Hi Corvus ,And what kind of person is that? You managed to know me?
Imagine this forum and all it's participants as a ship, with Laura at it's helm. We are all responsible for what we say and the way we behave when we do our work on this ship. We all have our past grievances and hurts which we do need to work on every day of our lives. The work on this ship is, primarily, not of a kind that you can really see in a physical sense, i.e., like sweeping the deck, casting the sails or manning the observation tower. I found the following on a website talking about a seafaring career and the various responsibilities of the crew onboard a ship:
Please bear with me on this, it will only take a little bit of time for me to elaborate on this analogy.
Seafaring is not just a career, it’s a lifestyle. Captains, mates, and ship pilots spend their days on the water on vessels of all sizes, on inland lakes and rivers, as well as the open sea.
The captain is responsible for every aspect of the voyage and vessel. They set course and speed, direct crew members, and ensure that proper procedures are followed, keeping logs and records of the ship’s movements and cargo, and supervising the loading and unloading of cargo and passengers.
Mates are the captain’s “right hand.” They manage and train the deck crew, inspect and maintain inventory of equipment, and order needed repairs. They stand watch, oversee ship operations, and navigation when the captain is not on duty. Pilots are responsible for steering ships in and out of berths, through hazardous conditions, and boat traffic. They motor out from harbor as a ship approaches, then climb aboard to take charge and safely berth the ship.
Life aboard ship requires that one must be in good physical condition to tolerate the extremes of weather and irregular hours, and to be ready to respond to unexpected danger. Captains and ship pilots are expected to have vocational training or an associate’s degree, while mates often have a high school diploma. All require experience onboard ships. Licensing by the Coast Guard is required for work on ships registered in the U.S. If you can’t resist the call of the sea, you might set sail for a nautical career.
You can see the parallels of the work on this forum with the work of a ship's crew. The work here involves something more intangible, though. We work on ourselves. So, what counts is your being, more than your doing. In fact, your being will enhance what you do in your life. How to improve being though? How to not compromise the work we do on this ship that Laura and the crew has so lovingly, painstakingly tended to for all these years?
That's not an easy question to answer, as each individual has their own issues to deal with. I want to help you see, Corvus, that when we treat others with an understanding of their position in life, to the extent that we're able, we heal a part of ourselves which then provides us a power over ourselves, to be able to move on in life by opening up new possibilities through seeing that there are more options available to us in our interactions then we previously did. Life will become an adventure for you, and you will feel more and more a part of the crew. Work on ourselves and we gain more for ourselves, and to share with others. The initial reaction that you get from feeling like others are wasting your time can be transformed into a desire to know, and to understand, "Where is this person coming from, and what are their hurts and suffering?"
It's not easy to think that way in a dog-eat-dog world, not easy at all, in fact, the climate we live in has made it almost impossible to externally consider. However, I came here first to seek knowledge and subsequently, I felt that some kind of power would accrue to me as a result of that. In hindsight, I was not necessarily wrong in my thinking. However, the crucial thing that was missing was, for an STO candidate to progress, karmic lessons have to be learned. The situations that we repeatedly find ourselves in, due to past hurts are not there "just because," they are there for us to learn. If you are ready and willing to see that in your own interactions with others, and to maybe share just a teensy-weensy little bit about what you're going through in your own life, then we'd have a better understanding and we could then help each other to move on - to propel this ship even further along the course.
You're an invaluable part of our struggle here to build a new world. You can see more than you ever imagined but only if you gave us a little more to go on by so that we could understand a little bit about what you're going through.
You don't have to if you don't want to put in the effort, though. It's totally up to you. However, the danger is that you may find yourself "stuck in the "past"," and possibly not becoming part of the "reality of the "future" ".