Something to Remember...

[Learner]

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I will elaborate things on my own thread when I get some peace to do so - have been jotting down some notes already.
We are all learners with L-plates - and I am grateful for your understanding and openness for me to relate to Learner. :)

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You are welcome again, happyliza. And thank you very much for your openness to share about your struggles - especially about the issue of relapses. I am not really settled as well diet-wise, because I mess up with too many carbs from time to time (and I am not on the Iodine yet, which seems to make Keto (or Paleo) adaptation easier as far as I understand). If I mess up, it helps me to re-focus on the original way (less carbs in that example) and trying to be gentle with myself then - something I still have to practice quite a lot. I think this is important, because scolding oneself is a waste of energy, because what happened did happen already. Accepting that helps in re-focusing on the original aim and trying again - one step forward; perseverance is key ;)

I hope your partner will get his papers soon and that you will find more peace

Thanks Joe for posting the quote, very beautiful and encouraging!

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Often I feel like I am standing behind that glass door - in the forum and in real life. And I am probably more of a door lurker than a table approacher at many times. So I have admiration as well for those people who manage to share their most difficult struggles, which are in parts my own as well and which I was not brave enough to bring to the table (yet). ... But I find, this thread is encouraging to not give up, to practice opening up which may become easier by time like it is with the cold showers when the body gets more adapted to them.

Thanks for these words Learner, it's another example of how sharing and opening up can be so good. I couldn't have say it better but I feel exactly the same way.

Thank you for your reply and your openness, Yas. It is heartening (and heart-warming) to know that there are other people who feel the same way. It weakens that glass door feeling quite much.

I think part of the problem is that people spend most of their early years opening up to the wrong people simply because they don't have many options, and that's what they base their working model of relationships on. That is some powerful conditioning. But it's just that, a conditioned program that, like you say, is a limitation of knowledge and understanding. When we find people we can truly open up to about difficult subjects it's a real life-changing experience to realize 'oh, we're actually working through this' or 'wow, that deep dark secret of mine was small potatoes all along?' Definitely worthwhile. Thanks for the post.

Thank you for your thoughts, Hesper. The bold sentence rings really true for me. For example, I found myself somewhat surprised to have actually started to open up about those glass door feelings I journalled down just a couple of weeks ago.

Also thank you to everyone else for your contributions and again to Joe for posting this quote. It will definitely find a place on a wall in my room :)

 

[supriyanoel]

Thank you Joe, for these timely words.It's going upon my refrigerator.

 

[shellycheval]

Thanks for sharing Joe. Simple but powerful words that encourage us all to do our part in making this Forum a meeting place of the heart as well as the mind.