Thank you for the new session!
So glad to hear that Pierre is okayThoughts and prayers continue to be with you all.
I have been thinking more about what is written above as this past Monday a family member shared a regret they still struggle with after the loss of a family member close to ten years ago. I listen but I also wonder if there's more I could say or do to help as it is something that continues to come up (though not as often anymore and usually only briefly when it does).
I tried to find further info about this topic of things working both ways but couldn't find any mention online so far. Do others here know of Afterlife reading material that covers this topic?
There's this session from April 26, 2014 that provides a basic structure:
(Alana) Because Menrva mentioned her brother and how he’s stuck, it seems that a lot of people end up being stuck after death. I was wondering if there’s some roadmap or… like for people to have an idea of “How to Die” and just go where they’re supposed to.
A: It is a good idea!
Q: (L) Write a book! (Pierre) How to Die Efficiently! (L) A little booklet… (Andromeda) It’s a really good idea. (Mr. Scott) People always write about near-death experiences, but nobody ever writes about HOW to die. (Alana) Yeah, without coming back. (Chu) Dying 101.
A: A worthy project!
Q: (L) We can put it out on Kindle! (laughter) (Alana) How to Die… A Healthy Passage… It’s probably related much in the way you lived before you die. So, the work must be part of it, because you shed beliefs that are illusionary. (Pierre) Religious beliefs… (Timotheos) You could have a chapter for each religion. (Alana) Or sometimes you feel you need to stay because you need to protect others. (L) And you have to talk through all of those things, and explain why it’s even unnecessary and it will just create an energy drain for those left behind, and so forth. Never mind even if you think you’re a doing a good thing. The very fact that you feel you must stay means you will have to obtain energy somehow, and that will actually come from the person you care about. Therefore, you’re not really doing them any favors. You’re hurting them more than you’re helping them. And say you need to let go, and blah blah blah… Make it so that a person can read it to the person, or the person can read it themselves. It could be written in a very beautiful, almost poetic way. (Pierre) A soothing way. (Alana) Because it’s like something that people fear also, so it has to be done gently. Okay, we should talk about this. (L) Yeah. Anything else? We’re gonna say good night. Any comments about our first little experimental Skype session?
A: More! Merrier! Goodbye.
I don't know of any booklet like this per se (although thorbiorn seems to be working on it!), but the book I mentioned earlier in the thread is worthwhile IMO. Often grief can leave us all feeling pretty lost, and this book provides a basic roadmap for the strange 'landscape of grief' that we sometimes inhabit. In particular the sometimes bizarre and strange emotions that populate it. I know it sure helped me get some clarity on grief, how it can affect myself and others, shedding light on a lot of our cultural assumptions, and providing some key signposts to healthy ways of processing loss.
Aside from that, perhaps you could suggest that your relative write a goodbye letter? Something with a specific intent to address and resolve any lingering regrets which may be a cause of clinging by both parties. And also encouraging their dearly departed to go into the light where all of their loved ones are waiting with open arms. I think this last bit is very important, based on what we've learned from the SRT material, ie. earthbound spirits who stick around need energy, and they often get that from the life force of loved ones who are still living.