How are you feeling?

I am really struggling right now.

You will be in our prayers Pat.
I'm glad you told what you are going through.
I'm not so sure that your artistic activity is escapism.
I think it is very healthy and therapeutic, especially when we are in such difficult times as you are going through.
Try to stay calm as much as you can.
I hope others here can give you some more practical suggestions, and that the situation gets better soon.
One question Pat, how old is your son?
I send you a hug.❤️

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You will be in our prayers Pat.
I'm glad you told what you are going through.
I'm not so sure that your artistic activity is escapism.
I think it is very healthy and therapeutic, especially when we are in such difficult times as you are going through.
Try to stay calm as much as you can.
I hope others here can give you some more practical suggestions, and that the situation gets better soon.
One question Pat, how old is your son?
I send you a hug.❤️

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Thank you for the message of encouragement. My son is 21
 
Haven‘t seen it posted on the forum

am really struggling right now. Been thinking about posting before but didn't know where to begin.
The struggle is simple I am forcing my help unto my son who thinks he doesn't require it. Simple right? Free will and I should trust the universe to provide and let thing be how it should be. But the emotional part is so very strong there and I don't seem to be able to let it go. All the family members and friends talk to me about me forcing him (adult age) to be admitted in a medical center...
First, he doesn't want my help
Second, we have a conflictual relationship
Third, he is now out of the house, don't know about his financial means
Fourth, to "help" I only have the legal forcing way.

I really want to trust the universe that there is no mistake made and that we all have a part to play whatever it is.

Today i have decided to Concentrate on my circle of influence, what I can be... I have been doubling on my portrait painting (escapism for me),preparing for an expo soon.
But the strong feeling of forcing my help is still there, can't shake it off. :(
Thank you for reading
Thank you for sharing your situation Pat. When you don't know where to begin, just beginning (in the way that you have) is already a giant leap in the right direction. My hope is that just beginning to network about your situation here will begin to open new possibilities for you.
You have described a very difficult situation and my heart goes out to you. As you have mentioned family and friends wanting you to somehow convince your son to enter a medical facility, does this mean that there is a psychological concern? Or is it something else?
It seems that you have decided on a course of action, which can't be a bad thing if it gives you the space and opportunity to allow all those intense emotions to settle a little, and hopefully this in turn will help you to discern where your desire to 'force help' is coming from.

You will be in our prayers Pat.
Most definitely.
 
All the family members and friends talk to me about me forcing him (adult age) to be admitted in a medical center..
Do you mean that they are saying you should, or shouldn't? Maybe you could explain a bit more what is going on, if it's okay with you?

In any case, we are thinking about you! Hang in there. Not knowing any details it is hard to say, but perhaps focusing on your "circle of influence" helps you find a compromise between making it known that you are there if help is asked for, and allowing for your son to learn his own lessons.
 
Thank you for sharing your situation Pat. When you don't know where to begin, just beginning (in the way that you have) is already a giant leap in the right direction. My hope is that just beginning to network about your situation here will begin to open new possibilities for you.
You have described a very difficult situation and my heart goes out to you. As you have mentioned family and friends wanting you to somehow convince your son to enter a medical facility, does this mean that there is a psychological concern? Or is it something else?
It seems that you have decided on a course of action, which can't be a bad thing if it gives you the space and opportunity to allow all those intense emotions to settle a little, and hopefully this in turn will help you to discern where your desire to 'force help' is coming from.


Most definitely.
I just recently admitted to myself that my son had psychological difficulties that i couldn't help shake out. I realised that the help had to come from someone else.

He is not fully connected to our dimension if I could say that. Aware of many things the Cs talked about but also taking on some destructive believes from the Internet. Fighting alone and loosing the battle. He needs your prayers. Thank you all.
 
Do you mean that they are saying you should, or shouldn't? Maybe you could explain a bit more what is going on, if it's okay with you?

