friends on facebook

[celtic]

I have some friends on facebook that I do not associate with. Some of my friends I do not know. I am going to delete them from my freinds list; because, we do not socialize on any level. I have not deleted any of my freinds as of yet. I say to myself, maybe somebody will read the articles that I put on my page. So far, no one have. Only a few people read read the articles. I don't want to randomly delet my facebook friends, that seems rude. But, if we are not communicating, then why are we freinds? There might be an obvious answer to this question. I probably could figure this out on my own. Should I delete my facebook freinds, who I have no particular contact with?


ADMIN NOTE: corrected spelling of "friends" in subject field.

 

[alland]

Re: freinds on facebook

my advice: do not delete them, they can be pretty cool guys and the ones that r not, they just can eat some kaka.

 

[RyanX]

Re: freinds on facebook

I have some friends on facebook that I do not associate with. Some of my friends I do not know. I am going to delete them from my freinds list; because, we do not socialize on any level. I have not deleted any of my freinds as of yet. I say to myself, maybe somebody will read the articles that I put on my page. So far, no one have. Only a few people read read the articles. I don't want to randomly delet my facebook friends, that seems rude. But, if we are not communicating, then why are we freinds? There might be an obvious answer to this question. I probably could figure this out on my own. Should I delete my facebook freinds, who I have no particular contact with?

Celtic,

It's ultimately up to you. How you want to manage your facebook page is your business and there could be ups and downs to both options. I can only relate how I manage my facebook account, but this may not be the best option for you.

If it were me, I would keep them, but separate them out into a group for those "old friends" who I really don't associate with anymore. When you post an item on facebook you can choose which groups or individuals are excluded and I exclude these folks from most everything I post, except anything health related. I also have a couple groups of people that I share common interests with and these people get to see the bulk of what I post. I also have a separate group for family so that I can post stuff that only my family sees and nobody else can. Most of my family does not see what I post, aside from certain health topics. I also prevent most people, other than good friends and family from seeing most of my family pictures as well. Anna Salter's book Predators discusses why somebody might want to do this when there are young children in any of the pictures. This is my plan for implementing Strategic Enclosure on Facebook.

Keeping things organized this way makes me be consciously aware of everything I post instead of it being a free-for-all posting extravaganza that everybody sees. I learned that this was neither an effective nor safe use of my energy on Facebook, but like I said, everybody uses Facebook in different ways. I think you just need to make a conscious decision of how you want to run your page and then implement your activities in that direction.

FWIW.

 

[Masamune]

Re: freinds on facebook

Celtic, I think it depends on why you are on facebook. Are you on there to spread information to people or are you on there for other reasons? It sounds like you want people to read your articles. If you don't associate with them or even know them then how do you know that they are not reading your articles? I have gotten many messages from people telling me that they like reading my articles or they look forward to my posts everyday and I had no idea they did before they told me. They had never liked any of my posts or posted any comments to my page. Some people for whatever reason like to read material but maintain a distance without interaction. Maybe after awhile they will build up the courage to interact with you.

If you are on there to spread information then I would recommend that you keep them as friends unless there is some specific reason that may bring harm if you keep them as friends. If you are just on there to socialize or share personal information then you may want to do something else.

 

[Bar Kochba]

Re: freinds on facebook

I have only 2 fb friends that I have met face to face. The rest are from this forum, and I added them because of that reason. I post articles for the benefit of the 2 above mentioned friends, because I assume the forum members read SOTT. If no one *likes* what I post, thats ok because I aint there to be *liked.* However, I do enjoy interacting with other forum members in the fb atmosphere, as well as in the cass forum atmosphere. That is why I enjoy fb. So, as was stated in one of the above posts, you must examine the reasons you are on fb. Are you there for attention, i.e. to feed, or are you there to network?

 

[melatonin]

Re: freinds on facebook

Might sound like a daft question = but how do you guys add each other on facebook?
Id be intrested in reading forum members posts and stuff on there. Ive joined SOTT and cassipaea (is that what you mean?)
I thought PM's werent allowed on here.

As for facebook, i see from my contacts that everyone uses it different.
Some are vampires, wanting attention constantly, and nothing is ever enough. Others rarely post, and use it more like 'friends reunited' as a place to reconnect.
Other people live on there posting every 5 minutes.
I personally dont post anything on status, im more of a listener in 3D, so i like to be as true to myself as possible on here. Not to say that i havent got my own views - i often post repsonses to Laura's videos and others when i feel like i might have something to contribute or to learn.

