Why are you single?

[Lucius]

when someone ask me this question my answer is:

"I have one heart and do not like to break up in'to small pieces "

 

[Bresias]

I am in a "ton" of relationships!! I am practically polygamous :D

Does it matter that I do not have a primary, significant relationship with another human being, male or female? That is conventionally classified as "intimate"or "nonplatonic"?

Probably my own limited definition of being "single" inspires me to answer this question as I do.

Maybe I have substituted quantity for quality? It doesn't feel that way. I guess I'd feel lonely, but I don't. It actually feels as if I have "quality", but no where in my menagerie of relationships is there a man or woman with whom I have the conventional intimate relationship.

Right now, I do not feel a compelling need. I've joked that I have already reproduced successfully, and isn't that the primordial evolutionary compulsion to pair up?

Aside from pairing up to reproduce, I suppose the psychodynamic "heiros gamos" is important, but that implies not so much an outer opposite sex relationship as an inner relationship between my essential "anima" self and the masculine opposite, "animus". I know about this, but it does not arrest me with importance. Go figure.

With some cringing fear of being perceived as "copping out", I have deep and completely satisfactory relationships with a few animals. A duck, a couple of geese, and with a slight lesser intensity, the rest of the critters populating my back yard. The duck and two geese I raised from hatch. The duck hatched in my hands, and I held him on my breast while he dried and gained the strength to raise his little head. I just might die for him, like I would for my human children. I "must" hold him and croon and love on him, including kissing, murmuring and sniffing deeply of his feathers on a daily basis. When I finish writing this, I will go outside and do this. I can practically feel the oxytocin anticipation :D

I have felt this same . . . whatever-it-is for human beings. My children, and then my ex-husband. I used to stay awake and watch him sleep (yes, this is the man I believe may be psychopathic). He was beautiful to me, there was no part of him that I rejected or pulled away from. I'm positive I have not loved any adult human being the way I loved him. It is very similar to the rush of "love" I felt for my children and my special critters. I do not really understand this, and thus wonder about my capacity for intimacy, if it is "skewed" or limited in some way. I guess I'll find out :)

I suppose I am single because I already have too much on my plate, and can't imagine putting another person who deserves so much of me in a position I doubt I can fulfill. Right now. I don't feel an urge to change or alter how I currently am, I just know that things (and myself) change.

 

[darksai]

When asked this I say that first that I do not subscribe to generally held notion of a 'relationship' but rather to what a relationship actually is; a relation between one person and another. I see myself as having a relationship then with everyone, most are simply just the relationship of strangers but from there, as I meet and get to know a particular person, that relationship changes based on that person and I relate, whether it grows closer or further. For me a serious, ie exclusive, relationship is one that is built up with any aspects that are actually developed first, such as affection, common interests, sexual compatibility, etc. I think the whole 'no sex before marriage' is a good example why cookie-cutter relationship 'words' fail for so many people because two people simply cannot know if they will be compatible in the long term sexually if they've never actually had sex, let alone develop a sexual relationship with each other, yet a husband and wife are kinda expected to 'do it'.

 

[probetheus]

Hello Menna, if you want, you can take this into consideration...

The Law of One, Book II, Session 32

Questioner: I am assuming we have on Earth today and have had in the past fourth, fifth, and sixth-density Wanderers. As they come into incarnation in the physical of this density for a period as a Wanderer, what types of polarizations with respect to these various rays do they find affecting them?

Ra: I am Ra. I believe I grasp the thrust of your query. Please ask further if this answer is not sufficient.

Fourth density Wanderers, of which there are not many, will tend to choose those entities which seem to be full of love or in need of love. There is the great possibility/probability of entities making errors in judgment due to the compassion with which other-selves are viewed.

The fifth-density Wanderer is one who is not tremendously affected by the stimulus of the various rays of other-self and in its own way offers itself when a need is seen. Such entities are not likely to engage in the, shall we say, custom of your peoples called marriage and are very likely to feel an aversion to childbearing and child-raising due to the awareness of the impropriety of the planetary vibrations relative to the harmonious vibrations of the density of light.

The sixth-density, whose means of propagation you may liken to what you call fusion, is likely to refrain, to a great extent, from the bisexual reproductive programming of the bodily complex and instead seek out those with whom the sexual energy transfer is of the complete fusion nature in so far as this is possible in manifestation in third-density.

Questioner: Would many Wanderers of these densities have considerable problems with respect to incarnation in the third-density because of this different orientation?

Ra: I am Ra. The possibility/probability of such problems, as you call them, due to sixth-density incarnating in third is rather large. It is not necessarily a problem if you would call it thusly. It depends upon the unique orientation of each mind/body/spirit complex having this situation or placement of vibratory relativities.

 

[TOTEM36]

Hello Menna, if you want, you can take this into consideration...

The Law of One, Book II, Session 32

Questioner: I am assuming we have on Earth today and have had in the past fourth, fifth, and sixth-density Wanderers. As they come into incarnation in the physical of this density for a period as a Wanderer, what types of polarizations with respect to these various rays do they find affecting them?