In any case, we are thinking about you! Hang in there. Not knowing any details it is hard to say, but perhaps focusing on your "circle of influence" helps you find a compromise between making it known that you are there if help is asked for, and allowing for your son to learn his own lessons.
Some family and friends think I should force him to enter an institution but talking around today to legals, medicals in different centers, I have the sense that they understand the dilemma of making the decision for him or not and also understand the failure of the system. There is no preventive help, the process if started is very long and of course the adult needs to ask for help (which usually they don't feel they need)... so very frustrating
 
Some family and friends think I should force him to enter an institution but talking around today to legals, medicals in different centers, I have the sense that they understand the dilemma of making the decision for him or not and also understand the failure of the system. There is no preventive help, the process if started is very long and of course the adult needs to ask for help (which usually they don't feel they need)... so very frustrating
I stand beside you wholly in solidarity, understanding and as a sister who is deeply connected to knowing how this is affecting you and your family.
I can only offer my experience with my then teen who was completely off the rails, cutting, starving herself in the day, awake all night binge eating junk food, disgusting hygiene, mental health deep in the bowels of the sewer.. she refused all help we offered and had to find what she needed in her own time on her own terms while we sat back and watched and prayed. Some days I would stand outside her bedroom door in the morning not wanting to go in because I was beside myself in fear of what I’d find, so I’d not go in, just so I could have a few more moments of believing my child was still alive. She threatened suicide many times, desperately screaming for help but refusing at the same time. Numerous occasions I went into her room with a razor blade in desperation to understand or release some of my pain, crying my heart out begging her to show me how to cut myself so I don’t hurt anymore, Her body is covered with scars- battle wounds, hundreds of them on her arms stomach and legs. One occasion after 2 or 3 years of this going in she locked herself in the bathroom with a blade threatening to kill herself again. I could do nothing but yell back at her that if she didn’t come out I’d call the police. She thought I was bluffing but I wasn’t, I put my phone on speaker and called them so she could hear. She was furious at me, they came and took her away in a paddy wagon. Soon after she realised that the offers of going to a mental hospital that the counsellor she’d prescribed herself had been suggesting was the best chance for any kind of recovery.

I stood by her the whole time telling her what I saw, how it was affecting us, how I saw it was affecting her. I was suggested a few books to read here on the forum and the one that helped me understand my role in it all was The Narcissistic Family, the title put me off a lot, but reading it really let me to some deep realisations of my role in her suffering that I could share with my broken child and let her know that I was truly there along side her all the way doing everything I could to support her in her deep pain.

But I got sick, really really sick, because I didn’t take care of myself while all of this was going on. I was not eating, not sleeping, pushing away emotions, arguing with my very ignorant partner whose head was submerged deeply in his ass about everything, I parented my other children with detachment, I lost love and faith in the universe and I myself became a shell of the fragmented self I was in the first place.
So I say, dear Pat, please take care of yourself, having an unwell child in any way pulls so hard on the heartstrings that if we don’t give ourself love and compassion for the struggles we are enduring those strings just might snap, and it takes some very hard work in a hollow self created hell to try to reknit them, I’m still working on it.
Be open with your son, tell him how you are feeling and what you can see his struggles are, but ultimately he will do what he does so you have to put yourself first (this sounds awful I know) so you are there to catch him when he needs you.
See a counsellor if that’s possible for you, eat well, take long relaxing baths, try some yoga Nidra (I love it) and please trust the universe knows what it’s doing, above all, you are loved and you are supported.

You’ll be in my prayers, and your son too.
 
Today i have decided to Concentrate on my circle of influence, what I can be... I have been doubling on my portrait painting (escapism for me),preparing for an expo soon.
But the strong feeling of forcing my help is still there, can't shake it off.
Pat what you are experiencing is so very normal; that deep instinct to reach out, guide and support your son, shield and protect him from things the uninitiated are not yet aware of, try to prevent 'horrible things' from happening, observing ways they can (wittingly and unwittingly) be so destructive to themselves (and others!), wanting to engage in positive ways. I know it is so hard watching your adult child struggle, but the more you try to soften things for them, the longer and harder the lessons become - for all involved.

It takes some hard falls, big scrapes and bruises along the way before most of us can recognise and appreciate the (hard won!) wisdom and insight of our elders, let alone have the intelligence to be willing to sit down quietly and ask for Knowledge. It also takes a lot more suffering before we are actually able to employ the skill of really listening / hearing / learning to SEE.

It's good that you say he is aware of some things the C's say. And yet, even if we share Knowledge with our kids, they will not necessarily 'get it'. We had to go through a lot of pain and suffering to recognise the truth and depth of Laura's words about our reality and what the C's have shared. So we must be patient with the young ones and have Faith in the Universe and respect for their individual soul path and how they choose to journey it.

