Question about going to church.

[melatonin]

Hi melatonin, and thank you for sharing. I'm sorry to hear of your situation. Your words resonated as 3D life can feel inescapable sometimes and the desire to do good in the world may seem elusive. I cruised a few church parking lots and just never made it out of my parked car. Had a similar issue as you mentioned, "...i want to live truthfully as possible and to not be insincere, and i could never fully believe a mainstream religion." Then I tried out an weekend walking group, a pottery class at a local museum, and volunteering at a municipal garden pruning rose bushes and weeding. I'm no extrovert, and sometimes I don't say much more than "good morning, nice to see you all" and "see you next time, glad to help". But I sincerely mean it, and did get to experience collective purpose and community. Try, explore - ROOTING FOR YOU

Thanks Polly for your kind words.

I was wondering if my desire to be so authentic is a stumbling block in itself, especially when the only authentic thing (at this point for me) is "the work" and growing my self observation. I'm hoping this growing perspective might remove some road-blocks I have from socialising. I too am an introvert, or I think I am. I think the more I learn about myself, the more I'm finding it hard to define myself, which feels contradictory. Working with flowers and plants would be very theraputic if I could be around others in a safe environment.

 

[melatonin]

A Church could be an easier way to integrate into your surrounding community. A way to get to know the people that live closer to you. If you feel you aren't able to be your sincere and complete self in a church setting; then see if a park near where you live conduct 'A Stand in the Park' event- if not; consider beginning to organise A Stand in the Park events at your local park to begin attracting similar minded people.



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Thanks for your reply. I'd like to start a group of some sort, but I'm not in the mental place at the moment to do something like that unfortunately. :(

 

[melatonin]

Try it out and see!

At some point, that's exactly what I have to do.

 

[melatonin]

Another possibility: websites like meetup.com offer a lot of groups where people organize in-person meetups on different topics or hobbies. I think it is more popular in English-speaking countries and in or close to larger cities.

Another possibility: websites like meetup.com offer a lot of groups where people organize in-person meetups on different topics or hobbies. I think it is more popular in English-speaking countries and in or close to larger cities.

Thanks for your reply. Meet-up is a good option for sure. :)

 

[Gwenllian]

I would like to work towards joining the online project you mentioned. The "work" is really starting to have some impact on me, and its self-awareness (Lack of) that holding me back.

That's great to hear, @melatonin. You will learn a lot, also about yourself, at least that is what I found. I hope you will enjoy working with others. It is pretty wonderful to work with a team that is very capable and experienced! Let us know if you need any help? Enjoy!

 

[Cordillera]

Try it out and see!

hi melatonin
I see your post is from July, so this message is a little late.

Complex trauma often creates a pattern of freezing and dissociation.

I haven't had CPTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder), but my hypersensitivity has caused me to experience every difficult event in a greatly heightened way. And my primary survival pattern is freezing and dissociating.

These patterns hold us back from seeking social connection. But what heals them the most is social connection.

With freezing, the nervous system disconnects from defense responses. The energy to defend ourselves against danger is the same force that allows us to live life. In freezing, the body and mind prepare to not feel pain (or pleasure) and prepare you to die (depression).

Dissociation is part of the same process: we leave the body so we don't feel the overwhelming intensity of emotions.

This naturally leads to living in fantasy and overthinking, procrastinating and imagining thousands of possible scenarios in our heads before daring to act.

Therefore, breaking this freeze is essential: Try, experiment, discover. And if social interaction overwhelms you or you encounter people who don't make you feel safe, then slow down the pace, frequency, or intensity of social contact, but don't eliminate it. Make it acceptable, sustainable, and kind to you.

You don't need to find the ideal place, with colinearity and spirituality. It can be a group of friends, people who get together to play, volunteer, read, write, go for walks, etc.

I have learned, through many setbacks, that the first step is the most important, and then little by little we unfreeze.