Learning to overcome fear

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This article is about teenagers, but it makes me wonder if individuals who have difficulty overcoming fear are stuck in a teenage emotional loop or if it is a brain chemistry thing that might be helped by the ketogenic diet?


Learning to overcome fear is difficult for teens
Lauren Woods
New York- Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical Center/Weill Cornell Medical College
Thu, 27 Sep 2012 05:25 CDT


New study shows fear is hard to extinguish from the developing teenage brain, which may explain why anxiety and depression spikes during adolescence.

A new study by Weill Cornell Medical College researchers shows that adolescents' reactions to threat remain high even when the danger is no longer present. According to researchers, once a teenager's brain is triggered by a threat, the ability to suppress an emotional response to the threat is diminished which may explain the peak in anxiety and stress-related disorders during this developmental period.

The study, published Sept. 17 in the early online edition of the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS), is the first to decode fear acquisition and fear "extinction learning," down to the synaptic level in the brains of mice, which mirror human neuronal networks. Also, through human and rodent experiments, the study finds that acquired fear can be difficult to extinguish in some adolescents. By contrast, the study shows that adults and children do not have the same trouble learning when a threat is no longer present.

"This is the first study to show, in an experiment, that adolescent humans have diminished fear extinction learning," says the study's lead author, Dr. Siobhan S. Pattwell, a postdoctoral fellow at the Sackler Institute for Developmental Psychobiology at Weill Cornell. "Our findings are important because they might explain why epidemiologists have found that anxiety disorders seem to spike during adolescence or just before adolescence. It is estimated that over 75 percent of adults with fear-related disorders can trace the roots of their anxiety to earlier ages."

The study findings suggest there is altered plasticity in the prefrontal cortex of the brain during adolescence, with its inability to overcome fear, says the study's senior co-investigator, Dr. Francis Lee, professor of pharmacology and psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and an attending psychiatrist at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical Center.

"This study is the first to show activity, at the synaptic level, for both fear acquisition and fear extinction -- and we find that while these areas function well in both younger and older mice, neurons involved in fear extinction are not as active in adolescent mice," says Dr. Lee. "If adolescents have a more difficult time learning that something that once frightened them is no longer a danger, then it is clear that the standard desensitization techniques from fear may not work on them. This new knowledge about the teenage brain's synaptic connections not responding optimally will help clinicians understand that the brain region used in fear extinction may not be as efficient during this sensitive developmental period in adolescents."

Adolescent Mice Never Lose Their Fear Response

Fear learning is a highly-adaptive, evolutionarily conserved process that allows one to respond appropriately to cues associated with danger. In the case of psychiatric disorders, however, fear may persist long after a threat has passed, and this unremitting and often debilitating form of fear is a core component of many anxiety disorders, including post-traumatic stress disorders (PTSD).

Existing treatments, such as exposure therapy, are designed to expose an individual slowly to the cues associated with a perceived threat. This technique is used for a variety of fears, from wartime PTSD to fear of flying, as well as serious adolescent anxiety about school, says Dr. Lee, who treats, among others, patients with PTSD acquired during the World Trade Center collapse on September 11, 2001.

Anxiety disorders are increasingly being diagnosed in children and adolescents, but the success rate of fear extinction-based exposure therapies are currently not known in this population. This study aimed to discover if they could be effective -- and why or why not.

The human experiment was conducted at the Sackler Institute for Developmental Psychobiology at Weill Cornell in collaboration with its director, Dr. B.J. Casey, a study senior co-investigator, who is the Sackler Professor of Developmental Psychobiology and professor of psychology in psychiatry at Weill Cornell. In the experiment, a group of volunteers -- children, adolescents and adults --wore headphones and skin sweat meters and were asked to look at a computer screen with a sequence of blue or yellow square images. One of the squares was paired with a really unpleasant sound. For example, 50 percent of the time the blue square would set off the noise.

If the participants acquired a fear of the noise, they showed increased sweat when viewing the image that was paired with it, says Dr. Pattwell. The same group was brought back the next day, and again viewed a sequence of blue or yellow squares, but this time there was no associated noise. "But teenagers didn't decrease their fear response, and maintained their fear throughout subsequent trials when no noise was played," she says. However, the researchers documented that, unlike the teens participating in this study aged 12-17, both children and adults quickly learned that neither square was linked to a noxious sound, and this understanding rapidly decreased their fear response.

