating temporarily while we pushed the handle down and ran the toaster through a cycle to heat it and drive out the bugs before we made our morning toast--quickly as they tried to move back in before the toaster was cooled. I still have images of cockroaches fleeing the oven as we warmed it up to bake some cornbread to go with our fried fish caught fresh from the pier. I still keep my bread in the refrigerator.

Then there are these pea-sized things called sand burrs!!! OUCH!!! The first time I took off my shoes and ran barefoot across a beautifully groomed green lawn, I got about fifteen feet out before the pain reached my brain telling me that the grass was filled with what felt like broken glass shards sticking to my feet—I figured out very quickly why between the cooking HOT pavement and sand burrs you rarely saw the locals going barefoot. But, like I said, I loved it all and continue to return to visit friends in Dunedin every couple of years as resources permit, who with much more rigorous standards of cleanliness than we had as twenty year olds, and Tupperware, appear to have kept the cockroaches at bay. ;D Here's to warmer days and sunny sands coming back soon!
shellycheval
 
Received this via a forwarded email today:

"I went fishing this morning but after a short time I ran out of worms. Then I saw a cottonmouth with a frog in his mouth. Frogs are good bass bait.

Knowing the snake couldn't bite me with the frog in his mouth I grabbed him right behind the head, took the frog, and put it in my bait bucket.

Now the dilemma was how to release the snake without getting bit. So, I grabbed my bottle of Jack Daniels and poured a little whiskey in its mouth.

His eyes rolled back, he went limp. I released him into the lake without incident and carried on fishing using the frog.

A little later, I felt a nudge on my foot. There was that same snake with two frogs in his mouth.

Life is good in Florida!"
 
domi said:
Been there but haven't lived there. Many of the below things mentioned ring true.

THINGS I LEARNED IN FLORIDA...
1) A possum is a flat animal that sleeps in the middle of the road.
2) There are 5,000 types of snakes and 4,998 of them live in FLORIDA .
3) There are 10,000 types of spiders, and all 10,000 of them live in Spring Hill , FL.
4) If it grows, it'll stick ya. If it crawls, it'll bite cha.
5) "Onced" and "Twiced" are words.
6) It is not a shopping cart, it's a buggy.
7) "Jaw-P?" means, "Did y'all go to the bathroom?"
8) People actually grow and eat okra.
9) "Fixinto" is one word.
10) There is no such thing as lunch. There is only dinner and then there is supper...
11) Iced tea is appropriate for all meals, and you start drinking it when you're two.
12) Backwards and forwards means, "I know everythin' bout yo
13) You don't have to wear a watch, because it doesn't matter what time it is. You work until you're done or it's too dark to see...
14) You don't PUSH buttons, you MASH em.
16) You measure distance in minutes.
15) You switch from heat to A/C in the same day.
16) All the festivals across the state are named after a fruit, vegetable, grain, insect or animal.
17) You know what a "Dawg" is.
18) You carry jumper cables in your car - for your own car.
19) You only own five spices: salt, pepper, Texas Pete , Tabasco and ketchup.
20) The local papers cover national and international news on one page, but require 6 pages for local gossip and high school football...
21) You think that the first day of deer season is a national holiday.
22) You find 100 degrees "a bit warm."
23) You know all four seasons: Almost summer, summer, still summer, and Christmas.
24) Going to Walmart is a favorite past time known as "goin' Walmartin" or "off to Wally World.."
25) You describe the first cool snap (below 70 degrees) as g ood hog killin' weather.
26) Fried catfish is the other white meat.
27) We don't need no dang Driver's Ed...
If our mama says we can drive, we can drive dag-nabbit.
28)Palmetto bugs are nuclear infected giant flying cockroaches that get in your house no matter what you do!
29) You understand these jokes and forward them to your FLORIDA friends and those who just wish they were from FLORIDA !!!!!

All of the same things can be said for Louisiana...as a kid, I thought it was weird that the roaches up north were not the size of small rodents. I lived in Miami Shores for a while as a teenager, and thought it quite amusing to play blue crab golf when the crabs would wander into the house...I didn't want to attempt grabbing them, and didn't want to hurt them, so I used a golf club and a bucket to bring them outside. :D
 
Seeing the thread about Florida and the oil perhaps raining down in parts of it, reminded me of this thread. The absolute opposite of sadness and fear.
So as a pick-me-up, I had to re-read it, and for a moment, forgot what was happening right now, in the waters I fell in love with.

