Disappearing posts

[stellar]

All my posts of the past fifteen years have disappeared and I cannot access the private forum. For almost a year I have been locked out of interacting on the forum even though it was showing me I was logged in. I could not respond to anything. Kept getting 'oops' something went wrong. I know for months I was getting the generic warning about this site being 'unsafe' and I knew that was wrong but most of the time I could not connect.

A few days ago I managed to fumble my way to clearing all cookies or something but it worked. Nevertheless I now have no past posts. I replied to one of your emails that I'm still here but was met with a response to a name that is not me. It's all too bizarre and I don't know how to access my past posts or if I even can. Any thoughts?

 

[Mrs. Peel]

I don't know how to access my past posts or if I even can. Any thoughts?

When I click on your forum name, it says you have 1529 posts and I can access them. You do not have the FOTCM symbol under your name, so that is why you cannot access the private board. The only thing I can think of is that there is something wrong with your internet browser, or perhaps your sign-in information? Maybe @Scottie can help?

 

[stellar]

When I click on your forum name, it says you have 1529 posts and I can access them. You do not have the FOTCM symbol under your name, so that is why you cannot access the private board. The only thing I can think of is that there is something wrong with your internet browser, or perhaps your sign-in information? Maybe @Scottie can help?

Yeah, it seems that my FOTCM membership went poof. When I click on my avatar to search past posts or latest activity it show nothing.

 

[Ant22]

Yeah, it seems that my FOTCM membership went poof. When I click on my avatar to search past posts or latest activity it show nothing.

Hey stellar, FOTCM membership and private board access are not the same. You probably lost your private board access due to lack of participation, but this does not mean your FOTCM membership has also been terminated. It should still be active unless you yourself have revoked it, or unless your actions have caused the Elders to decide you should not be a member of the Fellowship. If it’s the latter I believe you would have been notified about this.

If you would like to re-join the private board, you need to post on the forum regularly and allow time for our admins to decide whether your access would be of mutual benefit.

Here’s a thread highlighting the general terms of being admittetd. The thread is old but the terms remain the same: Joining the private FOTCM Board

As for your login issues, too bad you didn’t notify any of the mods or admins about it sooner. Even if you couldn’t do it through forum messages, there are lots of other ways to reach out, like email addresses on the FOTCM or SOTT websites for example. The team has plenty of techies in its ranks, I’m sure someone would have helped you.

I hope it will all go smoothly from now on and we will be seeing you post on the fun regularly from now on

 

[stellar]

As for your login issues, too bad you didn’t notify any of the mods or admins about it sooner.

Actually I did post about it a couple of times when it was still spotty problems but it was not responded to with any concern. Even changing browsers made it worse. Quite frankly, nobody seem to notice or care enough to ask. I didn't post that I would be absent for a while or anything like that. If I could access my past posts which are gone I could quote them.

If it’s the latter I believe you would have been notified about this.

Like I said, I've been here for 15 years and it's surprising to me that it all went unnoticed. Guess my contributions were not memorable in any significant way for my absence to be noticed.

As for your login issues, too bad you didn’t notify any of the mods or admins about it sooner.

I did but they addressed me with an incorrect name in the reply which was really strange. Surely they know every avatars real name and email. That was odd.
My email was blocked for a while also. Even SOTT was occasionally blocked but I still cannot post there either.

In any case, it has given me a different perspective on networking than I had before this.

 

[forest_light]

Hey stellar... That's all pretty bizarre! I had noticed a while ago that I had not seen you posting, but thought perhaps you might be taking a break. Personally I have not been able to be online very much lately; some people are on here very regularly, others less so, it can be hard to keep track of threads and participation at times. However, it is weird that the admins/mods did not have your correct name and that this access issue has been going on for so long, but no doubt there is some simple explanation. I don't know how it works with the forum, but messages might get missed because threads turn over so quickly, not making excuses - just saying everyone is human and doing their genuine best. I don't feel for a moment anyone would ignore you or just let something slide, but really I don't know if that is truly the core issue that is being illuminated here.

