Pat what you are experiencing is so very normal; that deep instinct to reach out, guide and support your son, shield and protect him from things the uninitiated are not yet aware of, try to prevent 'horrible things' from happening, observing ways they can (wittingly and unwittingly) be so destructive to themselves (and others!), wanting to engage in positive ways. I know it is so hard watching your adult child struggle, but the more you try to soften things for them, the longer and harder the lessons become - for all involved.
It takes some hard falls, big scrapes and bruises along the way before most of us can recognise and appreciate the (hard won!) wisdom and insight of our elders, let alone have the intelligence to be willing to sit down quietly and ask for Knowledge. It also takes a lot more suffering before we are actually able to employ the skill of
really listening / hearing / learning to SEE.
It's good that you say he is aware of some things the C's say. And yet, even if we share Knowledge with our kids, they will not necessarily 'get it'. We had to go through a lot of pain and suffering to recognise the truth and depth of Laura's words about our reality and what the C's have shared. So we must be patient with the young ones and have
Faith in the Universe and respect for their individual soul path and how they choose to journey it.
The way I see it, a young one that is launching himself into the world and pulling away from his mother and close family to some degree is actually a good sign, a healthy thing; he knows and feels that it is time to leave the nest and he wants and needs to prove to himself he is capable of being the captain of his own ship. You have gifted him so much all these years, perhaps now
it is time to have Faith in his higher self and trust that he has his own path to explore in his own way. You will always love him and be there for him, but it takes practice not to constantly step in and 'right' the direction of his ship. It's very hard, can be very painful, but hey, as an analogy I guess it's a bigger version of teaching them to ride a bike. They have to learn balance, how to trust that when you let go they can keep their momentum, how to brake and not fall off, then they progress to going faster and trying a few 'jumps' and tricks. If they go downhill too fast and come off on gravel it's a super painful lesson, but one they are not likely to repeat in a hurry! I
look at kids pushing us away as a good sign - even though we know it's going to be messy and painful at times. 'All there is, is lessons.'
My first thought reading your posts was:
does your son have a healthy male role model around that he is close to - and did he have this growing up? As an extension of this: are there any elders in the community / older males whom your son looks up to - are there those who can 'take him under their wing' a little bit and keep an eye on him, engage with him in ways that he is open to? Does he have any friends who are mature / have a healthy mindset and conduct?
Your son is young and exploring what it is to become a man and will need ongoing guidance around this - and likely he won't place much value or merit on feedback from the feminine at this point.
IMO, a lot of young men don't really know how to share and express their feelings and thoughts actively, and society often doesn't really create space for them to do that easily - they need time and space to learn to do that safely -
with other men - who are more skilled and who understand and can demonstrate the value of networking openly, to illuminate the fact that this is possible without feeling like their 'manhood' is being diminished, or that they are less of a man if they have fears / deep feelings / are unsure of themselves / feel lost or confused at times.
Another thought was:
what are his interests, what is he focused on, how does he harness and direct his energy? Is he 'outdoorsy', does he have healthy activities he can engage in, ways he can apply his mind, skills he can learn which help expand and ground his energy, give him more of a sense of purpose and direction, things that help affirm his value and natural gifts.
Many can see clearly how much the internet is influencing the younger generation in such negative ways; a lot of young ones seem to feel utterly hopeless about the future of humanity and the planet, and there is so much toxicity being shared online. This is a challenging path to navigate - again I wonder if there are others in your community who can network with him and support him to seek Knowledge to transform his algorithm, explore other perspectives?
Prayers for you and your son that positive pathways can open to support you both - and as Fluffy emphasised, it is so important to take really good care of yourself, as this stage of early adulting in our kids can be very draining unless we are vigilant. I think daily prayer that is not attached to a particular 'outcome' but instead welcomes higher vibration and clear guidance can be very powerful.
You know your son better than anyone else; for sure, acknowledge your concerns and fears, but also focus on the wonderful things about him, all his strengths and positive qualities. Perhaps it helps to visualise him daily finding balance and healing in his own way. It's ok and normal to have fears and concerns about our kids, but it's important to also see and acknowledge all the lovely things and higher potential that is waiting in the wings, to flourish. I am in no way trying to minimise what you shared about him not being fully connected to this world and I am not suggesting he will be 'perfectly fine', I am just trying to say that he came here for his own experiences, it takes a freaking village to raise a child, he is fortunate to have a mother who loves and cares so much for him, who will always be there with loving arms, listening ears and a nourishing meal if/when he needs that.
It feels like this is a great time to be
focusing a bit more on things that also feed your soul and make you happy, it will make you lighter energetically and easier for him to connect with you when he sees his mama shining and inspired. Many of us feel if our kids are not ok, we should only be focused on them until they are flying gracefully from the nest, gliding like swans out into the sunset... but it's important to remember that they learn real self love/self care and how to fly best: by example.
