BHelmet
The Living Force
Hm - good approach/idea...Ant22 said:BHelmet said:....A lot of people on FB are more like acquaintances but there it is: stuff right in my space/face. How do I respond or do I at all? I really do not want to empower the left/right or right/wrong duality argumentative thing and just be one more voice of noise on one side or the other. I am trying to find some higher ground to speak from but it is hard. If I see some massive lie and a lot of people up in arms over it, or perhaps just massive snarky venting, I kind of hold my breath and steel myself (put on the armor of truth?) before posting to try to make sure I am taking a neutralizing path rather than taking sides. It seems if there is lack of balance, that is, perhaps what is most needed: to bring people back to their senses rather than being so carried away in their subjective/emotional reactions. I have seen people do what you describe your friend doing. I may have even done it a few times myself but I never feel all that calm and centered inside. I am kind of bracing for impact and blowback. But there is that choice: do I intervene or say nothing? Is there a request for service? But even if there is no direct request, is there a request by implication? That implication being a huge misconception that threatens us all. IF I am silent, I am aware of the dynamic that states I am agreeing by my silence and I wrestle with that one too. Anyway, bottom line: I totally get what you are saying.Woodsman said:I don't know about everybody else, but the scroll on my Facebook feed has recently become more toxic than I seem to recall it having been before, with anti-Trump and official-culture stuff. ...........
I look at some of the coiled springs on FB, and I think, "Is it worth touching that off? There will absolutely be an explosion, and I will probably suffer. Is it a violation to break belief, or is that post a request for conflict? Can I handle it? Is it worth it? Will it lead to something better or just re-coil and leave me with shrapnel in my face?"
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Yup, same here. I've been having the same issue with trying to establish where aiding others with information stops and infringement of their free will to believe lies starts. I must admit that a lot of the time I just don't say anything but I have worked out an approach that kind of ping-pongs the ball back to the person making and leaves it to them to ask for clarification. If they do - I'll clarify my point and provide sources.
Ant22 said:For example, I once posted a meme criticizing the mainstream news propaganda that ended with "Cheers to those who aren't buying the bu11$h!t again". Within minutes I had a comment from someone that said "You think thousands of people dead within 2 years is bu11$h!t? Good for you." I replied: "You missed the point. I didn't say it wasn't real. Of course it was, no one's denying that". If this person then challenges my reply in any way I go on and clarify my point. In all honesty, hardly anyone ever does but this way I don't seem to be drawn into pointless battles.
I'm not sure whether this approach is right though, I've read through a couple of threads on here where people were presenting quite subjective points and I can see a massive benefit in having a conversation - even a long one - that clarifies the point and explains why someone is incorrect / subjective in their thinking. Maybe the forum is different to facebook in that respect. The forum is an open space and it's googlable so it's important to have a conversation that clarifies to outsiders what the forum stands for. Facebook on the other hand is a personal platform.
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Social media is just a whole different breed of cat compared to normal face-to-face conversations or even posting in forums or blogs. It is the wild west - no holds barred, gov't trolls, nothing off-limits, duplicitous standards. Somebody calling Trump evil names is fine but if you are on the wrong side of the argument it is hate speech. And yes - the problem of how to deal with "friends" posting outrageous lies (hopefully in ignorance). And then there is knowing that the NSA is there. (Cue The Police "I'll be Watching You")
So it takes some stepping back and creating a new way of interacting and new standards for interaction. It is hard to stand by and watch your friends re-post the lies and add emotional reactions to the fire. Where is the line between speaking the truth to the lie and offering STS assistance when there is clearly no asking? What is the STO response in this STS world without just adding more noise and more wood for the fire? And there is SO much temptation to just take the gloves off - completely come down to the low level and start throwing punches. (Like the proverbial barroom brawl in the cowboy movies.) So yeah - I keep trying for that 3rd neutralizing point of view.
One other depressing thing I notice is that almost nobody changes as a result of some deeper insight offered. As soon as the next baited hook comes along, the same people are off to the races again.