Technical issues / blocks aside... I thought to gently ask whether over time, something has been building up for you that has led to you feeling unseen / not valued (on the forum) issues that you haven't spoken of openly? Perhaps it is also possible that (on a broader level) this issue of not being seen / valued / cared for / is also reflected in other areas of your life, personal connections with others who mean a great deal to you, maybe relationships where you feel you do a lot of giving, put a lot of effort in, and this possibly goes unnoticed? I also wondered if perhaps this 'glitch' in your connection with the forum has been 'creatively offered' by the Universe / your 'Higher Self' to help bring some things up for you to examine more closely? The Universe works in mysterious mystical ways, IMHO.

I don't know if it also helps to remember that the C's have mentioned that at some point we will not be able to connect here on the forum. IMO we are all connected on many other levels - and always will be. We are part of an incredible soul group and have been blessed to have found our way here by no 'accident', we each bring our own light and shadow, we are each contributing and supporting one another and receiving in a multitude of ways. I am sure there are many here who deeply value this group who cannot always connect directly, but who connect-give-receive on other levels (prayer, EE, dreams, $ donations, sharing relevant posts via social media etc ) and even if someone experiences an absence on the forum, this does not mean they are less loved, appreciated or connected to the group. I think also it is good to remember that as we 'individuals' from a fragmented soul unit are connected to this forum (directly or indirectly) that also our own ancestors and future descendants are intrinsically connected in much more dynamic ways than we might consider possible. So really (IMO) it is impossible for you to be 'disconnected' from this group - no matter how you slice it, baby. But I hear (if I have this right) your hurt, disappointment, sadness, not feeling valued, seen, cared about - and just wanted to reach out and suggest feeling into what I shared - if you are open to it. Maybe the Universe just gifted you something really beautiful to discover, and ways to lift some more layers and let the light in.

I see you, and your cute avatar;
am sending you a gentle furry hug.

 

[Ant22]

Actually I did post about it a couple of times when it was still spotty problems but it was not responded to with any concern. Even changing browsers made it worse. Quite frankly, nobody seem to notice or care enough to ask. I didn't post that I would be absent for a while or anything like that. If I could access my past posts which are gone I could quote them.

I take it you’re referring to this thread of yours? https://cassiopaea.org/forum/threads/having-problems-connecting.54407/#post-1167753

You did receive responses, the thread has over a page and most of the replies are not your posts but those of others. I just re-read the thread and it kind of felt like the conversation about your logging in issues dropped off because you never confirmed whether you actioned any of the suggestions given (other than saying you had Chrome installed) and you then moved the conversation to another topic, i.e., asking about the best laptop to buy (which others also answered). You expressed worry about losing some of your data, such as photos, and advice was offered on that too (use a migration assistant, or an external drive).

You did say your computer skills are quite basic and I wonder whether your lack of further engagement was caused by your inability to action the advice provided? But unless you openly express that your problem still isn't resolved it’s really unlikely someone is going to guess that. And to me it kind of looks like you just left that conversation.

I did but they addressed me with an incorrect name in the reply which was really strange. Surely they know every avatars real name and email. That was odd.
My email was blocked for a while also. Even SOTT was occasionally blocked but I still cannot post there either.

In any case, it has given me a different perspective on networking than I had before this.

I don't see you being addressed with an incorrect name in that thread, I'm guessing you're not referring to that exchange? And even if this happened in another one, it's been repeatedly expressed on the forum that those who manage it are very busy. Is it really fair to expect them to never make mistakes?

A few days ago I managed to fumble my way to clearing all cookies or something but it worked. Nevertheless I now have no past posts. I replied to one of your emails that I'm still here but was met with a response to a name that is not me. It's all too bizarre and I don't know how to access my past posts or if I even can. Any thoughts?

I was able to see all of your posts, go through them, and find your previous threads without any issues, so they definitely haven't disappeared.

Your first mention of this problem was in April last year, so 10 months ago, did you eventually buy a new laptop? O get the current one professionally serviced? It does sound like the issue is on your end and not the websites and the severity of it significantly exceeds anything that can be achieved with advice provided on the forum.

 

[brandon]

Hey stellar, welcome back! Was wondering where you went... It does sound like it could be an issue with you having a computer/OS that's "too old". (I really don't like the way this stuff works these days, there should be no reason why most normal web sites don't work on web browsers even 10, 15 years old.. however, that just is how it is... especially if you don't have much computer knowledge and know how to get around it).. Is there nobody nerdy you know where you live who could help you with computer/web browser setup to maybe once & for all fix it?

