Turgon said:seek10 said:If the past (of pathology) is of indication of future, pathologicals won't allow to choose as they are parasites. their strength is other obedience. freedom is as contagious as pathology. Literally all freedom struggles are full of these examples. The only choice is educating the non pathologicals rather secretly , thus countering/cutting the wings of pathologicals. If more pathologicals survive than normal people, the game is already lost.Oxajil said:Mrs.Tigersoap said:Puzzle said:And I also thought of how and if it is even possible to make people see this pathology - say, I find myself in a group of peeps and a dangerous pathological is wreaking havoc, but upon calling him out, everyone else will just excuse him/her, a la "But we need each other, don't make waves here." etc. And that's just one possible scenario.
My thoughts exactly. Many people simply don't want (cannot?) see, even with repeated evidence. People have these huge programs of 'judge not lest ye be judged' and they just throw all common sense out of the window because of it. I see it every day. Pathological people hurting others purposefully, and when the victims are told the truth about them, they still choose the side of the pathologicals... It's quite disheartening. And since psychopaths in hard times will try to take over and lead people for their own gain and since many people are authoritarian followers afraid of thinking by themselves and too happy that s.o. volunteers to guide them, there's yet another recipe for disaster...
If such a situation would occur, and there are atleast some people (or even one person) who would agree that there is (or are) a pathological person within the group manipulating and causing distress, I would then rather leave the group with the people who agree that this person is causing havoc, than to stay and see how ignorant everyone is being with more and more (emotional or even physical) damage being done. Would it be wiser to leave and put energy and effort into other things? Or would it be best to stay as there is the possibility that when the damage done by this pathological person becomes so obvious and so problematic that atleast some more people would notice? But then as you guys say, there are the "forgive and forget" people, and such dynamics in a group can be quite tiring, like having a repeated harmful cycle going on. So maybe then the best thing would be to leave and to try to atleast form some kind of balanced group, if possible, and to spread awareness of this type of people, and at the same time work on things that are important, like sharing food, thinking about what to do next and so forth. I could be wrong here in my thinking, so fwiw.
I've only seen the first 3 episodes, but similar questions have been on my mind. If pathologicals try to usurp power within a group, then they will not allow anyone to walk away so easily. Obedience is their source of power, and to see someone leave the group of their own accord will send shockwaves throughout and the narcissistic rage the pathological feels will then be turned against the person leaving. At that point it could be costly to your life if you were to leave, because they might use you as a message to others who would even think about it.
Yes, you will see that in 'Law of the Jungle'.
Turgon said:I could be wrong, but I think this is why it's important, early on, to watch out for pathological behaviour in anyone and separate them from the reasonably minded. It might even have to become a game of chess to alert other's to the danger's of the situation. Being Wise as a serpent, but gentle as a dove.
I agree. We could think of some kind of strategy, practise in different circumstances maybe?
Turgon said:I saw this during the Occupy Movement, how many people wanted to do good, but a few pathological types were so charismatic that they could win over the allegiances of a few and form these little 'cliques'. And even though they were just a few, because they were unified under these pathologicals, they were intimidating and could attract other's to them, just like the show. It then became a situation of trying to camp together with them which was impossible, because slowly they would encroach more and more, win over others who were unsure of themselves and easily influenced. I watched this go on wondering how to combat this? A lot of the reasonably minded people would get fed up and let them do as they please or leave the movement.
Yes, I have seen the same happen in the home education community. One person has taken over completely, dominates and controls the information that is coming out, keeps others in the lurch, spreads malicious gossip about professionals, because he is making money off the people that trust him and come to him for legal advice. It is quite horrendous to watch. I decided to step out, because there was nothing I could do. Although I have been secretly informing others who wish to hear about this pathological person. He also uses sexual abuse as a weapon, although it seems to others that are naive that he just loves women and wishes to support them by giving them a cuddle and kisses. In front of his wife and children. He oversteps the boundaries of all concerned and goes for the weaker type of woman and man that look up to him.
But he is just talk. He talks and talks and talks, but you can't make head or tails of what he is saying. Which is of course another way of confusing his victims.
At one point I tried to warn people about the ways of the bureaucracy they have to deal with and he immediately attacked me and questioned the validity of what I was saying.
I have given him quite a bit of thought over the years and have learnt a lot by just observing him and the others around him. When there are people that question him others immediately come to his defense. Astonishing. They are like little children that want to please the parent. That is my impression anyway.