The way I see it, a young one that is launching himself into the world and pulling away from his mother and close family to some degree is actually a good sign, a healthy thing; he knows and feels that it is time to leave the nest and he wants and needs to prove to himself he is capable of being the captain of his own ship. You have gifted him so much all these years, perhaps now it is time to have Faith in his higher self and trust that he has his own path to explore in his own way. You will always love him and be there for him, but it takes practice not to constantly step in and 'right' the direction of his ship. It's very hard, can be very painful, but hey, as an analogy I guess it's a bigger version of teaching them to ride a bike. They have to learn balance, how to trust that when you let go they can keep their momentum, how to brake and not fall off, then they progress to going faster and trying a few 'jumps' and tricks. If they go downhill too fast and come off on gravel it's a super painful lesson, but one they are not likely to repeat in a hurry! I look at kids pushing us away as a good sign - even though we know it's going to be messy and painful at times. 'All there is, is lessons.'

I just recently admitted to myself that my son had psychological difficulties that i couldn't help shake out. I realised that the help had to come from someone else.
My first thought reading your posts was: does your son have a healthy male role model around that he is close to - and did he have this growing up? As an extension of this: are there any elders in the community / older males whom your son looks up to - are there those who can 'take him under their wing' a little bit and keep an eye on him, engage with him in ways that he is open to? Does he have any friends who are mature / have a healthy mindset and conduct?

Your son is young and exploring what it is to become a man and will need ongoing guidance around this - and likely he won't place much value or merit on feedback from the feminine at this point. IMO, a lot of young men don't really know how to share and express their feelings and thoughts actively, and society often doesn't really create space for them to do that easily - they need time and space to learn to do that safely - with other men - who are more skilled and who understand and can demonstrate the value of networking openly, to illuminate the fact that this is possible without feeling like their 'manhood' is being diminished, or that they are less of a man if they have fears / deep feelings / are unsure of themselves / feel lost or confused at times.

Another thought was: what are his interests, what is he focused on, how does he harness and direct his energy? Is he 'outdoorsy', does he have healthy activities he can engage in, ways he can apply his mind, skills he can learn which help expand and ground his energy, give him more of a sense of purpose and direction, things that help affirm his value and natural gifts.

Many can see clearly how much the internet is influencing the younger generation in such negative ways; a lot of young ones seem to feel utterly hopeless about the future of humanity and the planet, and there is so much toxicity being shared online. This is a challenging path to navigate - again I wonder if there are others in your community who can network with him and support him to seek Knowledge to transform his algorithm, explore other perspectives?

Prayers for you and your son that positive pathways can open to support you both - and as Fluffy emphasised, it is so important to take really good care of yourself, as this stage of early adulting in our kids can be very draining unless we are vigilant. I think daily prayer that is not attached to a particular 'outcome' but instead welcomes higher vibration and clear guidance can be very powerful.

You know your son better than anyone else; for sure, acknowledge your concerns and fears, but also focus on the wonderful things about him, all his strengths and positive qualities. Perhaps it helps to visualise him daily finding balance and healing in his own way. It's ok and normal to have fears and concerns about our kids, but it's important to also see and acknowledge all the lovely things and higher potential that is waiting in the wings, to flourish. I am in no way trying to minimise what you shared about him not being fully connected to this world and I am not suggesting he will be 'perfectly fine', I am just trying to say that he came here for his own experiences, it takes a freaking village to raise a child, he is fortunate to have a mother who loves and cares so much for him, who will always be there with loving arms, listening ears and a nourishing meal if/when he needs that.

It feels like this is a great time to be focusing a bit more on things that also feed your soul and make you happy, it will make you lighter energetically and easier for him to connect with you when he sees his mama shining and inspired. Many of us feel if our kids are not ok, we should only be focused on them until they are flying gracefully from the nest, gliding like swans out into the sunset... but it's important to remember that they learn real self love/self care and how to fly best: by example.:hug2:
 
Pat what you are experiencing is so very normal; that deep instinct to reach out, guide and support your son, shield and protect him from things the uninitiated are not yet aware of, try to prevent 'horrible things' from happening, observing ways they can (wittingly and unwittingly) be so destructive to themselves (and others!), wanting to engage in positive ways. I know it is so hard watching your adult child struggle, but the more you try to soften things for them, the longer and harder the lessons become - for all involved.

