Here is the
Video and
Audio for the Overview of Healing Developmental Trauma
Discussion of a few excerpts from this Val Brown
interview (timestamps of 14:10-14:50 & 20:35-22:14)
in relation to healing from Trauma. The main takeaways is that of focusing on what you want to see happen, not on what you don't want, and letting go of using the past to predict what will happen in the present or future, and how "if you expect too much of a certain thing, you can make it very difficult to recognize the miraculous as it emerges." How trauma can stem from immediate family, but can also be intergenerational as well and may be in our genetics. A product of where we come from from forces we don't necessarily understand.
The NARM model has 5 core needs that branch off from one another. Connection --> Attunement --> Trust --> Autonomy --> Love/Sexuality, which are met by survival/adaptive strategies that dysregulate human beings when any of the 5 core needs are not met. If someone is from a narcissistic family, all 5 could potentially be dysregulated. Could it also be the case that healthy love/sexuality, i.e. Taoist Love and romance novels, cannot happen without the first 4 needs being expressed and met in a healthy way?
@Mari brought up the C's session about imprinting.
March 28, 2019
(L) Next question is: Is it really the case that "all is sealed" (our view of the Universe), so to speak, during the first weeks, months, or years of life?
A: More or less. Recall the discussion on imprinting. The infant needs to know that the universe is a place of creativity and abundance. That impression is formed in the first six months. For six months, the parent must respond instantly, or even anticipate the infant's needs; even the need for not being alone.
By tracking the physical, sensate, and energetic experience of emotion in the body, NARM emphasizes somatic mindfulness (which is not the same as meditation or mindfulness), but rather the containment, deepening, and support for the biological completion of affective states.
This thread discusses what that entails in more detail. But learning to connect with one's body (developing connection) is a way to start.
@Breo brought up
Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and bodily diseases and infections as roadblocks towards reaching greater healing and health. Distortions to life force can be seen through a myriad of sympathetic and parasympathetic responses and adaptations to trauma. Shame-based and pride-based identifications that manifest as a result are much like the Many I's that Mouravieff and Gurdjieff discussed in great detail.
NARM argues that bottom's up, top down approach is necessary. Seeing as more signals go from the gut and heart to the brain that vice-versa, it would be difficult to change and alter one's thinking patterns without learning to heal and repair the body/nervous system. Creating island's of safety within the nervous system - a sense of safety - allows for change to happen. Somatic therapies from the 1970's like primal rage therapy, are not encouraged, and could push someone further into dysregulation, rather than containment and self-expression.
