Well after royally kicking a hornets nest and fulfilling my life mission as a lightning rod, I guess I better step back in here and explain myself. And before I begin to deconstruct this from my perspective, I want to say I don't see this as a diversion. I think reflects several key issues in our lack of collinearity that the C's referenced last session.
It's only an insult when directed at men, specifically because behaving like women is not appropriate for men. Yes, women of course have their own virtues, and demonstrate strength and courage in their own way ... but feminine strength is not masculine strength, and in my opinion we're experiencing a severe deficit of the former, which is to a large degree why we all find ourselves in the predicament we're in.
My point is not that it is an insult. In my experience, the phrase is used for coercion/abridgement of free will. "You should do what I say because if you don't, you will be diminished."
Now check this out:
"Don't be afraid. Don't be timid."
Said cleanly although still coming from a negative point of view (DONT) and coercive kinda STS-ish - telling someone what to do. The "space" of free choice is not really there.
"Don't be a coward. Don't be a chicken. Don't be a pussy."
Kind of the same point but with an added coercive element - IOW - A negative judgement of some kind placed along with the directive
"you should do what I say and if you don't, it means "x" about you"
"Stick to your guns. Have courage in your position. What goes down must come back up."
More positive - more free choice present.
"It is important to keep your emotions out of your trading plan if you want to be successful"
All ways to make the same point. With varying degrees of free will and negative judgement present.
To bring this back to the collinearity thing:
What's the vibration?
1. Don't be a pussy.
2. It is important to keep your emotions out of your trading plan
a world of difference there, imo
One is more uplifting, and instructive, thoughtful. The other is more coercive and invites a negative reaction.
Long reply, tangential to the thread topic; however, I for one am entirely sick of language policing everywhere else in society, and firmly believe that "we can and should do better here on this forum."
I am not saying "don't tell people your opinion"
I am not policing anything.
I am not saying "don't say what you are saying"
I am saying, "please find a better way to say it" - "a way that is fitting for this forum and supportive of the desires that people have for real knowledge."
Some of the biggest areas of growth in my own personal journey have come from people calling me out : to up my game.
That is what I meant to be doing with my comments.
Lastly: the Catch 22 Syndrome
"Hey Psychegram, quit being such an overly sensitive PUSSY about this. Man up, dude!"
I hope you see the humor in that.
See how that just kinda doesn't really "work"?
Unless maybe this was a gym and we were playing a game?
The other personal inner side of it is this:
I saw the comment. I almost passed it by, discarding my reaction to it. But I thought, if I have this reaction, others might also. It seemed to cross a line. And, like Nienna, I never liked this phrase long before the PC police. I always put up with it. "Oh well". But at what point do we just get what we put up with? Do I have some duty to speak up for what I see? You could say "Oh you are just reacting" Yes there was some reaction there for me. But it was a choice to make a comment. If I was reacting I could have been more blunt.
Does that bring us to turning the other cheek?
You might complain.
But it could get so much worse.
I would like to take the high road.
I meant to deliver an exhortation. I didn't really do it well. Maybe I sounded snippy. I didn't want to carry on too long. I tried to be self deprecating by referencing myself as a "prissy snowflake". Which I thought was an obvious nod to the precarious pitfalls in saying anything at all.
To wrap it up, I am not sure how to articulate it, but I feel like this little side show does relate to the collinearity issue somehow.