Wife is having serious problems while pregnant-any advice?

Aragorn said:
It seems that this thing is just something my wife will have to endure until the baby is delivered, but I truly wish there would be something we could do to make things easier for her. We have a friend in Germany who is very good at homeopathy, she has sent some homeopathic medicine which should calm down the nervous system. I hope this will come in the mail tomorrow.
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I also had to wear the EKG wrist band 24 hours and had arrhythmia during my pregnancy. I am surprised that the doctors did not suggest magnesium for you wife. This was a lifesaver for me. I had IV Mg but don't remember the dose. It sounds like she needs to up the levels go maybe even 900mg.

I also have a tendency to have iron deficiency as are the women in my family who are Rh neg. Pregnancy always wreaked havoc on our levels. What is your wife's bloodtype? She isn't bleeding or spotting is she? Anthough I haven't been pregnant in 12 years 3 months ago my iron levels were at 12. It is slowly going up now with diet and supplement (and no more DMSA) but still below the recommended range. Loads of greens and nettle is what I am using. I tried meats like liver, beacon but they upset my stomach and leave me vomiting. If you wife is ok with meats she should definitely eat more with soft cooked veggies as Laura suggested. My doctor says liver with onions and broiled chicken is supposed to be good for iron. I wish it didn't make me gag but I keep trying.

Hope your wife finds some relief soon.

Brainwave
 
Thanks Laura and brainwave. My wife's blood type is A, Rh+. She has always had quite low blood pressure. She's aware of the importance of lying on the left side, so that shouldn't be a problem. We could do better with the veggies though-have to work on that one!

However, I'm happy to say that the treatment with my Reiki teacher did wonders! His analysis was that the main thing causing problems for my wife was worrying and being scared for the future (the previous delivery was very traumatic). And that she has been trying to fight this fear, not accepting it, trying to control the situation. In his opinion, this has made my wife contract the body, mainly the hips, inwards - towards the center line of the body.

So, he did a lot of Reiki on the hips (other parts too) and this, according to my wife, brought up very intensive pain that probably was buried deep inside her armouring. After the treatment he gave the advice to accept the fact that she can't control the outcome of things, accept the fact that she's scared and not fight it. During the evening my wife wanted mainly to stay alone with her thoughts-she said there was a lot going on inside her.

Today she has felt good, and we've talked a lot about her fears and the upcoming delivery. And she hasn't had any attacks today either! So, I guess the mental halth is equally important as proper nutrition. And in our/her case, we have probably concentrated too much on the 'material'.

But we keep working on all fronts, both mental and physical. We now feel positive that things will improve! :)
 
His analysis was that the main thing causing problems for my wife was worrying and being scared for the future (the previous delivery was very traumatic). And that she has been trying to fight this fear, not accepting it, trying to control the situation.
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Aragorn, I am so glad that things are improving. The above indeed can be an important factor.

Aside from fear, anger and grief may be involved. A woman can direct those at herself, for not having had a "perfect" delivery that was envisioned, wondering what she did wrong, what she could have done better. Or it could be directed onto doctors and medical establishment for medical errors, for imposing stress or for impersonal or even inhumane treatment. Or, it can be about God or "the way things are": why do some people who do not exercise, whose diet is abysmal, who drink or use drugs and who don't even care about their babies end up having easy and healthy births? why is this so unfair?

This is a sample of the mental and emotional turmoil a woman may be going through when she is, essentially, re-living her previous pregnancy experience with every step of the next one. Any psychological support she can receive at this time will be tremendously helpful. One more thing to look for is support groups for the pregnant women in your area. Meeting with other mothers who have gone through similar issues, and talking to them, may be cathartic, and it can be a start of new friendships as well.

Hope thing will continue to get better! :flowers:
 
Just a little update on our situation.

Tomorrow will be the estimated date of birth for our baby...well, nothing yet. The last weeks have been really heavy for all in our family: my wife having contractions and pain (but not any of the health problems mentioned earlier in this thread!) and difficulties moving, our son going through the emotional turmoils of realizing what is happening (soon mommy will not solely have time for him) and when mommy can't move or play he gets restless, and me trying to keep the household up and running and trying my best to lessen the 'pain' for the other two.

So everything is on hold, we're just waiting and waiting. I feel guilty of saying this, since I'm not the one that should be complaining, but the last months my Work has been on hold too - no reading or serious participating on the forum. It feels a bit frustrating, but on the other hand I know that now is the time for me to care for my family and it's the highest priority right now. And we are soooo excited to see 'who' will come to this world, to get to know this new human being - our baby.

Keep your fingers crossed. We feel well prepared and confident, but anything could happen. And thanks again to everyone who have helped on this thread, I'll keep you posted. :)
 
Best wishes for an easy and peaceful birth! I hope your wife doesn't have to wait much longer! :D
Looking forward to hearing the joyful news of the birth :)
 
wishing you guys all the best, and to your wife especially a safe, easy delivery! Due dates for women in their second or third pregnancy are often underestimated by physicians. Adding three or four days for the due date of a second pregnancy, and up to 5-10 days for subsequent pregnancies would be more accurate. In any case, a due date is for advice only, things will happen when time is right :). Good luck again!
 
You and your family are in my thoughts too!

All the best to you at this intense moment in your lives!

(Intense is the word that comes to my mind when I think of my 3 times experience in seeing the birth of a child within my family.)

What helped ease my mind, is that I think there was very good knowledge and ability in those midwives that I observed when I lived in Espoo.

Of course not all people are the same, and I think one has to be ever watchful for the needs of the mother and make sure they do it.
 
Hi Aragorn,

I’ve been following your progress over the last several weeks and you’ve almost reached the finish line. Congratulations! It sounds like you and your wife have been so caring and attentive and I couldn’t be happier for you and the little waiting to be born.

Two things that always brought calm and quite to my house during those long, trying days of waiting was reading stories and listening to the perfect music. For my oldest child, I read books about being a big sister and what to expect when the new baby arrived and came home. There’s a book out there for every big brother or sister to be and some featuring their favorite characters. Reading also served as a good time to answer questions. I didn’t know what to expect and those books gave me some insight on bringing the new baby home.

I found these titles on-line: “Waiting for Baby” by Rachel Fuller and “There’s A Brand-New Baby at Our House…And I’m the Big Brother” by Sisan Ligon and Megan List.

Best wished for a happy delivery!
 
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