Worried for my mom.

Al Today said:
Harold said:
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I can't think of anyone with a hip replacement I know. I watched one on TV and it was just wild, all the sawing and hammering.
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I had a total hip replacement last March 2011. Yep, they'll get her walking very quickly. The pain after surgery was nothing to the pain I had in the hip before. Whenever I see the hip x-ray, the terminator movie comes to mind. :P
Methinks she will be happy in a very short amount of time. Walking better than she can now, and most likely pain free.!.!.!
That'll make it all worthwhile. Glad I did it. And I bet she will be too.!.!.!
Sawing and hammering... Glad I didn't see that show... :shock:
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Thank-you for sharing your experience Al Today. Glad to hear about the pain relief after the operation. And yes you don't need to see how that operation goes. I won't get into details... very traumatic.

I'm nervous for her situation for 2 main reasons. One is that her knee replacement did not take. By that I mean it is very painful for her, she has some kind of nerve damage in her knee .... at least that is how she describes what the doctor told her. So her knee is still painful but her hip is much more painful. So I am concerned that the hip may not 'take' to her body either. The second reason is that she had about 6 stints put in last year and the doctors want to replace both her knee and hip. But as my mom explains it, they wont consider it due to her heart condition(I think, I got that right). So yea, hope that explains my reaction to her situation.

It is great to hear how well your hip replacement went Al Today. Glad to hear it. And Thank-you for sharing your positive experience, it has really helped to ease my mind a little this morning.

Laura said:
Yep, Al is right. When you suffer that kind of pain, you are READY to get it OUT!

I saw a photo on the news the other day of Queen Elizabeth on horseback, so she's not doing too shabby!
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Oh yea... she is ready. I look forward to seeing her recover and walking normal again in years.

Puck said:
Just wanted to wish you and your family good vibes Harold!

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I appreciate the sentiments Puck, thank-you.

Buddy said:
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Well, I do have an issue with this integration between the 2. I guess the principle's that apply to the big picture also apply to the little picture? Laws of attraction and so fourth? In general I do think of what is best for the universe in a way when I 'act', speak etc. I am having a little difficulty explaining this, let alone understanding it. As it is very challenging to do at all times. But is that possibly what you mean? I define little picture as my personal life and all those connected to it. The big picture is everything outside of that. The 2 operate under the same rules more or less. This is my simple explanation of it. These rules are what connects the 2. This is the integration. In the big picture, can 2 objects occupy the same space at the same time? In the little picture we are all 1? I don't have the answers or even know if I am following you... so let me know.
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Hi Harold. Apologies for any confusion. I was speaking more in systems terms, I suppose, and suggesting that any perceived conflicts between "pictures" just means that more info is needed to make sense of everything. It was almost as if I was thinking you were preparing for a round of "faith healing". :D Anyway, you got the important bits, though, and it seems that a pragmatic approach would be more relevant. I agree that this is an area where doctors do their best work!

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IMO Buddy, no apology necessary. It is my lack of vocabulary and technical knowledge of the terms. 'Faith healing' I know of the term but am not sure of what is involved. Any healing sounds like it is order. Guess I have another term to look up.

Again, everybody, thank-you for the support, mom is in having her hip replaced now, my sister will let me know when it is a good time to go see her. I made arrangements to bring dad to go see her tommorow.
 
Just a last little update on my mom. Her operation went well, only a hour and a half long. The doctor is happy with how it went. She looks (to me that is) good.

Again thank-you to those who have shared about hip replacements, prayer and the readings. It has been very helpful.
 
Isnt it amazing that you can have people from all over the world praying for your mother just because of this incredible website???? Also, I'm sure this was completely sincere praying and, if I recall correctly, gurdjieff said something about prayers being a lot more likely to make difference if they are STO. so glad to hear it went well!
 
another quick update...

she did not get off to a great start today, fever... panick.... at having to stand and sit. I'm anxiously waiting to hear from my sis...

I think I got a bug at the hospital, I had to leave, I am in pain and starting to sweat.

But while there today I had a hugh emotional outburst... for a guy that is.

The physio women, cute but really tough, had to ask me to keep back as I almost jumped on them to help, mom as she was panicking trying to stand.

Later my sis left to go eat, I was there with mom alone, she kept passing out and I kept talking to keep her conscious. I talked about a veal sandwich and how the price went up at commissos, my sis was talking about it earlier. It was a little scarry for a laymen like me. Later...The physio girls were helping the Italian Lady in the next bed and were joking with mom, saying let the kids help, I was putting cold compress on her head, the wrong way of course. Mom was on the morphene and was saying all kinds of crazy stuff. In her daze she looked over to all the ladies and said "he always is like this.... he takes good care of me always" must of been the drugs talking, but that did not stop me from loosing it. I stood as erect as possible and proudly said " this woman adopted me!" She whipped my nose and changed my diapers! Dont know where that came from...When sis arrived, I had to leave and go outside to smoke and burst out in tears. AND I did talk to my inner child! and said it is in gods hands.... earlier that day I lost it too at the nativity scene, the baby jesus seemed so alive , I cried and talked to him a little. I just want to hear from my sis... I am in tears right now as I type I dont know why. Thank-you, thank-you, thank-you..... all of you. :flowers: I have not read the new comments I will tomorrow and will respond to them all.
 
just talked to my dad, the leafs are winning 3 nothing, mom is good the rest of the day went well I guess, my sister will fill me in. I think I have to go to emerg. My teeth need to be pulled or something I am in so much pain. I caught something at the hospital.
 
