In the series of constatations of Canada's decline, in Quebec province, one in two women who are victims of violence and have the courage to ask for help for emergency accommodation are met with a closed door.
Dans le cadre des 12 jours d’action pour l’élimination de la violence faite aux femmes, Catherine Ethier et ses cosignataires se demandent pourquoi une femme victime de violence sur deux qui a le courage de demander de l’aide pour un hébergement d’urgence se bute à une porte close.
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"As you read these lines, a woman is trying to get help from a shelter for women who are victims of domestic violence. This call, far from being a trivial matter, is undoubtedly the result of long and careful consideration. She may have hesitated before dialing this number that no one ever wants to call in their lifetime. One does not declare oneself a victim of domestic violence overnight.
It is a complex process, fraught with fear, doubt, profound shame, and the grief that is rarely discussed: the grief of recognizing that life with this person one once loved has become unbearable. Dangerous.
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Now imagine being refused the help that was described to you as a lifeline pulling you out of a volcano. Imagine being put on an eight-week waiting list for assistance without accommodation. Imagine browsing classified ads and realizing you can't afford any of the available rents, and that in the midst of a housing crisis, you have no choice but to stay home with your abuser.
Imagine the loss of confidence and hope. "This appeal requires immense courage. As I write this, one in two requests for accommodation is refused. Out of a total of 19,306 requests, shelters and support centers have had to say no nearly 10,000 times, much to their regret."
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Shelters and support centers do more than simply provide shelter for women fleeing abusive homes; their responsibilities are immense, at all hours of the day and night. They not only answer every call from women in distress, but also try to find them a bed as quickly as possible, even when all the rooms in their shelter are full.
They assess each woman's risk level with sensitivity and foresight, participate in rapid response teams, and juggle supporting a crying child, a woman in shock arriving with her suitcase, a busy phone line, court appointments, and the struggle to find housing—all while working 24/7 on a salary that pales in comparison to other, more attractive sectors. All this, in addition to running the shelter, ensuring everyone is well-fed, reassured, and comfortable, that the environment is warm and welcoming, that the bathroom is clean, and that a surprise water leak is dealt with in the middle of the night. Just another day in the life.
These remarkable women, who perform miracles day in and day out, work in precarious conditions with the strength of a community that refuses, and will always refuse, to give up. If the shelters are overflowing, if we can no longer support every woman in danger, our safety net will crumble. It's an absolute catastrophe.
So far in 2025, Quebec has recorded nine femicides in the context of domestic violence."