Ra: I am Ra. I believe I grasp the thrust of your query. Please ask further if this answer is not sufficient.

Fourth density Wanderers, of which there are not many, will tend to choose those entities which seem to be full of love or in need of love. There is the great possibility/probability of entities making errors in judgment due to the compassion with which other-selves are viewed.

The fifth-density Wanderer is one who is not tremendously affected by the stimulus of the various rays of other-self and in its own way offers itself when a need is seen. Such entities are not likely to engage in the, shall we say, custom of your peoples called marriage and are very likely to feel an aversion to childbearing and child-raising due to the awareness of the impropriety of the planetary vibrations relative to the harmonious vibrations of the density of light.

The sixth-density, whose means of propagation you may liken to what you call fusion, is likely to refrain, to a great extent, from the bisexual reproductive programming of the bodily complex and instead seek out those with whom the sexual energy transfer is of the complete fusion nature in so far as this is possible in manifestation in third-density.

Questioner: Would many Wanderers of these densities have considerable problems with respect to incarnation in the third-density because of this different orientation?

Ra: I am Ra. The possibility/probability of such problems, as you call them, due to sixth-density incarnating in third is rather large. It is not necessarily a problem if you would call it thusly. It depends upon the unique orientation of each mind/body/spirit complex having this situation or placement of vibratory relativities.

Great quote!

That section is really evocative. There was another classic quote that i cant remember if it was from Laura herself, or Cass or Ra. but someone said that wanderers or T.P.'s hate the physical??, or are disgusted/reviled by the physical?? something like that. I have never been able to find it again using the search function. It must have been a 'comment' within a text somewhere? I personally have always found the idea of one relationship really scary, but useful if you are using it as a mirror.

 

[Ðekel]

my personal answer would have to be; why not ? :)

when you're single you're single and when you're not single you're not single.

i don't find it useful to search out and participate in relationships just for the sake of being in one.

the symbiosis has to be right, it has to offer elevation and support for both parties, and if that is lacking, i feel it's better to fly solo.
even when single, we can choose to be in a relationship with anyone around us and also anything.
plus, we're always in type of relationship with 'ourselves' as far as inner dialogue goes.

 

[probetheus]

Posted by: hallowed

That section is really evocative. There was another classic quote that i cant remember if it was from Laura herself, or Cass or Ra. but someone said that wanderers or T.P.'s hate the physical??, or are disgusted/reviled by the physical?? something like that. I have never been able to find it again using the search function. It must have been a 'comment' within a text somewhere? I personally have always found the idea of one relationship really scary, but useful if you are using it as a mirror.

perhaps, you had this in mind...

The Law of One, Book I, Session 12

Questioner: Do many of these Wanderers have physical ailments in this
third-density situation?

Ra: I am Ra. Due to the extreme variance between the vibratory distortions of third density and those of the more dense densities, if you will,
Wanderers have as a general rule some form of handicap, difficulty, or
feeling of alienation which is severe. The most common of these difficulties
are alienation, the reaction against the planetary vibration by personality
disorders, as you would call them, and body complex ailments indicating
difficulty in adjustment to the planetary vibrations such as allergies, as you
would call them.

 

[whitecoast]

I'm single because I wasn't courageous or strong enough to make it with the person I love. We were so close for so long, but there were many outside calamities that conspired to set us apart and cause us to fall short of one another. We haven't talked in a really long time, and I still feel hurt and abandoned when contact was severed, which was precipitated by our false personalities. But I'm now moving on in a more or less tolerable fashion.

Since then, it's been hard getting into serious relationships and such again. After experiencing a romantic relationship with what I can only describe as a complimentary soul unit (and I do not use that term lightly), any other relationship only pales in comparison. What Mouravieff said about romantic love being the only type of relationship compatible with the way also makes me pessimistic about finding more people "like me," but I'm trying to remain receptive to the cosmos. Maybe in a few years he and I will come around again and try again, but it's not something I can hold out for. Fwiw.

 

[TOTEM36]

perhaps, you had this in mind...

thanks probetheus,

but it wasnt that one. I scoured my tattered Ra texts looking for it before and even used there search engine and couldnt find it. I also searched all the references in all the Cass forum and Transcripts. I have attempted an extensive search on about 3-4 times. Perhaps my mind just created a summary that dosent actually exist - but im just sure i read it somewhere in the Cass material, because i remember laughing when i read it. (maybe its in the Sott comments?) anyway, time for me to shut-up.

thanks for your help anyway!

 

[probetheus]

thanks probetheus,

but it wasnt that one. I scoured my tattered Ra texts looking for it before and even used there search engine and couldnt find it. I also searched all the references in all the Cass forum and Transcripts. I have attempted an extensive search on about 3-4 times. Perhaps my mind just created a summary that dosent actually exist - but im just sure i read it somewhere in the Cass material, because i remember laughing when i read it. (maybe its in the Sott comments?) anyway, time for me to shut-up.

thanks for your help anyway!