The mouse experiment, which used standard fear conditioning common in these types of animal studies, obtained similar findings. Adolescent mice (29 days old) did not decrease their fear response to stimuli that no longer existed, but younger and older mice did. Interestingly, the adolescent mice never lost their fear response as they aged.

The research team then monitored the brains of mice as they participated in the experiment. With the assistance of study senior co-investigator, Dr. Ipe Ninan, an electrophysiologist at NYU Langone Medical Center who is an assistant professor of psychiatry, the research team found that the prelimbic region in the prefrontal cortex, the brain region that processes emotion, is activated during acquisition of fear, and the infralimbic prefrontal cortex is used to extinguish this fear association. While other groups have suggested that the prefrontal cortex plays a role in extinction, no one has shown that this activity is at the level of the synapse -- the connections between the neurons.

"In young and old mice, we see plasticity, which is activity in the infralimbic cortex, which helps the animals decrease their fear response when a threat no longer applies," says Dr. Pattwell. "Interestingly, we didn't witness similar activity in adolescent mice."

According to researchers there is much more to explore about the fear response and its decoding in human adolescents, such as whether genes contribute to susceptibility to altered fear learning, and most importantly, what can be done to help the adolescent population overcome fear.

"We need to investigate personalized approaches to treatment of these fear and anxiety disorders in teens," says Dr. Lee. "It is essential that we find a way to help teenagers become more resilient to the fear they experience during adolescence to prevent it from leading to a lifetime of anxiety and depression."

The research was supported by the Sackler Institute, the DeWitt-Wallace Fund of the New York Community Trust, the Irma T. Hirschl/Monique Weill-Caulier Trust, the International Mental Health Research Organization, the Burroughs Wellcome Foundation, the Pritzker Consortium, National Institutes of Health Grants and a Swiss National Science Foundation Grant.

Weill Cornell co-authors are Dr. Stéphanie Duhoux, Dr. Catherine A. Hartley, David C. Johnson, Dr. Deqiang Jing, Mark D. Elliott, Erika J. Ruberry, Alisa Powers, Natasha Mehta, Rui R. Yang, Dr. Fatima Soliman, and Dr. Charles E. Glatt.
 
Reading this made me think of Redirect when PTSD was discussed and the methods to deal with it seemed not to work that well and sometimes made it worse. The feeling is that the shock is locked in and in dealing with it; especially right after (debriefing "standards") was akin to opening the picture again and again, and reinforcing the shock with no pathway to process it appropriately. Waiting and then writing about it seemed to be somewhat successful in PTSD cases; not so easy for very young children with fear anxiety issues. For the adolescence, fear is like a shock, a locked in memory and it either abates with growth or stays in stasis or is further reinforced for some.

In our society now, it seems to be more problematic with these matters more so than before (likely no scientific statistical bases for this other than just observation), and perhaps this is commensurate with deteriorating diets without real food and beneficial compounds (what babies and children eat especially), to the opposite, as you said, with the positive chemistry of the ketogenic diet.

It is an interesting study, yet sense another drug trial for this and hopefully this does not translate to a free for all in diagnosis and prescribing - re: new entries in the DCM-V.
 
Dealing with Fear

I haven't started watching the series yet, but plan to. I'm still catching up with the Ketogenic diet articles and videos. But since the last session, the increasing talk of all of the preparedness and disaster subjects has been getting me pretty worried and afraid. So much so that I've found myself dissociating for over a month.

It's like I want to shut it out and hope it will never come. And I've been preparing all along with the diet, canning, and reading; but as it really starts to come about, I'm having trouble dealing with the reality of it. A theme of my life seems to be facing reality, from the small things to the biggest things.

So I kind of have a depression going on too. It just seems so hopeless sometimes. As if my current life and goals are useless if everything is going to change drastically. I think sometimes that it is too much to handle for myself. And I'm prone to anxiety so that's when it goes into survival fear. I think too that I am pitying myself, as in: "Oh poor me, I have all this hardship coming and little time to get things done."

That's about what I wanted to say. Even though swampy, I'm keeping this in this thread in case anyone had similar feelings.
 