It takes some hard falls, big scrapes and bruises along the way before most of us can recognise and appreciate the (hard won!) wisdom and insight of our elders, let alone have the intelligence to be willing to sit down quietly and ask for Knowledge. It also takes a lot more suffering before we are actually able to employ the skill of really listening / hearing / learning to SEE.

It's good that you say he is aware of some things the C's say. And yet, even if we share Knowledge with our kids, they will not necessarily 'get it'. We had to go through a lot of pain and suffering to recognise the truth and depth of Laura's words about our reality and what the C's have shared. So we must be patient with the young ones and have Faith in the Universe and respect for their individual soul path and how they choose to journey it.

The way I see it, a young one that is launching himself into the world and pulling away from his mother and close family to some degree is actually a good sign, a healthy thing; he knows and feels that it is time to leave the nest and he wants and needs to prove to himself he is capable of being the captain of his own ship. You have gifted him so much all these years, perhaps now it is time to have Faith in his higher self and trust that he has his own path to explore in his own way. You will always love him and be there for him, but it takes practice not to constantly step in and 'right' the direction of his ship. It's very hard, can be very painful, but hey, as an analogy I guess it's a bigger version of teaching them to ride a bike. They have to learn balance, how to trust that when you let go they can keep their momentum, how to brake and not fall off, then they progress to going faster and trying a few 'jumps' and tricks. If they go downhill too fast and come off on gravel it's a super painful lesson, but one they are not likely to repeat in a hurry! I look at kids pushing us away as a good sign - even though we know it's going to be messy and painful at times. 'All there is, is lessons.'


My first thought reading your posts was: does your son have a healthy male role model around that he is close to - and did he have this growing up? As an extension of this: are there any elders in the community / older males whom your son looks up to - are there those who can 'take him under their wing' a little bit and keep an eye on him, engage with him in ways that he is open to? Does he have any friends who are mature / have a healthy mindset and conduct?

Your son is young and exploring what it is to become a man and will need ongoing guidance around this - and likely he won't place much value or merit on feedback from the feminine at this point. IMO, a lot of young men don't really know how to share and express their feelings and thoughts actively, and society often doesn't really create space for them to do that easily - they need time and space to learn to do that safely - with other men - who are more skilled and who understand and can demonstrate the value of networking openly, to illuminate the fact that this is possible without feeling like their 'manhood' is being diminished, or that they are less of a man if they have fears / deep feelings / are unsure of themselves / feel lost or confused at times.

Another thought was: what are his interests, what is he focused on, how does he harness and direct his energy? Is he 'outdoorsy', does he have healthy activities he can engage in, ways he can apply his mind, skills he can learn which help expand and ground his energy, give him more of a sense of purpose and direction, things that help affirm his value and natural gifts.

Many can see clearly how much the internet is influencing the younger generation in such negative ways; a lot of young ones seem to feel utterly hopeless about the future of humanity and the planet, and there is so much toxicity being shared online. This is a challenging path to navigate - again I wonder if there are others in your community who can network with him and support him to seek Knowledge to transform his algorithm, explore other perspectives?

Prayers for you and your son that positive pathways can open to support you both - and as Fluffy emphasised, it is so important to take really good care of yourself, as this stage of early adulting in our kids can be very draining unless we are vigilant. I think daily prayer that is not attached to a particular 'outcome' but instead welcomes higher vibration and clear guidance can be very powerful.

You know your son better than anyone else; for sure, acknowledge your concerns and fears, but also focus on the wonderful things about him, all his strengths and positive qualities. Perhaps it helps to visualise him daily finding balance and healing in his own way. It's ok and normal to have fears and concerns about our kids, but it's important to also see and acknowledge all the lovely things and higher potential that is waiting in the wings, to flourish. I am in no way trying to minimise what you shared about him not being fully connected to this world and I am not suggesting he will be 'perfectly fine', I am just trying to say that he came here for his own experiences, it takes a freaking village to raise a child, he is fortunate to have a mother who loves and cares so much for him, who will always be there with loving arms, listening ears and a nourishing meal if/when he needs that.

