I did start seeing my partner differently, realizing I’ve been incredibly selfish in many instances. Also how truly lucky I am and the need to express my gratitude more for him being in my life. It’s like I was turned inward and now I’m starting to turn outward, to him. I used to be so fiercely independent, thinking this was the path to freedom. Not realizing how selfish this was, I was keeping a part of my self hidden, the most vulnerable part at the core of my being locked up. Thinking this was for my safety. These books have shown me that I’ve missed out due to some very deep trust issues.
That is wonderful, Candice! I'm very happy for you, and hope that your partner also feels the difference and it helps him feel closer to, and grateful for you too.
Another reason I’ve hesitated to comment yet on the thread is that even though I’ve enjoyed reading the books and cried along with characters in parts I had not had what others in the thread have experienced in terms of deep emotional experiences. Well yesterday...
I think it happens differently for each of us. Sometimes more strongly, others much less. So, I encourage you to keep sharing. It doesn't matter whether it's a big "breakthrough" or not. Often we are bad judges of that ourselves, anyway. I'd say that what you wrote above is a pretty BIG breakthrough, big emotional release or not.