Well this thread is really about Prince Phillip and not about my ex-wife. I don't label her a psychopath lightly. If you must know something about her then my wife's characteristics are as follows: She holds herself in very high esteem when her talents don't really justify this; she readlily criticises people but will accept no criticism of herself; she will protect her own position to the detriment of others, e.g., she took two of my children out of school to avoid issues with the local authority, which might have affected her job but which then damaged their educational prospects (she was supposed to home school them but didn't, even though she was a professionally trained teacher); she almost got our children taken into care by social services (after the school reported on them) and kept me in the dark about it until it was almost too late; she shamelessly uses people and then discards them when they have served their purpose; as an example of her strange behaviour she ruined our wedding banquet by changing the caterers menu (they just served hors d'oeuvres instead of a running buffet) at the last moment without her parents knowing, which led to them being humiliated and having to apologise to the guests in writing subsequently. Everyone in my family now remembers our wedding as the one where there was hardly any food. Without me knowing, she also sent my mother a Christmas present of a toilet roll in Christmas wrapping paper (my mother only admitted this to me recently). She detested my mother although my mother had shown her every kindness and treated her like a daughter and had even helped us out by looking after our young children when my wife had to go into hospital for several weeks. I could go on at length but these are just a few illustrations to paint you a picture.
My wife took much but gave little in return and came close to killing me into the bargain when my health collapsed at the end of our marriage. I had a nervous breakdown, I had stomach ulcers and had developed a serious heart condition (I now have stents in me) without knowing, which prevented me from working. She couldn't care less. Indeed, it was at that point that she launched divorce proceedings against me (and used the social services report in evidence against me). I credit my late father for rescuing me. Yes, she did have mother issues (her mother was I think a manic depressive and could certainly be difficult at times) but these revolved around things like not sending her to dance school, dancing being her first love. I asked my father-in-law years later why this was and he said that he and his wife thought she was not dedicated enough to make it as a professional dancer, as she was loathe to practice. They sent her to music school instead where she did well. She then went on to teachers training college. She has a very poor relationship with her father even though he is a kind and considerate man. She always ran him down to me. In contrast, he has a very good relationship with his grandaughters (my girls) who love him much.
I had to learn a lot of karmic lessons the hard way during this period. There are some things I wish I could have done differently and yes I do blame myself for other things (BTW there was no one else involved on either side). If you sense I might still be bitter then I would say no as we still talk frequently and discuss the children who are mostly grown up now. We have even been on holiday together with some of the children and we take them to things like football matches etc. I have gone up every Christmas and Easter time to stay in the family home since I traditionally cook the Christmas and Easter meal (my ex is a terrible cook). I buy her Christmas presents and send birthday cards and even give her free legal advice from time to time. I couldn't go last Christmas though because of lockdown restrictions. Hence, we still try to keep it civil. Do I trust her? The answer is no. I mind my step very carefully now when dealing with her. Knowing that she has pyschopathic qualities does help me to understand her better and why she acts like she does. She is what she is as nature has dictated. It is my children who I feel most sorry for and I wish we could have reached some accommodation for their sake without having to divorce and separate. Some of them have had serious issues themselves to contend with but that is another story.
I am not a psychologist so yes, I admit I could be wrong about her. However, I have applied the SOTT psychopath tests and she seems to tick most of the boxes. If you think I have been unfair, please feel welcome to say so. People are definitely complex and it can take a long time to get to know someone properly. I don't pretend that I am any saint either.
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