It feels like this is a great time to be focusing a bit more on things that also feed your soul and make you happy, it will make you lighter energetically and easier for him to connect with you when he sees his mama shining and inspired. Many of us feel if our kids are not ok, we should only be focused on them until they are flying gracefully from the nest, gliding like swans out into the sunset... but it's important to remember that they learn real self love/self care and how to fly best: by example.:hug2:
Thank you so very much @forest_light for the lengthy strong positive message. It gives me a boost, a reminder to trust the universe. :-)
My son doesn't have any role model. Either some let him down (dad and brother) either people are not willing to help so far.
He doesn't have friends or acquaintances. He used to find science and math easy until something blocked him to access that part of the brain. He can't seem to focus now except for all ethereal, hyper dimensions questions. He zones out most of the time during the day. He is very dedicated to find answers but has no-one to talk to. He told me about the feminine energy not being beneficial for him at the moment.
I will definitely look at him now with a smile (instead of fear of not able to help more) knowing that he is here for a reason and he has his lessons to learn.
Independent, he wants to be but don't know where to start. We are looking for help but there are so many urdles.
He wanted to become a professional footballer, he was so very fast at the time. The unsuccessful outcome weights on him still. Mechanic, or forgery (very male) are jobs he thinks he could learn but it wouldn't be in school setting...
One more thing. He eats for comfort but also for protection (bigger feels safer).
Thank you for allowing me to remember how the physical reality, with attachments, dramas are not all there are.
Analogy for me, it's like me trying to come out of the hot cauldron before it boils but being pulled back every time by drama.
Take care all!!
 
I stand beside you wholly in solidarity, understanding and as a sister who is deeply connected to knowing how this is affecting you and your family.
I can only offer my experience with my then teen who was completely off the rails, cutting, starving herself in the day, awake all night binge eating junk food, disgusting hygiene, mental health deep in the bowels of the sewer.. she refused all help we offered and had to find what she needed in her own time on her own terms while we sat back and watched and prayed. Some days I would stand outside her bedroom door in the morning not wanting to go in because I was beside myself in fear of what I’d find, so I’d not go in, just so I could have a few more moments of believing my child was still alive. She threatened suicide many times, desperately screaming for help but refusing at the same time. Numerous occasions I went into her room with a razor blade in desperation to understand or release some of my pain, crying my heart out begging her to show me how to cut myself so I don’t hurt anymore, Her body is covered with scars- battle wounds, hundreds of them on her arms stomach and legs. One occasion after 2 or 3 years of this going in she locked herself in the bathroom with a blade threatening to kill herself again. I could do nothing but yell back at her that if she didn’t come out I’d call the police. She thought I was bluffing but I wasn’t, I put my phone on speaker and called them so she could hear. She was furious at me, they came and took her away in a paddy wagon. Soon after she realised that the offers of going to a mental hospital that the counsellor she’d prescribed herself had been suggesting was the best chance for any kind of recovery.

I stood by her the whole time telling her what I saw, how it was affecting us, how I saw it was affecting her. I was suggested a few books to read here on the forum and the one that helped me understand my role in it all was The Narcissistic Family, the title put me off a lot, but reading it really let me to some deep realisations of my role in her suffering that I could share with my broken child and let her know that I was truly there along side her all the way doing everything I could to support her in her deep pain.

But I got sick, really really sick, because I didn’t take care of myself while all of this was going on. I was not eating, not sleeping, pushing away emotions, arguing with my very ignorant partner whose head was submerged deeply in his ass about everything, I parented my other children with detachment, I lost love and faith in the universe and I myself became a shell of the fragmented self I was in the first place.
So I say, dear Pat, please take care of yourself, having an unwell child in any way pulls so hard on the heartstrings that if we don’t give ourself love and compassion for the struggles we are enduring those strings just might snap, and it takes some very hard work in a hollow self created hell to try to reknit them, I’m still working on it.
Be open with your son, tell him how you are feeling and what you can see his struggles are, but ultimately he will do what he does so you have to put yourself first (this sounds awful I know) so you are there to catch him when he needs you.
See a counsellor if that’s possible for you, eat well, take long relaxing baths, try some yoga Nidra (I love it) and please trust the universe knows what it’s doing, above all, you are loved and you are supported.

You’ll be in my prayers, and your son too.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your experience @Fluffy. It took courage to share it and so much more so to live through it. I send you strength to help build back your stamina.
I will follow your great advice about looking after myself... I feel over loaded with choices to make and the living with the aftermath.
Take good care of yourself dear sister in arms and love to your family
 
He wanted to become a professional footballer, he was so very fast at the time. The unsuccessful outcome weights on him still.
Maybe football was only ever meant to be a tool in his life that would contribute to his physical / mental health + wellbeing.

