Thank you, Psyche. We just ordered the book, it sounds very interesting indeed.
Gurdjieff said something along the same lines: that we can heal our past as well, while working in the present. So it's not far from what we've been already working on here. Though it's good to hear it from a different perspective also.
Though i don't yet understand completely how our family's traumas are embedded in our own DNA, i somehow always knew that they do. At least i felt it psychologically all my life, so i don't doubt there is a biological connection there as well. I remember very early in life, asking my parents and relatives to tell me stories of their lives. It was interesting to hear the different descriptions of the same event coming from each aunt and uncle, btw! But each story, it told me more about the characters involved, it helped me understand them and their choices today. It was like a puzzle, piecing together the bigger picture of where we come from, who we are, and what i inherit. It now sounds like a good idea to write all these stories down.
In a way, reading the excerpts of this book, it reminds me of the topic of soul crashing as well. If we hold on to our illusions, our pain, suffering and fears, that's when we allow our souls to perish, since we don't nurture it, but feed what kills it.
On the subject of consciously changing our perception in the moment, to see a situation "from afar" and with new eyes, minus the fears and conditioning, it reminded of this article i read yesterday on SOTT:
Consulting with your Wisest Self
The internal psychic process, often extended throughout generations by the inheritance of patterns of trauma formed, perhaps long, long ago, when one of your ancestors went through an unbearable hurt.
"Human genes are much more flexible than we think. They perceive as much as they act. When a hurt reaches
the level of genes, it makes them behave differently and distort the memory, preventing the memory from becoming complete. The gap in memory is created, and a spirit of trauma houses itself in this gap, hidden from our awareness. ...
They learn to hide them from themselves and their children. They play hide-and-seek with spirits of trauma, and guess what? Most often they lose, because even when they don't remember, their genes—those unfailing memory units—do, and the hurt stays there until you heal it. ...
"The same mechanism works with smaller things. We start to gather up more personal hurts in the basket of our memory soon after coming into this world.
Every creature tries to survive. It is true for the spirits of trauma as well. They need to 'eat.' They are always hungry. They create 'food' for themselves by generating more hurt. Why does the 'Paradox exist, that victims of abuse become the worst abusers themselves? It is not logical, but it is perfectly reasonable for the spirits of trauma to grow in abuse victims through their hurts and feed themselves by re-creating those hurts. You may know this from your own experiences.
"How many of you did something in your life that you regret, that you knew wasn't the best thing to do, but still you chose to do it, bringing upon yourself unwanted cir¬cumstances? I bet you know the feeling. 'I don't have any idea why I did it.' I hear this often, and you probably do too from people you are working with. You don't have any idea because the impulse was initiated and supported by the spirit of trauma. You are not aware of it, so you follow it blindly and you end up hurting again and again. ...
The justifiable next question would be, 'so what?' "People adjust, they find their own means to cope, so why bother with looking deeper into it? Right?" Some of the heads in the audience nodded in agree-ment.
"Wrong! Wrong questions. There are three main points I or why it is vitally important for everyone to win in their battle with the spirits of trauma. First, because when you conquer them, it brings profound healing, reverses unhap-piness, and treats disease. Diseases are the means by which (in organism tries to fight the traumas on its own. So many Times, I've seen people get sick and look for help at very particular points in their life, moments when the spirit of trauma becomes activated in a person with incomplete psychic memory. That is why many healing changes fol¬low when you are able to eradicate the root of trauma.
"Second, we believe in our tradition that whatever we do directly touches generations before and after us. When you free yourself from trauma, you heal your ancestors and protect generations after you.
Gurdjieff said something along the same lines: that we can heal our past as well, while working in the present. So it's not far from what we've been already working on here. Though it's good to hear it from a different perspective also.
Though i don't yet understand completely how our family's traumas are embedded in our own DNA, i somehow always knew that they do. At least i felt it psychologically all my life, so i don't doubt there is a biological connection there as well. I remember very early in life, asking my parents and relatives to tell me stories of their lives. It was interesting to hear the different descriptions of the same event coming from each aunt and uncle, btw! But each story, it told me more about the characters involved, it helped me understand them and their choices today. It was like a puzzle, piecing together the bigger picture of where we come from, who we are, and what i inherit. It now sounds like a good idea to write all these stories down.
In a way, reading the excerpts of this book, it reminds me of the topic of soul crashing as well. If we hold on to our illusions, our pain, suffering and fears, that's when we allow our souls to perish, since we don't nurture it, but feed what kills it.
On the subject of consciously changing our perception in the moment, to see a situation "from afar" and with new eyes, minus the fears and conditioning, it reminded of this article i read yesterday on SOTT:
Consulting with your Wisest Self