Thanx again to everyone for the prayers and good thoughts. I have not slept or ate much, I have been thinking and reviewing life, my life, lives of others etc. Its been almost a couple years since I joined this forum. I have made efforts to be considerate to my folks. Accept them and the journey we have been on together. The quality of our relationship has improved in those almost 2 years. I have been able to find a middle ground where I have not felt so compromised as a person and can still be the person they want me to be also. On top of that my knowledge and beliefs has become even more radical (to my family) than ever! This is too weird, but so good. My mother has allot of attitude when it comes to ouija boards... and I can't blame her. In the wrong hands they are sketchy at best.

I've never told her about this forum and she seems very curious as to my spiritual life and my silence about it in the last two years. I have allot of baggage surrounding being 'interrogated' by my mom. Now I seem to find the right words at the right time. They always ask if I go back to my church... a new age one for psychics... I say no. At my folks home there has been some poltergeist stuff going on that she always tells me about. Last week she asked me if I still read spiritual stuff like I used to.... I said yes.

I hid from them my situation about my injury I recently received... who was I fooling I dont know... she is intuitive as a mother and knew something was up. I finally came clean about it in as gentle a way as possible... it worked out.

I have been looking at my predatory side, in particular how I have used pity over the years. How I have used pity in a negative way to get sympathy, financial help etc. If they felt sorry for me, they were less inclined to judge me.... it was a good and bad ploy on my behalf, no excuses here.... but the harsh judgement was crushing to my inner child, I am starting to see glimpses in my understanding of this. I just wanted peace in our home and for them, they are so full of fear and in my twisted mind I thought that if I could just get them to see we are all different and each of our pain is to be understood not judged. Pity seemed to be the way to go. As a young adult/lad I was full of .... and please excuse the term.... 'piss n vinegar', no pity for anything, take no prisoners sort of attitude. It was hurtful to those around me. A damaged unit ready to take on the world.... well in the end.... the world pretty much took the (sorry for the language) 'piss' out of me.

The whole pity thing is still a little enigmatic for me, but I feel I am about to really examine this double edged sword I have created for myself. As my 'pity ploys' are more of a later in life phenom for me... I think... I could be wrong.... I dont know yet... still working that all out.

Anyways, in this last month, even before I knew of her operation coming up, I have managed to find some common or middle ground where I have been open with my mother and father in a way that they can accept and are comfortable with. I have been so much more chatty with them. Making efforts to act in a way that gives them some peace and closure in how we interact. My father and I have never genuinely laughed at each other in so long I cant remember.... but it happened on christmas day! I can see subtle changes now. Yes I am nervous in the back of my mind that I am just fooling myself. But I try to remember this...'by their fruits, you shall know them' and for my father and I to laugh together and joke with no hidden hurtfulness, for me to sit and listen to his beliefs, was never possible without many an argument. I always come back to EE mostly... it has taken the edgyness away in many ways that now I really see that I can manage to be me and still be a good son... prior I thought the "twaine/two shall never meet". I cannot say I know what the solutions are but inside I feel like there are solutions, if I can get out of the way long enough to let them materialize... this has brought great comfort to me and my family.

In short, without getting into all the mushy details, this was one of the best christmasses I can remember. Broke, broken body and all. I bought a bunch of scratch off lottery tickets and chocolates. Anyone who knows me, knows that I dont support either lottery tickets or eating sweets. But hey! Who am I to judge. I nicely wrapped them all with notes of love on them, everyone (pretended at least) to enjoy my little gifts, I was not ashamed at all, I just wanted to be apart of the fun. I really dressed up too! Last Christmas I think I wore a hockey jersey that came out of a case of beer a friend gave me, y'know those give aways to get ya to buy their beer. A looser probably in the eyes of some but now I care about other things rather than worrying about what others think. I am just so glad to not be the source of upset in my family. I have gone from being the son/uncle who others roll their eyes thinking.... oh lordy please dont get him started on his B***S***. To hey!.... can ya give us a hand in the kitchen! For me that is a life long dream.... again it is these subtle differences that mean so much to me. Then again.... I could be wrong.

Thanx guys. Your well wishes have given me confidence to show my folk's a softer gentler side of myself(dad and I are talking like never before)... to network more with this forum and feel more apart of this forum. I plan to use this new found confidence to grow, learn and BE. Your paitience is so appreciated by me... I plan to disappoint you all as little as possible and maybe even make a couple of ya proud.... hope that's ok. My mom is in good hands.... not mine but DCM's... through all these prayers and good words too I think is so much help in a hidden way. :hug2:
 
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