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Jedi
Hi all, and thanks for your replies. Bit overwhelming actually - how on earth can I respond...
The thing is, is that, yes, I was responding to Howe as - like I've said - I had experienced it myself and I felt/empathised for Howe; I was seeing that he was equally bemused by the responses he was receiving; I could see the gaps in the communication; Howe and I were one, I had been there and I remembered what it was like. Like Howe, I was on a thread (though not one that I personally began), and it was under "Questions for the Cs". I had questions about cancer but - and I stated as such - I was not asking for people to give me cures. I didn't once ask anyone: "Hi there, just wondering if you could give me some ideas on how to cure cancer." I was looking for other, more esoteric ideas to explore. I was doing this because I am in the process of running support groups for people with cancer and these kind of other question - the ones that "normal" people don't think about - do come up with people with "severe" illnesses, and they are not medical enquires. It was extremely frustrating to get my query out, when what I was getting back was a mix of unrelated all sorts, directions to read the recommended reading material on the assumption that I hadn't, and assessments on my character - with one person telling me that it was service to self to even ask the questions! On a thread/forum that is about asking questions!!
Now, we newbies may not get it right - first up, or even ever, but I wanted to simply communicate clearly, without phaff, my perspective - the frustration and bemusement etc, that it may help to reveal how it is for us, who may not be quite all up with where this forum is coming from. And that others, further experienced/aware - or whatever might remember that once upon a time, they too struggled in their infancy in the material, and use a bit of sensitivity and restraint - for the sake of clear communication and bridging the learning gap.
I still cannot see where I've got it wrong by asking questions to explore (on other thread), and I've received answers that weren't even "on topic". I was even pointed to a link that took me to a "Questions to ask the Cs" thread, but I was already in a sub-menu under "Questions to the Cs". It was utterly confusing to observe what began as great relief to find somewhere to explore the ideas presented in the Cs material and with others, deteriorate to a hodge podge of what kind of amounted to noisy others, pushing their own agenda that were off the initial topic.
That is it for me. I cannot address all the points, there are quite a few, and I can see where some of you are coming from, as well as where I have made mistakes -I can get fiery and come across as hoity toity, I can - also like others here - become a bit zealous when I perceive chaos amongst people that are struggling only to grow, and with this stuff, grappling with some pretty complex concepts, and, in a world were we are constantly being sucked into 3D land, and managing mundane, day to day tasks; it's hard to flip over to these concepts that are relatively abstract.
I cannot go on forever, from here I've decided to take a breather, sit back a bit and lurk around that I may develop better understanding of this forum (as well as read the intros etc that are crucial). It's soooooooo incredibly time consuming!!!!! Unfortunately I'm in over my head, and have bitten off more than I can chew!
The thing is, is that, yes, I was responding to Howe as - like I've said - I had experienced it myself and I felt/empathised for Howe; I was seeing that he was equally bemused by the responses he was receiving; I could see the gaps in the communication; Howe and I were one, I had been there and I remembered what it was like. Like Howe, I was on a thread (though not one that I personally began), and it was under "Questions for the Cs". I had questions about cancer but - and I stated as such - I was not asking for people to give me cures. I didn't once ask anyone: "Hi there, just wondering if you could give me some ideas on how to cure cancer." I was looking for other, more esoteric ideas to explore. I was doing this because I am in the process of running support groups for people with cancer and these kind of other question - the ones that "normal" people don't think about - do come up with people with "severe" illnesses, and they are not medical enquires. It was extremely frustrating to get my query out, when what I was getting back was a mix of unrelated all sorts, directions to read the recommended reading material on the assumption that I hadn't, and assessments on my character - with one person telling me that it was service to self to even ask the questions! On a thread/forum that is about asking questions!!
Now, we newbies may not get it right - first up, or even ever, but I wanted to simply communicate clearly, without phaff, my perspective - the frustration and bemusement etc, that it may help to reveal how it is for us, who may not be quite all up with where this forum is coming from. And that others, further experienced/aware - or whatever might remember that once upon a time, they too struggled in their infancy in the material, and use a bit of sensitivity and restraint - for the sake of clear communication and bridging the learning gap.
I still cannot see where I've got it wrong by asking questions to explore (on other thread), and I've received answers that weren't even "on topic". I was even pointed to a link that took me to a "Questions to ask the Cs" thread, but I was already in a sub-menu under "Questions to the Cs". It was utterly confusing to observe what began as great relief to find somewhere to explore the ideas presented in the Cs material and with others, deteriorate to a hodge podge of what kind of amounted to noisy others, pushing their own agenda that were off the initial topic.
That is it for me. I cannot address all the points, there are quite a few, and I can see where some of you are coming from, as well as where I have made mistakes -I can get fiery and come across as hoity toity, I can - also like others here - become a bit zealous when I perceive chaos amongst people that are struggling only to grow, and with this stuff, grappling with some pretty complex concepts, and, in a world were we are constantly being sucked into 3D land, and managing mundane, day to day tasks; it's hard to flip over to these concepts that are relatively abstract.
I cannot go on forever, from here I've decided to take a breather, sit back a bit and lurk around that I may develop better understanding of this forum (as well as read the intros etc that are crucial). It's soooooooo incredibly time consuming!!!!! Unfortunately I'm in over my head, and have bitten off more than I can chew!