The thing with all your old posts seeming to have disappeared for you, but not other people, is weird.. Just to potentially help narrow it down if there's some forum software issue, are old posts of yours visible of you click on a link to them? e.g. here's one from the public forum: Session 13 January 2024

And if I quote that post, is the quote visible to you? (below)

I guess Caesar would put it as 'be true to yourself'. Simply following for the sake of fulfilling expectations won't necessarily cut it to reach the finish line.

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It's a shame you lost access to the private forum [what sounds like] inadvertently, rather than due to an actual lack of interest! I might be wrong but from what you've said it sounds like you didn't try THAT hard to get in touch with the mods though (you didn't say - did you reply to the mis-addressed response, explaining they had the wrong name & the whole situation? Also why does the fact that they had the name wrong matter so much? If they had the forum name right they obviously intended it for you..)

I used to find it a little stressful being part of the private forum (like, "eek, if I don't post for too long I'll lose my Special Fancy Status! better post lots!").. but found it helpful to change the way I think of it - there is no reason why being on the private section (or not) should in any way change how or what I post, so I'll just keep doing what comes naturally and whatever the mods do is up to them. It's not a reward/punishment mind game type situation, more like an expansion of space to hold an expansion of interaction (though I'm sure the whole process isn't perfect!).. I hope I don't sound condescending or anything... it's just that you sound a bit bitter about it all and if that's so, I hope you can work your way through it. Anyways good to see ya back around!

 

[stellar]

I don't see you being addressed with an incorrect name in that thread, I'm guessing you're not referring to that exchange? And even if this happened in another one, it's been repeatedly expressed on the forum that those who manage it are very busy. Is it really fair to expect them to never make mistakes?

I am referring to an email which I managed to get through via a reply to

Re: FOTCM: Support the Fellowship, 2024 Gifts, and Season's Greetings!​

"Hi all, stellar here. This may be the only way to contact you as I am not able to get past the cookie blocks on my computer. I still read and follow, just cannot respond despite logging in. So I have not gone awol, still here. Hope this email reaches you. Much love and best wishes to you all.
Love, stellar"

That is what I sent and the reply was

"Dear Bogdan,

We did receive this email, thank you! And we checked your forum account, and it's active, with no problems that e can tell. Perhaps you need to try another browser? We hope to see you back soon!

Much love from us all too, and take care,

Chu (Juliana)"

That is not my name nor avatar name, so I'm not sure why that name would be on my forum account. It's not really a big deal.

that just is how it is

Yeah, what's done is done.

it's just that you sound a bit bitter about it all and if that's so, I hope you can work your way through it.

No, just disappointed with all the tech challenges that are just not my cup of tea.

it sounds like you didn't try THAT hard to get in touch with the mods

Between my mum's passing and the resurgence of my son's cancer situation it was not exactly no. 1 on my list of priorities. There would have been a lot that I would have shared but couldn't for reasons I've already explained, anyway it doesn't matter now. I'm glad to be able to post again.

 

[Deliverance]

Hello, Please accept my sincere condolences on your mother's passing. I hope your son is coping with his care and that you all keep the blessings of DCM.
I had problems accessing the forum with my old computer which shut down one day and forever. At the time I received an unexpected refund and so I renewed my hardware: just a very good luck!
Could you continue cleaning and updating your computer ? with some help perhaps? If not, you can find a second-hand one quite easily.
I wish you some sort of welcome back, and that you enjoy it , although you weren't really away

 

[Tuatha de Danaan]

Hi Stellar, please accept my condolences on your Mum's passing. To have a recurrence of your sons cancer on top of your grief must have been traumatic.
I really hope you and your son are coping with your loss and health worries. So glad you have been able to reconnect with the Forum.
Please let us know, if you feel up to it, how you are managing now. A big virtual hug yo you both.

 

[Keit]

Like I said, I've been here for 15 years and it's surprising to me that it all went unnoticed. Guess my contributions were not memorable in any significant way for my absence to be noticed.

Hi Stellar, it's good to hear from you, and it is good that you shared about your difficulties and what has been going on with you Please don't see it in such a light, that your contributions weren't memorable, because it's certainly not true.

