Re: Narcissists @ Work: How to Deal with Arrogant, Controlling, Manipulative Bullies
I know exactly how you people feel. I was fired last september because I complained to the chief of staff of the company about my manager for treating me like a piece of garbage. The thing is that the manager was known for shouting at people openly and using foul language, but the owner did absolutely nothing to stop this individual from abusing the employees emotionally. For those reasons no one at the company, except the owner who was just another psychopath in a different body, liked him and avoided him at all costs. I did not have a choice becuse I worked for him. I worked for the biggest ATM company in Canada; I was a dispatch coordinator taking care of the eastern part of the country.
When the company decided to terminate my employment they gave me a 6 week severence pay. Don't get me wrong I could have done more than just take my money and look for other work, but I am just really tired of being exposed to various psychopaths at workplaces and I really don't give a damn anymore about making a difference in this world. I have reached my limit. I just want peace and quite in my life. I have already tried to make a difference, which I probably did for those other new employees who entered the workplaces, but I did not make a difference in my life from all that stress that I had to undergo by myself, because no one else cared to speak out and tell the truth. I have already complained to Human Rights Commission twice before, and have won both times years ago. I think if you do the digging you can find the details on the Internet pertaining to both cases. The first employer, The BIg Muffin, was sued for discrimination, and the second one, Interalia, was sued for sexual harassment. The first case made it all the way to a hearing, so I have an experience in that as well, and I must say it was nerve wrecking. It is really stressful to try to sue psychopaths who have all the money in the world to hire the best lawyers to represent them. Though, the lawyer who represented The BIg Muffin, could not do much for his client because I had the owner taped and that tape was used as evidence by my lawyer at the hearing. Interalia settled out of court; they were also aware of the tape I had in my possession. If you are thinking that I sued these companies for money, as the accused said at the hearing, then that is totally wrong because I ended up with $2000 for the discrimination case after 2.5 years of constant correspondece with the lawyer who was assigned to my case by the Human Rights COmmission, and that was a lot of work. I would have been awarded more money if I had hired my own lawyer but I could not afford one, besided I was not doing it for money anyway. I wanted to make a difference in this world, that is all. Yes, I sure was naive. The second time I was awarded 2.5 thousand dollars for being sexually harassed at a worklace by not only my supervisor but also by the rest of the male employees. I worked in the tech department at a manufacturring facility and was the only female employed in that department. I was also the only female at the ATM dispatch department. You can tell that sexual harassment is not taken very seriously in this society, just like child sexual abuse.
If anyone is thinking of being successful in teaching these losers a lesson, then get some kind of evidence before you walk away from the workplace. It worked for me twice. And don't trust the lawyers.If I did not have the tapes I would not have won. And that is the truth.
Even though I have taped the last psychopath, this time I choose to walk, as I am leaving the city, actually this province for good. I want a peaceful life, a new life, and I want to be as far away from these psychopaths as possible. I will give other people the chance to make a difference; I am old, worn-out and in need of a peaceful life. It's time for a change.