Women! Learn the tactics of the male sexual predator- from a how-to book

Fester

Jedi
The Game: Penetrating the secret society of Pick-up Artists
By Neil Strauss
(blurb from wikipedia)

"Strauss stumbles across the community while working on an article.[1] Intrigued by the subculture, he starts participating in the online discussion groups, mainly out of his own frustration with his romantic life. As he becomes more and more involved in the romantic community, Strauss attends a "Bootcamp" conducted by Mystery. The bootcamp consists of Strauss and other participants approaching women and then Mystery and his counterpart Sin giving them corrective advice on their behaviors, body language, and what to say.

The book then narrates the journey of how Strauss goes through the various stages of becoming a Pick-up artist, description about the various members of the community and how Strauss befriends many of the members, particularly Mystery. A good deal of the book focuses on how to obtain the elusive upper hand, or just hand, in a relationship. He also narrates his success, the spreading of the romantic community itself and his life at "Project Hollywood", a high end mansion and a lifestyle plan shared by Strauss, Mystery, Playboy, Papa, Tyler Durden, Herbal, and other members of the seduction community, and how rivalries and animosity between various members of the community lead to "Project Hollywood's" collapse. The book also documents the start of Real Social Dynamics with Tyler Durden and Papa.

The book also narrates Strauss' experiments with sleeping habits, personal grooming and his meetings with celebrities such as Tom Cruise, Courtney Love and Britney Spears."


Now, I don't suppose that there will be many, if any, people on here who've read this. I think there's probably many who should, particularly women who want to find out more about how predators spot, approach, open, and pick up their victims.

I read it out of curiosity (about 5 years ago), thinking it was probably BS, and if not, maybe I could learn some things. (I borrowed it again so my partner could read it. She was amused, shocked, horrified, and very glad she'd read it.)

It is not BS. I put it here because predator and psychopath are often the same thing. All psychos seem to be predators, but not necessarily vice-versa. This book is chock-full of sad examples of men learning to lie and manipulate more effectively for the purposes of sex. It is kinda sad and pathetic in places, such as reading about the men who learn the techniques, can get ten phone numbers a night, and still don't have a girlfriend. Salesmen who can't close the deal. These would be the ordinary boys who, like most males, have no clear idea of what it means to be a man anymore, and have taken lessons inspired or taught by psychopaths. They can't close the deal because they end up so similar to a psychopath- pseudo-men with no real depth or substance.

Don't underestimate these techniques- one can tell just by reading and considering them that they would be quite effective, and that's without learning the secret things he was not allowed to relate. Hypnotism and NLP, for instance. As an example of their effectiveness: I'm sure everyone's heard about Paris Hilton's infamous sex tape, "One Night In Paris'? The man who picked her up and filmed it was one of Neil Strauss' students, using Neil's own techniques word-for-word. (It was 'Papa', mentioned in the blurb.)

I am absolutely NOT recommending that anyone read this and attempt to become a pick-up artist. That's a fast way to become another of the disturbed, depressed misfit men that this book is full of. (Or worse. 'Tyler Durden' is a psychopath. No doubt in my mind.)

I DO recommend reading it as an insight into the minds of men and women, and if you are a lonely single bloke, then sure, learn from it- just be very careful. It does have lots of good tips if you are socially awkward, or find it difficult to talk to women. This is the reason that most of these men do it, to begin with. It gets darker rather quickly, though, and you get the distinct feeling that most, nearly all, of the men in the book end up basically using it as a tool for revenge, to use and abuse other women to make up for every time they were turned down or embarrassed.

Overall, though, for most men who would try this, it is simply a guide to becoming a predator, if not a complete psychopath. It is about putting in a lot of (worthwhile) effort into becoming or emulating an alpha-male, but then it's about learning to APPEAR be an impressive, attractive, interesting person on first impression... all for the very shallow and unfulfilling purpose of getting her to go to bed with you.