No problem, :D

It`t also rings a bell to me... but ok, it will show up somewhere :)

 

[Miss.K]

Because I don't feel I can trust some of my I's, who would sacrifice all I have/am/could be, in an instance for the mere promise of romantic love, (or should I say emotional needs/very pleasant chemicals going through body) if the rest of us are not watchful.

I guess it is a longing of getting free from burning desire, that leaves smoking ruins, and get well enough/gather enough energy to have something growing, that might even be of use in the end.

It is not so easy as desire is very desirable, I suspect this is also the reason that I've chosen hermit life, so I won't have too many chances of bumping into anybody who can evoke such.

Of cause I'm not really safe until the romance-junkie I's are healed to a saner state -as who knows if a sparkling eyed straycat, would happen to have his car break down close by and knock on my door to borrow the phone, and in no time those untrustworthy I's would go "ooh he's adorable, can we have him?, can we? can we? pleeeeeaaaase?......at least he has a car!....it might be broken....but maybe we can fix it!!"

 

[ScioAgapeOmnis]

Hi hallowed, I dont have the transcripts with me at the moment but Laura asked the cs once
if higher density beings incarnating here miss their non physical state. The cs said that miss isn't the right word, but that they do have difficulty adjusting to the limitations of physicality. Maybe that's close to what you remember?

 

[Arreis13]

My answer would be that I deserve to be. I know that may sound like I feel sorry for myself or that I want pity, but I really feel that since I have never thought about what I needed in a relationship and just went with it because I never believed that anything about myself was worthy of feeling anything more then what I was used to. I never thought on that untill today.
;D

 

[TOTEM36]

Hi hallowed, I dont have the transcripts with me at the moment but Laura asked the cs once
if higher density beings incarnating here miss their non physical state. The cs said that miss isn't the right word, but that they do have difficulty adjusting to the limitations of physicality. Maybe that's close to what you remember?

Thanks for your attention SAO,
I do think that could be in the ballpark, i suspect i could have taken that sentence you mentioned and merged it with a comment from a reader, or what Laura says somewhere after that Cass comment? Im just sure i read it somewhere, it was like:

Cass: no! wanderers hate the physical.........
or
Cass: no! wanderers are disgusted/repulsed by the physical.......

Anyway that sounds very similar to the example you just provided, so yes maybe i just merged your example with another quote, -Thanks SAO!

 

[probetheus]

Posted by: hallowed

Cass: no! wanderers hate the physical.........
or
Cass: no! wanderers are disgusted/repulsed by the physical.......

perhaps this? ;D

August 11, 1996 Laura, F***, TR & JR


OK, since the Ra material is considered to be a kind of
primer to the Cassiopaean material, could you give us a percentage
on the accuracy of this material?
A: 63
Q: (L) 63%, Well, that's pretty good, considering... (J)It's not bad...
(T) A lot of it's very good stuff... (L) Can you talk to us a little bit
about the concept of Wanderers? Is the Ra concept of Wanderers a
valid...
A: Yes.
Q: (L) OK, is there anything about Wanderers that you can tell us,
that would help us to identify them?
A: Specifics, please.
Q: (L) OK, is it a correct point of reference that Wanderers are
individuals who feel alienated in the world system?
A: Yes but they can partially adapt.
Q: (L) OK, do they also sometimes have physical...
A: Revulsion to physicality.
Q: (T) Revulsion to physicality? They don't like physicality? But
they're here! (J) Just because they're here, they don't have to like it!
(L) OK, is that always a clue?
A: Yes.
Q: (L) Anything else about them that... (J) Wait, I have another
question. Revulsion to physicality, does that refer to a dislike of the
fact that in 3rd density is all physical and it's fixed, as opposed to
upper densities, where there's variability?
A: 3rd density is not "all" physical.
Q: (L) Well, there's spiritual... (J) I understand that, but the physical
body itself, is fixed. (L) Well, I don't think that's what they're getting
at... (J) That's what I'm asking. (L) I think that what they're getting at
is like a fine division between somebody who focuses on physical
sensation as opposed to spiritual or mental or emotional sensation
as being the point of reference.
A: Yes.
Q: (L) And this is something that I was reading in this book the other
day, that he talks about, the body is animal, and the soul is spirit. He
says that animal people just seek animal experiences, and they
glorify them, and they stimulate their physical emotions.
A: 3rd density natives tend to concentrate and to an extent, revel, in
the physical.
Q: (T) And boy, they're reveling right now! (L) Yes. (T) There's major
reveling going on. And it's intensifying every day. (J) I think the point
that I was trying to make was having to stay in 3rd density, would
they miss the variability of physicality? (L) Well, Wanderers,
remember, are 6th density beings.
A: The lack.
Q: (T) The lack of physicality?
A: Yes. Is missed.
Q: (L) They miss the lack of physicality. (J) Right. Exactly. (L) They
miss the lack of physicality. (J) OK, that was what I was getting at. I
just didn't say it right.
A: Not so much "miss," as much as difficulty of adjustment.
Q: (J) Yes, like if you went blind, you'd miss being able to see, etc...
(T) If you had the freedom of non-physicality, being limited, you'd
miss the non-physical.
A: Latter

:) :)