The thing is that it is indeed possible to lose access to the private forum due to inactivity. Since there are a lot of people on the forum, and everyone has a limited free time, there is an understanding that active participation is the best indication of interest, that this forum is important.

Of course we all have our private lives, and sometimes we have events or challenges that prevent us from participating in an active way. If so, it is indeed advisable to at least write something, so everyone will know what is going on with you. Now you shared, and now we also know that you had technical difficulties and difficult events in your life , and if you will continue to participate, with time the private access can be regained.

Regarding "dissappearing posts", please take into account that the forum constantly undergoes various upgrades. It's possible that last time you were active, the forum looked differently. So perhaps now you don't know how to access previous posts. Here's a short instruction:

Go to your "postings" in your profile. Scroll down. There instead of the numbers of pages of all your posts on the left, you will see this button "see more" on the right.


Click on "see more" and then go through your posts to the very bottom again. And this is when you will see all the pages. All your posts are there.

 

[meadow_wind]

The thing is that it is indeed possible to lose access to the private forum due to inactivity. Since there are a lot of people on the forum, and everyone has a limited free time, there is an understanding that active participation is the best indication of interest, that this forum is important.

Does logging in every day and keeping up with reading posts count as being an active member? If I don't have something pertinent to say or to add, I refrain from posting until I'm sure what I want to post is helpful for the community.

 

[Keit]

Does logging in every day and keeping up with reading posts count as being an active member? If I don't have something pertinent to say or to add, I refrain from posting until I'm sure what I want to post is helpful for the community.

It is certainly no small feat to keep up with the forum. There is so much going on, that only reading the posts already takes a lot of time. So on one hand if you manage to keep up with the posts, you are already very active!

But getting access to the private section of the forum requires a different kind of active participation. Here's a quote from the thread about it that may give an idea:

As you probably know, or you will find out soon, there is a private sub-forum for FOTCM members. If you have received a FOTCM welcome package this only means that you are registered as a FOTCM member. Access to the private board is not granted automatically when you join the Fellowship though, but is instead decided by the Moderators/Admins for each of you on an individual basis.

The Fellowship is like an extended family in the making and the membership area is a virtual community where we as a group further the support of our members and discuss work on the common aim and related projects. Naturally, since we then are getting closer to each other we would like to know a bit about our new members before we invite them to our space; what are your challenges in life (we all have them), what are you going through, what are your circumstances? Here we look to the open forum on your participation.

On average, around 100 posts should be able to give us an outline of you and your interests. But it's not the number that counts most (sometimes 20-30 posts would suffice, other times 500 is not enough). What counts is where you put your energy and to what extent you are on board with the line of force that "defines" us. Are you interested and participating in our Diet and health, Éiriú Eolas, psychology and cognitive science, Work, Swamp boards? (The latest one has a limited access and is visible for Forum members who have at least 50 posts registered Forum members only.) Remember, we are not looking to see if you are perfect, because nobody is, we are looking to see how in practice you resonate with and apply the Fellowship principles.

I would also add that sharing and participating doesn't always have to be something long, deep or profound. There are threads, lke this one, where people share how are they feeling at any particular moment. And this kind of feedback can be already very helpful for others. It may indicate that something is in the air, or something else is going on. It can also provide support, since "shared joy is double joy; shared sorrow is half sorrow". And this is just one example.

Added: this recent post of yours, is a very good example of such helpful sharing.

 

[forest_light]

Between my mum's passing and the resurgence of my son's cancer situation it was not exactly no. 1 on my list of priorities.

That's a lot to deal with stellar, I am sorry for your loss and struggles. I can imagine that not being able to network here would also amplify your pain on certain levels, especially as you have been connected here for so many years. It would be natural to reach out and share your experience; I can imagine the frustration of not being able to have full access to the forum or resolve that easily would be yet another straw on the back of the proverbial camel. If there is anywhere you can share your difficulties and deep challenge and also receive support, it surely is here. Thanks for offering us all more clarity from your perspective - as others have mentioned you can at least now share if / when you feel to.

I really liked Keit's mention of:

"shared joy is double joy; shared sorrow is half sorrow"

So true!