I hope this post is taken in the spirit it is intended. Oh, and I have not ever used these techniques and have no intention to. Picking up and getting laid is rather easy anyway. I have no interest in casual sex. It's not worth the hassle, the inconvenience, the cost, the next morning awkwardness... It does nothing to help relieve the feelings of loneliness. And, sex is incomparably better when it is with someone you love deeply, when it is not sex but actually making love.

IMO, this book is a great help for learning to spot and avoid predators, particularly the younger crowd who are more likely to be targeted by sexual predators in bars/clubs, supermarkets etc.
 
Yes, it's always useful to study the inner landscape of a predator.
 
I think most of my learning has come from... well, a lot of strange places, at the least. I was going to say bad places, which would be very true from most perspectives. I guess it all comes down to what's been learned. At least I hope so! :lol:
 
Fester said:
I think most of my learning has come from... well, a lot of strange places, at the least. I was going to say bad places, which would be very true from most perspectives. I guess it all comes down to what's been learned. At least I hope so! :lol:

I think that most of us have learned our best - and hardest - lessons by doing what we ought NOT to be doing!
 
Laura said:
Fester said:
I think most of my learning has come from... well, a lot of strange places, at the least. I was going to say bad places, which would be very true from most perspectives. I guess it all comes down to what's been learned. At least I hope so! :lol:

I think that most of us have learned our best - and hardest - lessons by doing what we ought NOT to be doing!

Amen!
 
This was quite the movement acouple of years ago, they even made a TV Show called the Pick up artist. It is 100% definately predatory as it doesn't aim to build emotional connections - they prefer emotional hooks - or improve ones relationship with others. The technique itself is very short term, basically until you get to sleep with someone and then from there you are on your own. If you look at it I think you'll find it is aimed at a younger audience that is utterly into consumerism and the ideology behind that. They sell it hard and pin the image of success in the bedroom to success outside - the projection of value, i.e. the value of the mask you put on. The art is not about being a better person, it is about being ruthless in the 'evolutionary game' as they refer to it. Definately pathology101 with a glistening mask.
 
Neil Straus made a follow up book on this one: the rules of the game. This is no longer a investigation into a strange world, but sort of a self help book where tips are given step by step, to become a secuder of women (for one night). Distrubing, but as in his previous book, interesting to see how those womanizers think. By making this self help book, I doubt though Straus can still claim he was investigating a world, it seem he has embraced it. :scared:
 
Jeremy F Kreuz said:
Neil Straus made a follow up book on this one: the rules of the game. This is no longer a investigation into a strange world, but sort of a self help book where tips are given step by step, to become a secuder of women (for one night). Distrubing, but as in his previous book, interesting to see how those womanizers think. By making this self help book, I doubt though Straus can still claim he was investigating a world, it seem he has embraced it. :scared:

Interesting! So I guess it didn't work out with Lisa (the special one that he told he went through all the women in LA to find) I should have anticipated that from my own reaction to the book, which was "Great! Now I know how to pick up any woman! All I need to do is treat them like prey...." which kind of disgusted me. Enough that I have never attempted to use any of the techniques described. I understand perfectly how they work so I don't need to prove their effectiveness to myself, and I do not want to have to live with the consequences of such predatory actions. I guess Neil Strauss either got so caught up in the predator's role he couldn't let it go (enjoying the power) or it just matches his true nature. After all, he had no problem treating women as prey.

I wonder if his life has disintergrated the same way as all the other pick-up artists lives did in the book as a consequence.

luke wilson said:
This was quite the movement acouple of years ago, they even made a TV Show called the Pick up artist. It is 100% definately predatory as it doesn't aim to build emotional connections - they prefer emotional hooks - or improve ones relationship with others. The technique itself is very short term, basically until you get to sleep with someone and then from there you are on your own. If you look at it I think you'll find it is aimed at a younger audience that is utterly into consumerism and the ideology behind that. They sell it hard and pin the image of success in the bedroom to success outside - the projection of value, i.e. the value of the mask you put on. The art is not about being a better person, it is about being ruthless in the 'evolutionary game' as they refer to it. Definately pathology101 with a glistening mask.

yes, and it's not even much of a mask.
 