As someone with social anxiety issues I think diet has alot to do with it.
About a year ago I was able to maintain a ketogenic diet for about 4 or 5 months, and looking back there was a marked difference in how I felt and responded in different social situations. It was more of a mental clarity thing I suppose.
Since then my living arrangements have been unstable, and I have been unable to prepare my own food, so I have resorted to eating out all the time, or ramen.
hopefully soon I can get power restored to my apt and start eating well again to see what kind of a difference it will make.
 
Re: Dealing with Fear

I have contradictory feelings, me too. One part of me is very realistic and that's why I am preparing litlle by little to move from Spain, because I am aware of something that is coming here that will be very hard, economically and socially. So I want to move in a place to be near my sister and sister and law and in a climate more "organized". Another part of me is reading, learning and "just being present" in the here and now, enjoying everything around me, specially nature. And the third part is, sometimes, panicking, with sometimes highs and lows, with fear and doubts-

Concerning this series, I think that it is good but a little far away from reality. If something happens it will be horrible, nothing comparable with the vision of the program, I think so. I am reading now about the civil war in Spain and what is very clear in my mind is how people, normal people like you an me, can become beasts in certain situations. Literally beasts. So if something happens people will become crazy, I am sure. :scared:
 
Re: Dealing with Fear

3D Student said:
I haven't started watching the series yet, but plan to. I'm still catching up with the Ketogenic diet articles and videos. But since the last session, the increasing talk of all of the preparedness and disaster subjects has been getting me pretty worried and afraid. So much so that I've found myself dissociating for over a month.

It's like I want to shut it out and hope it will never come. And I've been preparing all along with the diet, canning, and reading; but as it really starts to come about, I'm having trouble dealing with the reality of it. A theme of my life seems to be facing reality, from the small things to the biggest things.

So I kind of have a depression going on too. It just seems so hopeless sometimes. As if my current life and goals are useless if everything is going to change drastically. I think sometimes that it is too much to handle for myself. And I'm prone to anxiety so that's when it goes into survival fear. I think too that I am pitying myself, as in: "Oh poor me, I have all this hardship coming and little time to get things done."

That's about what I wanted to say. Even though swampy, I'm keeping this in this thread in case anyone had similar feelings.

I feel the same way sometimes. The more I contemplate it, the more I have to come to terms with how I have absolutely no idea what is going to happen, no way to really plan for it, and not much chance of surviving it. In addition, all these hours I'm spending on Uni work etc just seem totally pointless. I just try to keep in mind that all is lessons, and all I can do is take it step by step. Worrying does us no good.
 
I think this is an important topic for a lot of people, so I split it from the discussion of the television show and merged it with the topic Laura had already started on fear and overcoming it.
 
I learned of something similar in dog training/psychology.

A dog has a number of what are referred to as 'critical fear' periods during it's development. My lecturer at the time suggested that the natural purpose of the fear periods were to give the dog an edge of suspicion or caution. Apparently, and we were given a few examples, any learning that takes place in relation to fearful triggers can be permanent, but if not, it can take a higher degree of work to desensitise the dog to its fear triggers.

I think it would be worthwhile to nail down any of the corresponding periods or if these fear periods happen in babies, children and adolescents. I think it would be also interesting to note how our society is set up and if the timing of significant events in our development are counter productive to the protection of temperament.

One interesting thing that was noted is that the resultant behavioural or emotional responses to intense fear or trauma during a critical fear period may not actually show up until after sexual or mental maturity. To the dog owner, it often seems that the behaviour/reaction come out of nowhere but often a detailed case history with attention to the critical fear periods will lead to uncovering how the behaviour was developed and a clue to what the triggering stimulus is for the current behaviour/emotional response.

One case history we discussed was of a dog that developed what seemed like random human aggression. It was difficult to pin down what was common between those that he reacted to and those he didn't. It turned out that it was the smell of pizza! The dog had had a frightening experience with pizza delivery guy in the dark during a critical fear period, and since dogs have a greater sense of smell, he could react to people who had eaten pizza up to 24hrs prior.

The major critical fear periods in dogs are between 12-16 weeks and 8-16 months. These are ranges but for the individual the fear period may only last for a week or two depending on genetic temperament. There is a minor critical fear period around 7 - 9 weeks.

Professional dog trainers who have selected dogs for particular working purposes often schedule training and development activities around these critical fear periods to the extent that all activities are off and the dog is kept in a quiet, calm environment to protect the temperament of the dog.