For me - i like to use it as a test. A test to see how healed i am in myself. I know that if i have inner peace then i wont over-react to anyone elses behaviour, so i like to keep a wide range of people on there. Its a tool for me.
To learn tatics of vampires, which might come in handy in the 3D world.
Apart from that, i very much enjoy reading SOTT and Cassiopaea and its good to put a face to a name. Ive 'friended' a few people on there, although i havent got a clue what their forum names might be.

I say that you should do whatever feels right for you. Maybe my only advice (if im in any position to give any, lol) is dont give facebook that power over you.

 

[Mrs. Peel]

Re: freinds on facebook

Might sound like a daft question = but how do you guys add each other on facebook?
Id be intrested in reading forum members posts and stuff on there. Ive joined SOTT and cassipaea (is that what you mean?)
I thought PM's werent allowed on here.

You can go to the EE page on Facebook, or the Cassiopaea page, or the SOTT page, or the FOTCM page, see who the "followers" are, and see if you recognize any forum names, and just send them a friend request.

 

[celtic]

Re: freinds on facebook

Thank you all for the feed back. All of you have made really good points. I will take time to think about what I will do.

Celtic, I think it depends on why you are on facebook. Are you on there to spread information to people or are you on there for other reasons? It sounds like you want people to read your articles. If you don't associate with them or even know them then how do you know that they are not reading your articles? I have gotten many messages from people telling me that they like reading my articles or they look forward to my posts everyday and I had no idea they did before they told me. They had never liked any of my posts or posted any comments to my page. Some people for whatever reason like to read material but maintain a distance without interaction. Maybe after awhile they will build up the courage to interact with you.

If you are on there to spread information then I would recommend that you keep them as friends unless there is some specific reason that may bring harm if you keep them as friends. If you are just on there to socialize or share personal information then you may want to do something else.

I am not sure why I am on facebook. I am on facebook for more than one reason. I do not know my ultimate purpose on facebook. I can assure you, that it is not for attention. I am on facebook to network, share information, and keep in contact with family and freinds. Addressing the bold sentence in the middle, you have a really good point. That thought never crossed my mind, and it is something to take into consideration.

Celtic,

It's ultimately up to you. How you want to manage your facebook page is your business and there could be ups and downs to both options. I can only relate how I manage my facebook account, but this may not be the best option for you.

If it were me, I would keep them, but separate them out into a group for those "old friends" who I really don't associate with anymore. When you post an item on facebook you can choose which groups or individuals are excluded and I exclude these folks from most everything I post, except anything health related. I also have a couple groups of people that I share common interests with and these people get to see the bulk of what I post. I also have a separate group for family so that I can post stuff that only my family sees and nobody else can. Most of my family does not see what I post, aside from certain health topics. I also prevent most people, other than good friends and family from seeing most of my family pictures as well. Anna Salter's book Predators discusses why somebody might want to do this when there are young children in any of the pictures. This is my plan for implementing Strategic Enclosure on Facebook.

This is good advice, but I will keep my facebook settings. If they are going to be my freinds, then there is no reason for censorship. If I should include censorship, then we might as well not be friends.

 

[Masamune]

Re: freinds on facebook

Might sound like a daft question = but how do you guys add each other on facebook?
Id be intrested in reading forum members posts and stuff on there. Ive joined SOTT and cassipaea (is that what you mean?)
I thought PM's werent allowed on here.

You can go to the EE page on Facebook, or the Cassiopaea page, or the SOTT page, or the FOTCM page, see who the "followers" are, and see if you recognize any forum names, and just send them a friend request.

You could also post a link to your profile or tell us how to find you on the facebook thread in the swamp so that forum members can add you as a friend: http://cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=15795.0

 

[cubbex]

Re: freinds on facebook

my advice: do not delete them, they can be pretty cool guys and the ones that r not, they just can eat some kaka.

MMM excuse?

What the heck about eat some kaka dude???
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ON TOPIC

Well facebook put it like "friends", but for me its like a contact or somethig like that. Why is so important to delete them? for me its just a social way to know about others even if it's just a little, not to find real friends (that may happe of course).

 

[Aya]

Well facebook put it like "friends", but for me its like a contact or somethig like that. Why is so important to delete them? for me its just a social way to know about others even if it's just a little, not to find real friends (that may happe of course).

