Aloha ShinzenbiShinzenbi said:« Ask yourself the right questions, change your life ». Well… simply reading this interesting title raises questions in my mind. Would someone please help me sort out what follows and expand it ?
It is clear that only reasoning of truth can lead to real progress, right questions and of course right actions. I guess that asking yourself the right questions is not the beginning of the chain. Depending on your situation, right questions may not be that obvious. Thinking must precede, and complete acceptation too. Here come my questions :
- Is there a “best way” to accept your situation and analyze it with sincerity/objectivity and humility. I do not want to fall in the trap of changing the question if I do not like the answer.
- How can I know if I’m being true to myself and not reasoning with biases and expectations ? I do not want to be a guy who thinks that he is thinking.
- Taking action should gradually lead to a new situation with a corresponding new set of right questions, and so on. Correct ?
It may be interesting to insert quotes here :
A: Service to others. Notice that the people with the most problems that always talk only about themselves and their troubles, are the ones who do and give the least. They do not have confidence in the universal law of LIFE: Get things moving and you create a vacuum in your life into which energy can flow.I hope I’m being clear and not off the topic. Have a nice weekend all.“Very few beings really seek knowledge in this world. Mortal or immortal, few really ask. On the contrary, they try to wring from the unknown the answers they have already shaped in their own minds -- justifications, confirmations, forms of consolation without which they can't go on. To really ask is to open the door to the whirlwind. The answer may annihilate the question and the questioner.”
― Anne Rice, The Vampire Lestat
I think your questions are good questions to ask ourselves. In my own case, I don't think I could answer those questions on my own. Why? For the very reasons you already gave such as "not wanting to fall into the trap of changing the question if I do not like the answers" -- and -- "How can I know if I'm being true to myself and not reasoning with biases and expectations ? I don't want to be a guy/gal who thinks that I am thinking".
So, my thought is that since I cannot really rely on my own thinking to extricate myself out of the trap of thinking that I can answer those questions without prejudice, I need a network of other people who can point out to me where my own thought processes are tangled in a web of my own self-deceit. Does this make sense to you?
I think it comes down to whether or not I can really trust myself to not fool myself -- especially at the beginning of the process of learning more about our own mechanical thinking. I am still at the very beginning of attempting to observe my own Little i's and all their little subterfuges, rationalizations, justifications, being right, making others wrong.
So, basically, I am taking the stance that at this point in time, I DO need to rely upon others to point out my pretzel logic and help me to SEE my inner self more clearly. And to the degree that I am truly sincere about wanting to get off my soapbox platform of "being right" and, instead, change my viewpoint and attitude, then I may have a slim chance of getting out of the soup.
I sometimes see this Forum as people who are willing to throw me a life preserver when I am asking for help or assistance so that I can stay afloat long enough to see in which direction I need to swim to get to dry land or safe shore.
As to your 3rd question -- "Taking action should gradually lead to a new situation with a corresponding new set of right questions, and so on. Correct?", I do have at least one experience of my own that does support that hypothesis. Maybe other Members can give you better feedback on this question as well as about your entire post.
Thanks for bringing up your questions. They were interesting for me to also ask myself. :)