This discussion reminds me of the genograms that the author of Children of Trauma did in that book. She said:
She encourages her patients to do family research in order to complete the genogram. The patterns revealed are mind boggling, almost like a dominant inheritance. Then she quotes "McGoldrick, M., and Gerson, R., Genograms in Family Assessment, New York: W. W. Newton, 1985" as one of her sources. But I never heard of that book before until now that I made a search on genogram on her book.
In doing genogram (family mapping) work with couples over the years, I have seen consistent, repetitive themes emerge and re-emerge in interactions and conflicts that had begun in earlier generations. Themes of distance, conflict, enmeshment, alcoholism, abuse, affairs, divorce, depression, financial instability, inability to bond, suicidal ideation, etc., seemed to show themselves in generation after generation. One might ask, as one woman did, “How can this happen? How could I have known? It wasn’t like that between us before commitment.
We tend to seek out when choosing a partner, what is familiar in much the same way that someone from another country might seek out others with the same customs, language and values. We learned how to survive and adapt in dysfunctional families through use of particular defenses, nonverbal communication, cues, mannerisms and adaptive behaviors. In our families of origin, we develop many beliefs about ourselves in relation to each other and the world. We are allowed expression of some emotions and not others. We seek out partners who allow us to “be at home” and continue these beliefs and expressions on the one hand, while we continue to attempt resolution for the once-discarded child.
She encourages her patients to do family research in order to complete the genogram. The patterns revealed are mind boggling, almost like a dominant inheritance. Then she quotes "McGoldrick, M., and Gerson, R., Genograms in Family Assessment, New York: W. W. Newton, 1985" as one of her sources. But I never heard of that book before until now that I made a search on genogram on her book.