Are you an introvert or just a covert narcissist? Test!

[odin343]

21/50 I had no doubt that I was not a narcissist)). I despise such vain imbeciles. I don't care about people or their opinions. My opinion is the most important thing, but I will always listen with interest to someone else's point of view, as long as you don't force it on me.

 

[Mari]

Did the test 2 times in 2 days and the results are:
30/50
35/50
„You’re kind of a covert narcissist. You can be pretty self-centered, in other words, but the behavior isn’t out of control.“

I.e. This question was interesting:
„I try not to show it, but I’m often annoyed when people ask me to take my time and energy to sympathize over their problems.“
I‘ve gave it either „neutral“ or „characteristic“ as generally people who come to me for „solutions“ are the same people with the same problems and I gave them the same answers over and over again and in the end nothing happens. And, yes, I‘m annoyed.

So yeah, I think the test is generally good to see on which side of the scale you are leaning to and what work needs to be done.

 

[Herbal witch]

24/50
A few of the questions were ambiguous and was not sure how to respond. However, I've known that I'm not a narcissist for sure as I don't live my life in a "bubble" with the people I worked or lived with my whole life.
Unfortunately, I live with a narcissist, if I attest to that questionnaire. He is the most needy person and earth and lives in his own little "sphere" of concern every day. Very hard to live with. And not communicative at all. He is also not empathetic toward others. Oh well, I'll have to educate myself in the near future about how to deal with it. Nothing else to do.

 

[palestine]

"Your total is 29. The average score for college students is 29. A high score would be over 35 and a low one would be under 23."

 

[dantem]

Got 29/50

"You’re kind of a covert narcissist. You can be pretty self-centered, in other words, but the behavior isn’t out of control."

 

[anartist]

19/50
It may have been higher 10 years ago, but not much higher I think

 

[Il Matto]

So, I filled in my answers to the 10 (?) questions, but couldn't submit my answers to get a final score. Quite possibly the link no longer works, or I'm doing something wrong
Never mind. As with a number of others on this thread, if I reflected honestly I would have to say that its likely I would have been a bit higher on the 'covert narcissist' scale 10 or more years ago.
A question for others here: Could anticipating / expecting others' negative judgement of ourselves be considered a form of covert narcissism? To what degree? (I don't have in mind those situations where you've obviously done something that justifies negative judgement).
I ask this with all sincerity as the tendency to anticipate such judgement has been something that I've observed in myself under certain circumstances and know that its something to be on the look out for in myself (its caused no small amount of stress in the past).

 

[John G]

A question for others here: Could anticipating / expecting others' negative judgement of ourselves be considered a form of covert narcissism? To what degree? (I don't have in mind those situations where you've obviously done something that justifies negative judgement).

To a large extent I would think it is possible to be both an introvert and a covert narcissist and expecting others to have a negative judgement of us could be a defense mechanism of sorts. I mean if your introversion is often messing things up and no one becomes a superhero and fixes everything for you, you kind of expect no one to do that even though it's an unreasonable expectation on your part. I once got a standing ovation from everyone around me for saying good morning at work. Needless to say, I never did that again. It's not nice of me to almost totally lack social skills but it's not nice getting a mocking of sorts standing ovation as your negative judgement. You almost have to prop yourself up on the inside narcissist-like, since on the outside, you aren't very good at life.

 

[Il Matto]

Thank you for giving my question some thought John G.

expecting others to have a negative judgement of us could be a defense mechanism of sorts

Yes I think that could be true. For my part, I've come to see this particular defence mechanism as a way of protecting a sense of self-importance that is connected to a low sense of self-worth (though this is improving).

no one becomes a superhero and fixes everything for you, you kind of expect no one to do that even though it's an unreasonable expectation on your part

Not just an unreasonable expectation, but also a self-defeating one. I'm most fortunate to have a wife that loves me enough to call me out such things; a superheroine of sorts.

I once got a standing ovation from everyone around me for saying good morning at work. Needless to say, I never did that again.

I'm sorry that you had that experience. I don't know how much time has passed but I hope that you were able to eventually look on it as an opportunity for growth.

Thanks again

 

[John G]

Not just an unreasonable expectation, but also a self-defeating one. I'm most fortunate to have a wife that loves me enough to call me out such things; a superheroine of sorts...

I'm sorry that you had that experience. I don't know how much time has passed but I hope that you were able to eventually look on it as an opportunity for growth.

It's been many years since then. Since then it's been more like online me has learned to roll his eyeballs at in-person me. Online me even had to be the one to find a wife, who is certainly a superheroine since she has to put up with in-person me. Online me's first two attempts at dating fell apart immediately when that in-person dude side of me showed up.