The Living Force
Thanks Beau, I'm slowly getting used to it, feel a bit naked at the moment, but, I'm still glad I did it.
12 Rules for Life said:[...] Someone hiding is not someone vital. Vitality requires original contribution. Hiding also does not save the conforming and conventional from disease, insanity, death and taxes. And hiding from others also means suppressing and hiding the potentialities of the unrealized self. And that’s the problem.
If you will not reveal yourself to others, you cannot reveal yourself to yourself. That does not only mean that you suppress who you are, although it also means that. It means that so much of what you could be will never be forced by necessity to come forward. This is a biological truth, as well as a conceptual truth. When you explore boldly, when you voluntarily confront the unknown, you gather information and build your renewed self out of that information. That is the conceptual element. However, researchers have recently discovered that new genes in the central nervous system turn themselves on when an organism is placed (or places itself) in a new situation. These genes code for new proteins. These proteins are the building blocks for new structures in the brain. This means that a lot of you is still nascent, in the most physical of senses, and will not be called forth by stasis. You have to say something, go somewhere and do things to get turned on. And, if not…you remain incomplete, and life is too hard for anyone incomplete.
Every game has rules. Some of the most important rules are implicit. You accept them merely by deciding to play the game. The first of these rules is that the game is important. If it wasn’t important, you wouldn’t be playing it. Playing a game defines it as important. The second is that moves undertaken during the game are valid if they help you win. If you make a move and it isn’t helping you win, then, by definition, it’s a bad move. You need to try something different. You remember the old joke: insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results.
If you’re lucky, and you fail, and you try something new, you move ahead. If that doesn’t work, you try something different again. A minor modification will suffice in fortunate circumstances. It is therefore prudent to begin with small changes, and see if they help. ...
Cheers Joe, it's growing on me, haha, pun intended!I like the shorter hair much better too! Nice!
Thanks Meg, it's quite a lot more "stylized" than what I am used to, but maybe that's not such a bad thing :)The shorter cut looks great, Baz! It suits you.
my "inner lawyer" immediately starts questioning it - "but why don't you do the other task now? You can still do the thing you wanted to do now tomorrow, maybe that's even better because blablabla." I then force myself to stick to my initial thought, the "blink". It always seems to work out better that way. It requires daily training though because the inner lawyer is so powerful and convincing. It does get easier though if you do it repeatedly - "hunch about doing something? Let's do it!" FWIW
When it comes to decision making, indecision for me is sometimes (not always) related to not wanting to disappoint others, not wanting conflict and wanting any decision to be validated by others in some way in order to feel more "certain" about it. If others say it's OK, then it must be OK, so to say.
So I thought about this, and also about what we've discussed in some other threads about the exo-skeleton and the endo-skeleton... and I thought that maybe one way of looking at it was to try to "see from within", to place those "external eyes" within one self and develop that endo-skeleton. Your idea of trying to listen more to what you actually want and going according to it seems to go in that direction, I think.
think that asking for advice for certain things isn't something bad at all, but if we can grow that "inner eye", we know that ultimately we are the ones who make the decision always, even when we decide to not decide. And by growing it, I think we feel more and more confident about owning our decisions and taking those opportunities to learn from what we decide.
Q: (Scottie) That was really bad... (Ark) Well, I'm not sure if I really understand what I want to ask. I understand that there were many factors that came together. But question is if such an end was somehow written in her karma? (Joe) Did she choose? You know, other sources always talk about people choosing to die - at some level there's a choice made. Is that the case here?
A: Too much credibility is given to the idea of "karma". Anybody can be "taken out" if their awareness is not sufficient to the situation. But as is the case, it follows the general rules of 3D reality. 4D STS can maneuver through agents mainly, environment, and that sort of thing.
Jordan Peterson said:Every game has rules. Some of the most important rules are implicit. You accept them merely by deciding to play the game. The first of these rules is that the game is important. If it wasn’t important, you wouldn’t be playing it. Playing a game defines it as important. The second is that moves undertaken during the game are valid if they help you win. If you make a move and it isn’t helping you win, then, by definition, it’s a bad move. You need to try something different. You remember the old joke: insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results.