I made some errors in my dog before I learned/understood this and she developed reactivity to other dogs who approached her, a socialisation error where I learned that 'free for all' socialisation is not always good for all temperaments. Her reactivity to other dogs didn't show up until around 18 months.

Also, in training her for the competition heel during which would have been her first major critical fear period, I was playing with her and just rewarding her for walking on my left side or being in the heel position and she started to put the pattern together and anticipating the food treat. She jumped up to get it as I bent down to deliver it and she hooked a puppy tooth into my finger pad - all totally accidental - and I stood up with 13kg of pup hanging of my finger by one tooth. My reaction in that moment (I screamed and shook her off my hand)frightened her and I had difficulty getting her back into heel position. Even now, if I reach to her with my left hand she ducks her head slightly, at times almost imperceptible, but still there. :(
 
Individuals who have difficulty overcoming fear’. This is a vital topic, especially now.

One of the welcome, harder lessons of my life has been the growing awareness of the crippling part fear plays in constricting and restricting progress (i.e. behaviour modifying learning) and that actively pursuing brain/mind evolution through dealing with said is an essential practise for any who recognise this condition. I suspect it is part of an interlocking series of ‘issues’ which are of particular challenge for the silent minority of ‘sufferers’. We are not talking here about the vital self protective defence mechanism of a balanced, natural organism, responding intuitively to genuine danger signals from the environment, no; what I am referring to is a latent state of being, a pervading sense of unease and insecurity that for many is the root experience of all life. A feeling that never goes away, that is always ready to pop up and strangle, a daily sensation that increases throughout teenage life (amplified by the academic pressures of the education system and the momentum towards sexual initiation) until it becomes a fixed way of being well into adulthood. I refer here to what is known as ‘hypersensitivity’, a suggestive, almost accusative phrase (am I being hypersensitive here!?) for what might well be a series of complex, interconnecting and interfacing processes that cross the full spectrum of life forces i.e. quantum, genetic, chemical, learned psychological, environmental.

It appears to be a key effect of what is termed ‘Sensory processing disorder’, a term which expresses what it feels like – that one knows disorder because the processors gathering environmental information experience it as either muffled or overwhelming. And of course you don’t realise that this is not what everyone feels, that your ‘normal’ would actually feel deeply abnormal to others, that life isn’t like this for everyone!

This area branches off and collides with such debilitating ‘conditions, as dyslexia, dyspraxia, neurological delay, and even Autism Spectrum conditions such as Asperger Syndrome and ADHD. The reader might want to read up a little on this subject before considering further. Not that I am a fan of Wikipedia but it’s a fast basic source of background information (if you can grit your teeth and bear it when faced with such absurdities as the rejection of a connection between autism and vaccination!!!)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_processing_disorder#Hyposensitivities_and_hypersensitivities

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autism_spectrum_disorder

The starting point is that huge energy/struggle goes into the basic processing of every day information. There is no such thing as normal. Everything is ‘awarely experienced’ and ‘acutely known’. As a result, you are never just ok. You become ‘particular’. So tactics, coping mechanisms, personality layers have to be created and constantly modified in a vain effort to just belong. By the time a real issue of confrontation (one being worthy of genuine fear) arrives, you are so strung out you make bad choices and inappropriate, in the moment tactical responses. And things get worse. A lovely vicious circle!

I have learnt to confront this head on but it hasn’t been pretty and there has been a constant battle with self that is deeply debilitating. The awareness of ‘not being right’, of there being ‘something missing’, of ‘being always about to be found out’, of knowing ‘you are wrong and they are all right’, of receiving feedback that you don’t quite fit in, that you aren’t able to ‘relax’, be at ‘ease’, go with the flow, etc, leads many into a life time of mounting anxiety and yes fear. Fear is the result. Anxiety. Fear. A definition of life thrust out into the ‘real world’. I chose (unknowingly but I suspect ‘knowingly’) to expose myself to circumstances – public professional circumstances – that to this day remain alien to my nature of ‘fear’. My base instinct is to hide. My comfort is in locking myself away. But perversely I have done quiet the opposite and thus have been ‘forced’ to learn! As I have become more and more self aware of my machine, my conditioning, the impact of my childhood/infancy and my primary programmes, so have I begun to recognise the ‘environmental’ reasons for these traits. But I also suspect there are elements that exist irrespective of this history –a neurological, chemical basis connected to the genetic imprint that kicks into gear right at the beginning and with no ‘this life’ reason - that in certain circumstances has run me and my responses, and never ever let me know that I am free.