One of the more depressing things I have read this book is.

I red it because I didn't believe that it's possible. I no longer have this view. These boys do have results to back up their statements.

I'm not sure if I will understand it before my time comes. The depressing part comes directly from their success. I was shocked how many women were falling for this trickery. That made me question human nature and I still struggle finding the answers.
 
I got my computer partly from watching a woman acquaintance have such great results at internet dating. When I tried it, I soon realized I had no idea what I was doing. I googled "Pick Up Women" and discovered the PUA community-- it was an eye-opener, and a gold mine, IMO. This was stuff none of us learn from our parents, let alone from the women in our lives. The point came when I finally understood that the PUA lessons are merely a tool to allow us to become MORE than we were before. This is what the better PUAs try to teach, but the lesson gets lost in the process. Some men get trapped in The Game without moving on. Mostly this stuff is aimed at men who cannot get a date at all.

No matter how we vilify these guys, we have to give them credit for doing SOMEthing progressive for the No-Hopers as opposed to the useless and contradictory BS we've been taught before.

There's a flip side to all of this, and it has to do with women who are equally dysfunctional, if not more so! It's one thing to get a woman, it's quite another to shake off a bunny-boiler. Women are prone to self esteem issues and they get manifest in many ways.

What PUAs strive to do is break through the B1tch-shields, identify and fend off the manipulators and other crazies, and ultimately just have a great time with women and life in general.

The PUA community has matured vastly in a short time, with additions from writers like Robert Glover [No More Mr Nice Guy!] and Dr Tara Palmatier [shrink4men.com]. Even some of the originals have switched their approach to not only finding but KEEPING healthy relationships.
 
bluenorther said:
I googled "Pick Up Women" and discovered the PUA community-- it was an eye-opener, and a gold mine, IMO. This was stuff none of us learn from our parents, let alone from the women in our lives. The point came when I finally understood that the PUA lessons are merely a tool to allow us to become MORE than we were before.
More what?

No matter how we vilify these guys, we have to give them credit for doing SOMEthing progressive for the No-Hopers as opposed to the useless and contradictory BS we've been taught before.
What is the reasoning behind this statement? That it is better to teach people to circumvent their challenges by lying than being honest? This is something to applaud?

Women are prone to self esteem issues and they get manifest in many ways.
But not the men who buy into this predatory nonsense - the are excused somehow?

What PUAs strive to do is break through the B1tch-shields, identify and fend off the manipulators and other crazies, and ultimately just have a great time with women and life in general.
Speaks for itself, this. Bitchshields? Have a great time? You seem to be in the wrong bar.

The PUA community has matured vastly in a short time, with additions from writers like Robert Glover [No More Mr Nice Guy!] and Dr Tara Palmatier [shrink4men.com]. Even some of the originals have switched their approach to not only finding but KEEPING healthy relationships.

I do not know of these esteemed gentlemen, but the flavour of your post in general strongly suggest to me a grave lack of insight into men and women in general. I can only assume that you are young.
 
While I've not read the book and have only a rudimentary understanding of hypnotism and NLP, I apparently have the gift of being able to read people very accurately.
This was a skill that served me very well in sales and as a club predator, that is to say looking for a new conquest at every night club I visited or after every gig I performed. And I did find this entertaining for a while, then it turned to a boring habit. Shortly there after I met a wonderful lady that I will always remember fondly.

To anyone following the path of the predator, please take my advice, try actually connecting with some one with your soul, spirit, essence or whatever you choose to call and not just specific parts of your anatomy. You won't know what hit you. Being that open you will learn to love - SO worth learning. Good luck
 
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