Q: He says: 'I believe that if we do not send love energy to the world that the egocentric STS energy
will be dominating.
A: Why would one choose to send this? What is the motivation?
Q: To change it to your idea of what it is supposed to be. To control it to follow your judgment of how
things ought to be.
A: Exactly. The students are not expected to be the architects of the school.
Q: So, when you seek to impose or exert influence of any kind, you are, in effect, trying to play God
and taking it upon yourself to decide that there is something wrong with the universe that it is up to
you to fix, which amounts to judgment.
A: Yes, you see, one can advise, that is okay, but do not attempt to alter the lesson.
Maybe the "rules" are deliberately obscure or necessarily veiled by our 3D incarnation. If we already knew all the "rules" we probably would not be here. For myself and maybe some of you this "playing the game" hasn't been easy to accept but I am really trying to "learn" the rules so as not to be "doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results".
There is a strong tendency for me to want to control the game and be perfect in my decisions so I can "win" and I think I have gone through many of the same thought processes you have described like tossing a coin or the if/then scenarios to take some of the pressure off of my decision making. Your bringing this to our attention was a good idea I think.
I sometimes try to "advise" myself with not such good results but I suppose I just need to keep on looking for better advice and continue the learning process even though it isn't always easy.
This isn't much fun either so hopefully one day we will find balance that works for each of us.
I wanted to add that I agree with others: the new haircut really suits you. Shorter hair frames your face much better and gives it more of a boyish look. Long hair looked more flat around your face and the curls mainly formed in the bottom section because longer hair was heavier.
In my opinion the change is visually beneficial and I hope it's comfortable to wear it this length, although I can imagine it will take some getting used to.
"I'm a musician, kind of hippie, and tough. Don't approach me, I'm too cool for you/I don't like people. Isn't this an awesome hair? Who am I? That doesn't matter, check my hair out and stay away!"
While the new style doesn't evoke that at all, and is more flexible, as if you weren't so attached to your appearance and working more on what really matters to you. FWIW.
The Indecisive Man:
- Keeps waiting for Perfect Circumstances (that never come)
- Is At the Mercy of the Opinion of the Man who talked to him last
- Follows a Course only until somebody opposes it
- Forever Weighs & Balances
Success will Always Elude him. Never be this Man.
One real life example which I am dealing with at the moment, as trivial as it is, would be that I am thinking of cutting my hair. I have had long hair since I was in my late teens, so over half my life. It was recently brought to my attention that, maybe I hide behind my hair, and I mean that both physically and to an extent psychologically. So now, I am weighing up should I, shouldn't I, how short, will I look stupid and the thoughts go around and around. I even asked a few people whom I trust for their opinion, again, so if it doesn't work out (it looks bad or whatever) I can pass on some of the responsibility, OSIT. So a simple choice becomes something I enumerate on over and over, rather frustrating
I was wondering if anyone else has come up against this and has some experiences or advice on this matter?
Stumbled upon this on twitter which reminded me of this thread - not something that is directed specifically towards you, 987baz, but I think it's a good reminder for indecisive people like myself:
"There is nothing called right or wrong, it's a choice". But choices has consequences and as more knowledge we have of the situation, much easier to reduce unwanted consequences. In a way, it is a learning process.
In some ways, I still do it, particularly if i don't process the long list of little anxieties that accumulate in everyday decisions. These accumulated little anxieties that trigger rumination which repeat "worthless and helpless" programs. If ignored, bug me to the point, suddenly i loose perspective. I am glad you networked.
I have to talk to him about "what it means to be like living in a society and as a social being our appearance impacts our surrounding people and he needs to do what makes easy for others"
I tend to think, we have to push through initial resistance or blockage to understand what we want.
I think there are different considerations in different contexts. If the people in your space is fine with your hair style, I don't see a issue with it. btw., I didn't thought any thing odd when I see you in the chat.Is this a form of external considering? I'd never thought of it like that before.