It was astounding to me to when I saw how some people do not make this connection with love and sex. I did not see it in myself until I encounters a few people that sex was intense and passionate but without love. I could not fathom such an existence so I had to look deep within myself to see that yes I could be such a heartless toad but I never wanted to. I then realized that the connect between love and sex requires a personal commitment to infusing sex with love but for those of us that love so freely this commitment is automatic and that is why we cannot see any separation. I always felt cold around the few people that were like that.For me, it is astonishing to read that someone thinks that it requires conscious effort for love to be a part of sex. My perspective, thoughts, feelings, have always been that it is impossible for sex to be separated from love. Oh, indeed, it is possible to experience sex without love, but it is a degrading and demoralizing experience that one would surely not wish to repeat. It is also possible for bodily urges to overwhelm a person and cause them to imagine love is present when it is not - often resulting in great suffering.
So true.Yes, love can exist without sex; we love different people in many ways. But there is emotional/spiritual love that is enhanced and enriched by physical love expressions and would be incomplete without such manifestations in some way.
That does warm my heart too.In a sense, I think the Hermetic Maxim might apply here: "As above, so below." A high, intense, singular love must necessarily express itself here below in intense, singular physical actions.
I read a very moving statement by one character in a book I read recently (unfortunately, can say which one). After trials and troubles that get settled, the man says to the woman something like: "I love and will make love to you as long as my body has strength; and when I am old and unable, I will still be making love to you in my heart and mind." I cried when I read that because it was so true and deeply meaningful.
However, it would also scare me to have someone say that to me. As a chiropractor I had patient's who so admired me and thought I walked on water. When they say me outside the office in everyday clothes they would change their tune. I soon cringed when any patient spoke so highly of me and how they admired me. Knowing that it would crash and burn when they saw that I was not that hero.
"I love and will make love to you as long as my body has strength; and when I am old and unable, I will still be making love to you in my heart and mind." How could anyone ever live up to such love? I would hope that I could but would be terrified of screwing it up and losing it.
My main point in posting my reaction towards sex scenes was to point out it has changed I am not sure why. Still trying to peal the onion on this and every ones response to it is helping, and especially yours, but I still need to contemplate.