That is something I concur with you as well. Today's generations in the West seem to demonstrate a lack of true grit (also the title of wonderful movie I enjoy). However, that is a certain portion of that demographic and not necessarily all of them.
I have one example that I want to dive into specifically, but it is personal so please bear with me as I do my best to explain.
A family member of mine recently passed away at the age of 40yrs. He was someone I looked up to for the most part, he possessed a blunt and sobering view of life that I really liked. There were times his raw intelligence exceeded mine and we debated many areas of life. He was also very funny, moral and had to do the right thing. I miss him a lot.
Sorry to hear about your loved one's passing. It's a good time to share like this, as mourning can be a difficult period in life in the best of times - let alone with all the tyranny going on around us and also the approaching transition to 4D, with all that entails!
He had been covertly going through health problems and allowing himself to suffer needlessly for months. I took it upon myself to lift him up in his spirits any possible way that I could. I was adamant that he take care of his health in what he revealed to me anyway, and stop allowing his insecurities to take over. I was unsuccessful in my efforts to change his patterns and now he is gone.
Suffice it to say I am shocked beyond belief. I should have been tougher on him despite his vulnerability and myself being younger. If I had just been more of a dick head and stopped being so soft on him perhaps he would be alive.
I think you're being too hard on yourself here by blaming yourself for his death. In the material regarding the afterlife, and also from C's sessions, it is pretty clear that a soul will often make a conscious choice to die, often at a specific point in time. And death is not the end for a soul, they move to the other side. Reading a bit more about the afterlife may be helpful in your time of grief.
The following is from a book I have been perusing from time to time called 'When did you ever become less by dying' by Stafford Betty. There are various chapters including: death bed visions, NDEs, apparitions, Poltergeists, spirit attachments etc. The following is from the chapter titled...
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It was also mentioned in a recent session that some souls are transitioning to 5D at this current time in order to actually help us out from the other side. Death of someone close can be very difficult to deal with, and bring up lots of what-ifs and negative emotions. Asking yourself what you could have done differently in the past is a good practice, but there's a point at which we can become stuck there. Maybe you did the best you could with what you had at the time. A little self-forgiveness can go a long way.
I can't be sure, as I wasn't party to your relationship, but I don't think being more of a 'dick head' would have prevented his death. It could have just been his time to go, and we likely have little to no control over that. Sharing ideas and perspectives in an open and conversational way is good, but it's important to not force people to fit our own expectations of how another person 'should' be. Respect for Free Will is paramount - even if it means they come to serious harm, or die. Otherwise we project high expectations of others, and feel let really low, or even betrayed, when they don't conform to our view. I know I've had my own struggles with this one. Definitely one of the major lessons on this planet, and still a work in progress.
Men and women nowadays cannot allow themselves to be so displaced from self work, awareness and accountability. I am upset with the way things are currently in society with respect to our growth. What is the proper course of action to remedy this
dilemma?
I'm not sure there is much we can do, aside from live our own lives as best we can, clear limiting emotions, grow in Knowledge, and pursue our aims with as much grace as we can muster. The C's have said that only mass suffering will awaken people to their true spiritual potential at this time. In other words, there is no remedy on a large scale - the cosmos will take care of that and clean house.
I hear ya tho - it's freakin' nuts out there. For me, this is balanced by remembering to look for beauty, courage, faith and love. And I take solace in the notion that every death is a new beginning.
