Using live chat boards among groups?

[tridean]

Hi all,
I wanted to ask if any from this forum, especially those who have read books on the 4th way, the big 4 psychology books etc, have created and participated in chat rooms with each other?

I can see benefits to it, especially if more than two can get together at specifically set times and discuss things. I think it would also be beneficial for people at varying levels of experience or advancement to be involved.

The sorts of chat room facilities I think are like Skype or Windows messenger although I am not entirely sure. I think there are free programs (like Skype and WM) that are specifically for this purpose.

Does this interest anyone?

Regards
Dean

 

[Tomek]

I'm not sure if a live chat board or channel will work in favor of a good signal/noise ratio. For the particular Work that we're all involved in this group, a forum-like interface seems a lot more appropriated than a chat.

 

[Jacques]

Hi all,
I wanted to ask if any from this forum, especially those who have read books on the 4th way, the big 4 psychology books etc, have created and participated in chat rooms with each other?

I can see benefits to it, especially if more than two can get together at specifically set times and discuss things. I think it would also be beneficial for people at varying levels of experience or advancement to be involved.

The sorts of chat room facilities I think are like Skype or Windows messenger although I am not entirely sure. I think there are free programs (like Skype and WM) that are specifically for this purpose.

Does this interest anyone?

Regards
Dean

Hi Dingo,

I would suggest to you to read that thread about personnal message.

A chat room is not a forum and, i might be in the left field, but for me it is closer to "personnal message".

Moreover you will not benefit from the knowledge of this group.

 

[Oxajil]

You might also want to read this thread.

 

[PepperFritz]

You might also want to read this thread.

Dingo:

Bottom line: As indicated in the thread mentioned above, the official position of the Cass/SOTT administrators is that should be no "chat room" set up that is in any way connected to/associated with this forum, SOTT, QFS, etc.

I'm curious, though, as to why you think it would be a more "beneficial" method of members communicating with each other than the current forum? What are the potential benefits that do not already exist in the current forum set-up?

 

[tridean]

Hi Guys,
Yep, your points are well made and I definitely understand.

I'm curious, though, as to why you think it would be a more "beneficial" method of members communicating with each other than the current forum? What are the potential benefits that do not already exist in the current forum set-up?

I guess mainly from the speed of interaction. I am still very new to this forum and have not fully recognized the preferred procedures, although I understand more now. I have gone through a period in the last 6 weeks that has forced me to shut off from a lot of things however I have sorely wished to be able to talk to someone. I have posted a couple of times since my separation and the responses on this forum have been amazing, especially from you PepperFritz, however there are times where I wish I could just talk to someone real time....as there is absolutely no one I can turn to. I guess this is another lesson for me :)

I wont bring up this question about chat again.

Thanks

Dean

 

[PepperFritz]

I guess mainly from the speed of interaction.... I have gone through a period in the last 6 weeks that has forced me to shut off from a lot of things however I have sorely wished to be able to talk to someone.... there are times where I wish I could just talk to someone real time....as there is absolutely no one I can turn to....

Again, I can empathize, because I've certainly been there. But you have to recognize that the need for "speedy" interaction stems not so much from a desire for advice, feedback, sharing of experiences, etc., but from a need to escape the unbearable emotional pain of the moment, to have that pain eased NOW, by "sharing" those painful feelings with another person. I do not say this to be harsh, for I know you are going through an unusually difficult time, and are "in crisis". But in terms of the Work, that desire to ease one's immediate pain through interaction with another is a kind of "feeding", a need for "instant gratification", using another as a "buffer" against that pain. The current forum structure discourages that quality of interaction, by requiring participants to put a certain amount of thought and reflection into their messages before posting them, to "work through" their issues to a certain extent before turning to others for feedback.

Have you considered undertaking some short-term therapy during this difficult time? Keeping a journal can also be an effective outlet for intense emotions and a way of objectively observing yourself at the same time. I think you will find the following thread interesting, both for the discussion about journaling, and a secondary side-discussion about dealing with the feelings of loneliness and isolation that come from not being able to discuss certain subjects and issues with the people around us: Journals and the Work

Although you are dealing with a specific kind of life crisis, most of the people who participate on this forum share the frustration and sadness that comes from having "no one to talk to" about the important issues in our lives. Part of the Work is learning to accept that and to keep your own counsel....

 

[tridean]

Hi Pepperfritz,
Your points make sense and I can see where I was headed with that. Thanks for seeing that and alerting me.

As it stands I am receiving therapy, just started today as matter of fact, and I also started a journal a few days after the separation.

I look forward to reading the link you posted

Many thanks
Dean