I do get the argument that much of what I describe can be essentially defined as a product of the first few months of life. Laura explores this brilliantly in chapter 69 of The Wave:

http://cassiopaea.org/2012/03/25/the-wave-chapter-69-the-whirlpool-of-charybdis-the-sirens-and-the-navigator/


I had a challenging beginning (over three months in an incubator covered head to foot with chronic Eczema) so I can hardly argue the case but I also suspect that choice and the quantum issues and the resultant chemistry and physiological/neurological nature are all also utterly intertwined. The body is an interface with the consciousness and the choice to reconnect to life from 5th Density involves this forging of forces and often it aint pretty! Perhaps all these ‘fear’; conditions are actually the consciousness telling the body to wake up, to become aware because there is a latent awareness that something is rotten in the state of Denmark!

For many however this Matrix of forces becomes simply overwhelming; hence the call for such people to suicide, or depression or whatever else the darkness spews forth. For many simply learning to play safe and avoid confronting their fears. Any freedom from the tyranny of fear.

Fear it seems to me, is the defining matrix control mechanism over us humans. Fear of death (even in the shape of ego anxiety) defines most people, even those who don’t suffer from what I describe above. The hypertensives simply experience it more acutely; like canaries in the mine they express acute awareness and experiences of some kind of frequency that pulses unseen and yet is ever present through the entire human bio-system. To become one without fear (which could be defined as an utterly objective, in the now, liberation from a death anxiety) should be our life’s ambition. I suspect when one truly masters this, the veil collapses and one gets to be truly free.

Can a ketogenic diet play a significant part in changing all this? I wonder. I am open to the thought but I am no wishful thinker. I know from the changes I have started to make (giving up carbs and especially wheat, focussing on meat and a few fresh veg, etc) there has been a definite impact on my physicality, on my awareness, on my sense of self. But whether this is playing a part in my facing down fear, I cannot objectively say.

But still food for thought!

Has anyone else on a true Ketogenic diet (which I obviously am not one) noticed any anxiety/fear changes?
 
Michael BC said:
...Has anyone else on a true Ketogenic diet (which I obviously am not one) noticed any anxiety/fear changes?

I have reduced my anxiety, but the KD over the last year or so has only been one element of the work I have been doing. I did a number of things to reduce work-related stress and anxiety, and I have been reading extensively and better understanding what is going on in the world and generally improving my outlook on life. So did the KD have an effect -- who can say? It may well have helped with everything to some degree.
 
Michael BC said:
Individuals who have difficulty overcoming fear’. This is a vital topic, especially now.

One of the welcome, harder lessons of my life has been the growing awareness of the crippling part fear plays in constricting and restricting progress (i.e. behaviour modifying learning) and that actively pursuing brain/mind evolution through dealing with said is an essential practise for any who recognise this condition. I suspect it is part of an interlocking series of ‘issues’ which are of particular challenge for the silent minority of ‘sufferers’. We are not talking here about the vital self protective defence mechanism of a balanced, natural organism, responding intuitively to genuine danger signals from the environment, no; what I am referring to is a latent state of being, a pervading sense of unease and insecurity that for many is the root experience of all life. A feeling that never goes away, that is always ready to pop up and strangle, a daily sensation that increases throughout teenage life (amplified by the academic pressures of the education system and the momentum towards sexual initiation) until it becomes a fixed way of being well into adulthood. I refer here to what is known as ‘hypersensitivity’, a suggestive, almost accusative phrase (am I being hypersensitive here!?) for what might well be a series of complex, interconnecting and interfacing processes that cross the full spectrum of life forces i.e. quantum, genetic, chemical, learned psychological, environmental.

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The starting point is that huge energy/struggle goes into the basic processing of every day information. There is no such thing as normal. Everything is ‘awarely experienced’ and ‘acutely known’. As a result, you are never just ok. You become ‘particular’. So tactics, coping mechanisms, personality layers have to be created and constantly modified in a vain effort to just belong. By the time a real issue of confrontation (one being worthy of genuine fear) arrives, you are so strung out you make bad choices and inappropriate, in the moment tactical responses. And things get worse. A lovely vicious circle!