So if you love the Gulf Coast Area, as much as everyone in this thread, read it again. Forget for a second the chaos, and maybe we can send out some good
energy that direction and give good thoughts out there to the Universe and the Blue Marble.
 
Yes Dawn, and I pray we are ALL WRONG..
My wife was raised in Florida, I lived there for years, I have mucho family STILL there...
I have many many happy memories and makes me physically ill that things may not be the same for a long, long, very long time...
All of a sudden I have a screaming headache...
:cry: :cry: :cry:
 
It's breaking my heart. In a way, it's a good thing my mother has passed; it would break her heart too.
 
Thanks for starting this thread Domi, and thanks to Laura and Sheelycheval for helping me remember my home so clearly. :flowers:

I could hear the palms and the frogs and the whippoorwill again. Had almost forgotten about the sand spurs! I have both laughed and cried reading all of this.

Florida was a wonderful and unique place and I've been really upset to see what's going on there now. :(
 
domi said:
Been there but haven't lived there. Many of the below things mentioned ring true.

THINGS I LEARNED IN FLORIDA...
1) A possum is a flat animal that sleeps in the middle of the road.
2) There are 5,000 types of snakes and 4,998 of them live in FLORIDA .
3) There are 10,000 types of spiders, and all 10,000 of them live in Spring Hill , FL.
4) If it grows, it'll stick ya. If it crawls, it'll bite cha.
5) "Onced" and "Twiced" are words.
6) It is not a shopping cart, it's a buggy.
7) "Jaw-P?" means, "Did y'all go to the bathroom?"
8) People actually grow and eat okra.
9) "Fixinto" is one word.
10) There is no such thing as lunch. There is only dinner and then there is supper...
11) Iced tea is appropriate for all meals, and you start drinking it when you're two.
12) Backwards and forwards means, "I know everythin' bout yo
13) You don't have to wear a watch, because it doesn't matter what time it is. You work until you're done or it's too dark to see...
14) You don't PUSH buttons, you MASH em.
16) You measure distance in minutes.
15) You switch from heat to A/C in the same day.
16) All the festivals across the state are named after a fruit, vegetable, grain, insect or animal.
17) You know what a "Dawg" is.
18) You carry jumper cables in your car - for your own car.
19) You only own five spices: salt, pepper, Texas Pete , Tabasco and ketchup.
20) The local papers cover national and international news on one page, but require 6 pages for local gossip and high school football...
21) You think that the first day of deer season is a national holiday.
22) You find 100 degrees "a bit warm."
23) You know all four seasons: Almost summer, summer, still summer, and Christmas.
24) Going to Walmart is a favorite past time known as "goin' Walmartin" or "off to Wally World.."
25) You describe the first cool snap (below 70 degrees) as g ood hog killin' weather.
26) Fried catfish is the other white meat.
27) We don't need no dang Driver's Ed...
If our mama says we can drive, we can drive dag-nabbit.
28)Palmetto bugs are nuclear infected giant flying cockroaches that get in your house no matter what you do!
29) You understand these jokes and forward them to your FLORIDA friends and those who just wish they were from FLORIDA !!!!!
This brings back a lot of fond, warm (literally) memories!

30) You only wear shoes when you go to visit your relatives ;)
 
Laura THE Farm said:
life with mosquitoes is just something that a person learns to deal with in Florida.
and red ants!

30b) flip flops everyday, shoes are sometimes for business meetings
32) you laugh when the grand prize is a trip to Florida
33) you don't swim in lakes at night because of gators
34) you know its better to have a friend with a boat than own one yourself
35) during summer wait 5 minutes for the weather changes (rain, sun, rain, sun)
36) during a category 3 hurricane we go outside to have fun


11)Sugar Syrup Sweet Tea appropriate for all meals, and you start drinking it when you're two.
SC, NC, TN you can barely call theirs "sweet" tea, I thought they gave me unsweetened by mistake
(I rarely go out but if I do I bring my own water)
 
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