I think so, too. I do not delete them unless there are strong reasons to do so.
Long time ago, I deleted couple of people because I didn't know them at all and they were constantly posting their interests (which were very different from mine and it was disturbing.)
In another words, there were nothing in common between us.

The reason why I am on a facebook are to keep in touch with all kinds of people(as a tool) and to contribute to the group (Laura's goal) to spread some good information to people.

 

[cubbex]

Well facebook put it like "friends", but for me its like a contact or somethig like that. Why is so important to delete them? for me its just a social way to know about others even if it's just a little, not to find real friends (that may happe of course).

I think so, too. I do not delete them unless there are strong reasons to do so.
Long time ago, I deleted couple of people because I didn't know them at all and they were constantly posting their interests (which were very different from mine and it was disturbing.)
In another words, there were nothing in common between us.

The reason why I am on a facebook are to keep in touch with all kinds of people(as a tool) and to contribute to the group (Laura's goal) to spread some good information to people.

Yeah, unless they are predating people on facebook. I have added laura because its like other SOTT, like Signs of Laura; info ant thoughts. let see if I find other forum members.

 

[Bar Kochba]

I only recognize a handful of forum members on facebook. The names are different. So, when I add people, I go by how many "friends" we have in common; that way I can be fairly certain they are forum members. I have my facebook page listed as my "website" on my forum profile. Bar Kochba=Jason Benway.

 

[Menna]

Facebook Friends - lol

To me a friend is someone who you can trust, confide in, tell secrets and see IN PERSON. I personaly had to get rid of facebook because it wasn't good for me. I had 700 and something friends. I probably only talk to or see 15-20 of them. There would be depresing posts from people on the news feed. "How can my day get any worse" "As if it isn't bad enough." Now these posts wouldnt ruin my day but they didn't help any. Also now that I am in a relationship I like to keep things private. I don't want people seeing what I do with my significant other or comenting on pictures. I would like her to get rid of it but I can't impose that on her so the best course of action was for me to remove myself. Now I find I talk to and care more about my REAL FRIENDS (subjective I know) people I see and have a connection with. I live less in the facebook online computer fantasy world. Yes I do believe it is great for networking and such but to try and find real friends on facebook - please. Having your personal life spread on facebook - come on. Yes It is funny to me after the knowledge that I have gained from this site and other experiences it is clear to see who the vampires are and who are feeding. Now I have more time to read and do other things. This is obviously my personal experience and everyones is different. What is good for one might not be good for two and so on. I personally think that for most people not all but most facebook keeps people in a world that doesn't exist communicating with people they will never see and wasting time and energy on things that have no substance.

Just got into the book "Strange Life of Ivan Osokin - P.D Ouspensky (Recommended to me by a fourth way student.)

Probably some noise in this post sorry I did edit it FWIW

 

[celtic]

Facebook Friends - lol

To me a friend is someone who you can trust, confide in, tell secrets and see IN PERSON. I personaly had to get rid of facebook because it wasn't good for me. I had 700 and something friends. I probably only talk to or see 15-20 of them. There would be depresing posts from people on the news feed. "How can my day get any worse" "As if it isn't bad enough." Now these posts wouldnt ruin my day but they didn't help any. Also now that I am in a relationship I like to keep things private. I don't want people seeing what I do with my significant other or comenting on pictures. I would like her to get rid of it but I can't impose that on her so the best course of action was for me to remove myself. Now I find I talk to and care more about my REAL FRIENDS (subjective I know) people I see and have a connection with. I live less in the facebook online computer fantasy world. Yes I do believe it is great for networking and such but to try and find real friends on facebook - please. Having your personal life spread on facebook - come on. Yes It is funny to me after the knowledge that I have gained from this site and other experiences it is clear to see who the vampires are and who are feeding. Now I have more time to read and do other things. This is obviously my personal experience and everyones is different. What is good for one might not be good for two and so on. I personally think that for most people not all but most facebook keeps people in a world that doesn't exist communicating with people they will never see and wasting time and energy on things that have no substance.

Just got into the book "Strange Life of Ivan Osokin - P.D Ouspensky (Recommended to me by a fourth way student.)

Probably some noise in this post sorry I did edit it FWIW

I think it depends on what your purpose is. Some people are on facebook for attention, others are on to feed predatorily, and some are even on to ventilate (therapy). What I do on facebook is share informative resources about world issues, and ocassionally network with family and freinds. I limit my personal business as much as I can. And I believe that is my soul reason for being on facebook.