I have learnt to confront this head on but it hasn’t been pretty and there has been a constant battle with self that is deeply debilitating. The awareness of ‘not being right’, of there being ‘something missing’, of ‘being always about to be found out’, of knowing ‘you are wrong and they are all right’, of receiving feedback that you don’t quite fit in, that you aren’t able to ‘relax’, be at ‘ease’, go with the flow, etc, leads many into a life time of mounting anxiety and yes fear. Fear is the result. Anxiety. Fear. A definition of life thrust out into the ‘real world’. I chose (unknowingly but I suspect ‘knowingly’) to expose myself to circumstances – public professional circumstances – that to this day remain alien to my nature of ‘fear’. My base instinct is to hide. My comfort is in locking myself away. But perversely I have done quiet the opposite and thus have been ‘forced’ to learn! As I have become more and more self aware of my machine, my conditioning, the impact of my childhood/infancy and my primary programmes, so have I begun to recognise the ‘environmental’ reasons for these traits. But I also suspect there are elements that exist irrespective of this history –a neurological, chemical basis connected to the genetic imprint that kicks into gear right at the beginning and with no ‘this life’ reason - that in certain circumstances has run me and my responses, and never ever let me know that I am free.

I recognise myself in what you wrote, Michael BC.
I find it hard to stand up for myself and when I do I am overcome with anxiety and fear.

I was thinking about this issue yesterday when I was having a smoke. I do find that it helps when I remind myself that fear is a program which is there to stop me from acting on my own behalf and on the behalf of my children. I also repeat to myself what Anart wrote somewhere: that is why it is called the work. And I started thinking about warriors and how they came to be. It all helps somehow.

I had a challenging beginning (over three months in an incubator covered head to foot with chronic Eczema) so I can hardly argue the case but I also suspect that choice and the quantum issues and the resultant chemistry and physiological/neurological nature are all also utterly intertwined.

That must have been so hard for that infant that you were. No physical contact and covered with eczema. Your skin/being was craving physical contact, OSIT.

For many however this Matrix of forces becomes simply overwhelming; hence the call for such people to suicide, or depression or whatever else the darkness spews forth. For many simply learning to play safe and avoid confronting their fears. Any freedom from the tyranny of fear.

Fear it seems to me, is the defining matrix control mechanism over us humans. Fear of death (even in the shape of ego anxiety) defines most people, even those who don’t suffer from what I describe above. The hypertensives simply experience it more acutely; like canaries in the mine they express acute awareness and experiences of some kind of frequency that pulses unseen and yet is ever present through the entire human bio-system. To become one without fear (which could be defined as an utterly objective, in the now, liberation from a death anxiety) should be our life’s ambition. I suspect when one truly masters this, the veil collapses and one gets to be truly free.

ATM there are all kinds of lessons that are coming to me where I have the opportunity to learn how to act without being controlled by fear. And it is true, it is very liberating if we can feel our anxiety, acknowledge it and then with a clear head steer away from it.

Has anyone else on a true Ketogenic diet (which I obviously am not one) noticed any anxiety/fear changes?

I am not on the KD diet yet, but have found significant changes when I changed to low carb.
But then I started having anxiety attacks again during the night. This was related to my ex. And when I removed my ex from my life these attacks stopped.

Jones said:
I think it would be worthwhile to nail down any of the corresponding periods or if these fear periods happen in babies, children and adolescents. I think it would be also interesting to note how our society is set up and if the timing of significant events in our development are counter productive to the protection of temperament.

Yes, it would be worthwhile. I am no expert, but I would say that the first years of life are critical to the development of human beings with regard to fear.

One interesting thing that was noted is that the resultant behavioural or emotional responses to intense fear or trauma during a critical fear period may not actually show up until after sexual or mental maturity. To the dog owner, it often seems that the behaviour/reaction come out of nowhere but often a detailed case history with attention to the critical fear periods will lead to uncovering how the behaviour was developed and a clue to what the triggering stimulus is for the current behaviour/emotional response.