Mechanic, or forgery (very male) are jobs he thinks he could learn but it wouldn't be in school setting...
He could volunteer to work for free for a mechanic willing to mentor him - for maybe a couple of weeks / a month with the option at the end of the 'trial' to possibly becoming an apprentice. If he doesn't like it, he can leave - the owner loses nothing, your son gains some knowledge and valuable life experience. Working in mechanics might help reactivate his brain on a practical and logical level, get neurons firing, ground him more, keep him occupied, expand his mind and self worth. A month of work would likely give them both enough time to demonstrate that he can show up on time consistently, work hard, be relied upon, listen and carry out instructions - that he is a good fit for the team. If he doesn't like it, he could try a different trade.

One more thing. He eats for comfort but also for protection (bigger feels safer).
So understandable. He didn't get initiated into manhood by his father / broader community - there is great hurt and confusion there, he is unsure of himself, does not know where he belongs, does not know or trust what it is to be a man. He did not get recognised as a man, was not welcomed by the tribe, did not learn how to 'read' others, protect himself and others, did not learn by assimilation about his responsibilities / how to stand as a man in his community. Perhaps over time as he matures he will meet other men who emulate authentic qualities / strengths and may recognise, value and learn from them. (work mentor?)
'Eagles fly with eagles, crows with crows.'

Thank you for allowing me to remember how the physical reality, with attachments, dramas are not all there are.
You are most welcome, thanks for sharing. So much of our experience is illusion, manipulation, programming. I'm sure that when we get to 5D we probably see that with a great deal more clarity; pretty sure I'm going to be howling with laughter looking back at my life and many things I worried about, stressed over - particularly as a parent. Most of us do our very best - and that's all we can do! 🤗
 
I sympathize with your situation. I have a son of the same age whom I raised alone. Everything that has to do with children hits us head-on, and it's so hard to stay in our place so that our children can live their life lessons to the full. When I'm faced with a dilemma concerning my position as a parent, I always ask myself whether or not I'm interfering in a life lesson for my son. If the answer is yes, I do nothing and let him endure what he has to go through to grow up. Good luck, it's so hard to be a parent sometimes.
 
I sympathize with your situation. I have a son of the same age whom I raised alone. Everything that has to do with children hits us head-on, and it's so hard to stay in our place so that our children can live their life lessons to the full. When I'm faced with a dilemma concerning my position as a parent, I always ask myself whether or not I'm interfering in a life lesson for my son. If the answer is yes, I do nothing and let him endure what he has to go through to grow up. Good luck, it's so hard to be a parent sometimes.
Yes it is hard to be a parent for one child even more so for more than one child. What works for one doesn't work for another. It's also true to stay in our place and do nothing. I am dealing with lying to myself, like "he needs me because i know how" or "I will do it now and next time I won't". After a few days It looks like I AM the needy one.
Waouh! So hard not to cross the line. Well, will need a serious talk with myself and stop that nonsense (I bl*#dy see it!!)
 
I am dealing with lying to myself, like "he needs me because i know how" or "I will do it now and next time I won't". After a few days It looks like I AM the needy one.
Waouh! So hard not to cross the line. Well, will need a serious talk with myself and stop that nonsense (I bl*#dy see it!!)

Many parents are incapable of seeing dynamics such as this. So, give yourself some kudos for doing it; now you can act from a place of awareness and real love.
 
He could volunteer to work for free for a mechanic willing to mentor him - for maybe a couple of weeks / a month with the option at the end of the 'trial' to possibly becoming an apprentice. If he doesn't like it, he can leave - the owner loses nothing, your son gains some knowledge and valuable life experience. Working in mechanics might help reactivate his brain on a practical and logical level, get neurons firing, ground him more, keep him occupied, expand his mind and self worth. A month of work would likely give them both enough time to demonstrate that he can show up on time consistently, work hard, be relied upon, listen and carry out instructions - that he is a good fit for the team. If he doesn't like it, he could try a different trade.
I was thinking the same thing. If your son can find someone he really likes he may also learn to trust men in general? Also, some of us learn better if we like the person who is teaching us. One thing I have learnt is that it is not easy for young boys and men to grow up with no decent male role model and community. Perhaps he feels let down by the most important men in his life and by his community? I think we mothers must truly understand that young men need healthy masculine energy in order to develop themselves further. We gave them our "feminine energy", but that's all we can do OSIT.
 

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