Who's asking? (how to be an STO candidate)

[denekin]

Just Some Random Thoughts here: When we share the "Truth" with someone, without adequately establishing their capacity to respond favorably/intelligently to that Truth, we become part of their history of rejecting the Truth. When our desire, our enthusiasm, to share doesn't start with a cautious evaluation of their capacity (something that can be very hard to do) to handle what we are presenting, we are as likely to a bad effect as a good one. Your valid insight that I "need" to understand this idea (whatever idea), is rarely also an insight into my capacity to handle that idea. It doesn't take much intelligence for you to realize I need to change my diet of beer, big Macs and Hostess Twinkies, stop watching Fox News for six hours a day, and stop smoking dope from breakfast to bedtime. It takes real intelligence and insight to know how and when to present those ideas to me in a way that can have authentic positive impact.

Personally, I find it perpetually difficult to know I have information that can help someone and realize that they can't "eat" it; the way they are currently put together
they can't receive the very information they're asking for, but that is often the case. What could be more frustrating than that, especially when dealing with family members and friends?

My own solution to this is doing what I call, "Sitting In The Knowing". I'm there with them, knowing what I know, basically hoping that in listening carefully to them they will indicate to me what I can say, as opposed to all that I desire to say.

My too sense...

 

[Seppo Ilmarinen]

Personally, I find it perpetually difficult to know I have information that can help someone and realize that they can't "eat" it; the way they are currently put together
they can't receive the very information they're asking for, but that is often the case. What could be more frustrating than that, especially when dealing with family members and friends?

My own solution to this is doing what I call, "Sitting In The Knowing". I'm there with them, knowing what I know, basically hoping that in listening carefully to them they will indicate to me what I can say, as opposed to all that I desire to say.

Yeah. What i've found is trying to plant small seeds goes much further than trying to force the truth. It takes more discipline to stay alert and looking for clues for what information the other person could be more open to receive. It can be that someone is more open and interested to knowledge of diet than politics, so it's better to have a discussion on that topic. Often there's no interest for any knowledge and then it's better to stay quiet on deeper topics.