One case history we discussed was of a dog that developed what seemed like random human aggression. It was difficult to pin down what was common between those that he reacted to and those he didn't. It turned out that it was the smell of pizza! The dog had had a frightening experience with pizza delivery guy in the dark during a critical fear period, and since dogs have a greater sense of smell, he could react to people who had eaten pizza up to 24hrs prior.

Thanks for the wonderful food for thought, Jones.
My youngest son (12) still has dreams which leave him feeling frightened and then the remainder of those nights he will sleep with me. He doesn't wish to talk about his dreams, so all I do is acknowledge his fear. It helps him a lot when he feels my presence.
He used to be afraid of spiders. This lasted a couple of years. So he would come and get me to have them removed. I removed a lot of spiders! But I knew it was important, because his fears were real. He is getting over that fear now. He still doesn't like spiders, but he doesn't need me anymore. He can now enter a room where there are spiders and he will take care of them himself.

Also, in training her for the competition heel during which would have been her first major critical fear period, I was playing with her and just rewarding her for walking on my left side or being in the heel position and she started to put the pattern together and anticipating the food treat. She jumped up to get it as I bent down to deliver it and she hooked a puppy tooth into my finger pad - all totally accidental - and I stood up with 13kg of pup hanging of my finger by one tooth. My reaction in that moment (I screamed and shook her off my hand)frightened her and I had difficulty getting her back into heel position. Even now, if I reach to her with my left hand she ducks her head slightly, at times almost imperceptible, but still there. :(

I share your sadness. I can also observe the mistakes that I made in my own children. I know that my own behaviour caused my kids to feel frightened. It is something I have to learn to live with. Maybe wait until the time is right when I can approach the subject and discuss it with them.
 
Jones, that bit about puppies was fascinating. Maybe you could copy it into one of the doggie threads?
 
Laura said:
Jones, that bit about puppies was fascinating. Maybe you could copy it into one of the doggie threads?

Ok :)

But I will hit the books first and make it more comprehensive. I bought my original study materials with me, but not all of the reference books as we were travelling light - so they are still back in Queensland. But I'm sure I have enough here or could find relevant links.
 
I don't know if this will be of any help to anyone... as I was contemplating making very big moves in my life (getting un-stuck and taking some big chances!) A lot of fear came bubbling to the surface. I started a dialog with fear that started with this... (June 2012)

"Dear fear,
I appreciate your vigilance and desire to protect me from, who knows what! But I would like to introduce you to some friends who are very dear to me so that we can begin a community of cooperation within my existence and moving forward into a new adventure.

Please meet Curiosity, Wonder, Creativity, Endless possibility & Faith in Self. They will all be respectful of your caution and thoughtful care. They know you are experienced and will put up a red flag if there is anything that needs more objective consideration. They will most certainly defer to you in any emergency but be open and aware the we are no longer on lock-down.

Together we will navigate new and enriching things! This is so exciting! (Yes... it's ok for you to smile and laugh even though you aren't sure about anything). Together we will embrace a sense of freedom and move toward projects and building community that supports our deepest values, our health, happiness & well-being.

So embrace Eudamonia, as there is a greater purpose to our lives and it is time to put knowledge into action. Thank you, fear ... for teaching me about so many important things. Let's be good friends from now on; be flexible respect eachother's need to exist in freedom.

Sincerely,"

I've since amended that... Fear does not get to exist in freedom. It's on a leash! The point being here, that through the continuing dialogue (journaling whenever fearful feelings, anxiety and so forth came to the surface) I made a lot of headway in getting clear about fear. One of the things I discovered is that there really is this little girl who's consciousness never managed to get past various traumas that she couldn't define, rationalize nor protect herself from. She would pull the tissues of my body tight around her like a blanket she could hide under... keeping my body in this 'bracing' posture pretty much all the time. Through gaining knowledge and this is the important part... applying it, I have been able to show her that she can trust ME to protect 'Us'. That I have proven over and over to her that I now have the means to look out for our/my wellbeing. And tools to use in coping with difficult circumstances. She/my little girl inside me who is about 4 or 5 years old... still has trouble getting the message sometimes. So I dialogue with her in writing as if she were a separate person; asking her what does she need to feel safe? What can I DO, to show her that she can trust me? When you reach a point where you can trust yourself ... you stand a much better chance of using fear for the purpose it was meant for.

Hope that is helpful to anyone :)
 
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