Hello all! I had a question in my mind after reading an article today. Does any of you remember the names and the face of people you went to elementary school with? I can maybe, with a pretty heavy difficulty, remember about maybe 6 or 7 of them from elementary school and maybe 5 from high school. There were about 25 to 30 of us in each class. I simply do not remember them any more, cant really recall the names or looks. It all seems blank. Since Im 38 now, is that common or not?
I’m only a year younger than you but I even remember the people I went to kindergarten with. They’re blurrier than school friend memories but I can recall their faces and many names well. As for school friends, given that we went to school together for 8 years and parted when I was 14 I could probably write down a list of all names of people in my class. I’d have no problem recalling their faces, even the ones who aren’t on social media. Same thing goes with high school.
I don't mean to be insensitive and investigate your personal matters, but your post made me think of childhood dissociation as a coping mechanism. People who have experienced trauma often remember less from their early years as their minds dissociated more to cope with what was happening. Maybe that’s something for you to explore? The Myth of Sanity by Martha Stout talks about this condition, although most people are much milder cases than what she described. The book has a thread on the forum here.
Of course you may conclude that this isn’t the reason why your memory of school times is so limited. I don’t know how sociable you were when you were little, maybe you didn’t build too many emotional bonds at school that would enable you to remember your school mates better? I was quite a shy child, extraversion only came later in life, but I was nevertheless quite a sociable kid.