Expected answers
Jumping off the fence.
Back to your answers, I wanted to respond right away, but I really had nothing to say. So I just didn't. And this is probably better, I would have keep going on self-pity, and I was far too emotionnal to think clearly.
Also, there's the fact that I wanted to post something wise and to show one of the best I's I could have shown you, as for every posts, and lack of those. There's definitly a huge amount of work to be done, in and out.
But I've been thinking about all that everyday since, pondering your words, and what happened IRL. It's been quite a struggle, and I'd like to share it with you though I can't do this here by respect of privacy.
Laura said:
Starshine, we aren't about fake kindness here. Perhaps YOU need to re-read the forum guidelines? We are about finding something objective in this whole fake psychopathic reality. We are about growing up and being responsible and sharing/teaching that to others with honest, objective feedback. If a person can't, at the very least, achieve some level of objectivity, they can never do anything about psychopathic child murderers either because it is a huge war and requires seasoned soldiers who know how to master themselves under the most horrifying conditions.
You can see that little X up at the right hand corner of the screen, yes? So click it. That's something no "cult" will tell you. Instead, they'll talk about being nice and sweet...
'Tis too much proved - that with devotion's visage
And pious action we do sugar o'er
The devil himself.
Shakespeare's Hamlet Act 3, Scene 1
I've been especially moved, at the time, by this quote of Hamlet (which is also said by V at the beginning of the movie), trying to understand the meaning intended. What I understood from it is that I'm full of lies that need to be exposed, but if there's more to it and that you have some more insights that could explicit this, my hears are wide open.
I'm not searching for fake kindness, and re-reading the guidelines and some other threads, as
Depression As A Stepping Stone (to Soul Growth) and
Boardlurker? Read this!! made me remember the objective, and I would recommend it to everyone. I was not on the board that much, but I've not stop to read, I'm almost done with The Wave 8, understanting the reality more clearly, and facing myself more sincerely. Soon on Comets and the Horns of Moses. It's a long and tough road but I'm decided to continue. And I will persist until I succeed.
What is shiffting on those days is my behaviour toward life, in a more practical way. It's been really theorical knowledge until then. The dynamics of social interactions are clearer, the way the System of Control acts makes more and more sense. Challenges are fun, right ? I dare more to do new things, and I understand that I'm not alone, that we should never forget it. I have to beware of my internal considering, it's been ruling my life in its different expressions. I'm practicing EE more regularly, at least once a week since 2 months and it's been and is really effective on every levels. I also joined a massage school, which commits me to keep some physical balance for the good of both parts, plus climbing, competition against oneself.
Perceval said:
Starshine said:
Why all that ? If someone had answer to my first post, it wouldn't have been a problem at all. It's because I sent a second one that I finally got an answer. When she saw the response, she was compassionate to me because she thought it was kind of mean. It's not really kind to say she should go to see a therapist, she just said what she thought there.
I've talk about that with my mother, she's upset about this situation, about the way you treated her, and, yes, you don't know her and everybody has issues. Eiru Eolas and ketogenic diet is great, but it's not fixing the murders of childs by psychopaths. I'm struggled since I love Sott and am certainly not objective, but I can tell that the two most important women of my life think that's too much.
Seems to me that as a result of the discussion on this forum over the past few days and what it has revealed, you may just have been gifted a "get out of jail free" card. It's up to you whether or not you use it though.
I recognize some programs here, and this has been really important and useful to face them. I misused words, I was emotionnaly hooked on the above. I didn't know how to handle the situation that got worse and worse irl, I wanted to make it all good, and the consequences have been surprising, at the very least. It's all so subtle. I have my responsability for sure.
It's been a gift, I take it as it is and it has profound meaning to me, as all the sharing of infos that is going on around here, my gratitude for all of you has no words, I still have to find a way to express it through actions.
anart said:
Starshine, it's your life and you need to go and make your own decisions. People's actions ALWAYS speak louder than their words and there are actions here that could provide you with a lot of information if you choose to see. We wish you well, no matter your decision for your future.
Thank you.
truth seeker said:
Perhaps even a good deal of resentment on Sunbeam's part from being coerced to join the forum instead of you trusting her enough to make her own decisions.
Apparently she had told me she registered, though I wasn't aware she was until this post. But yes, she must have feel coerced to hear about sott, from the very beginning actually, we didn't agree on diet and smoking.
I know she will read this message, that's also one of the reason why I didn't want to answer.
It took more time than I thought to write it, but I'm glad I finally did it.
This feedback was necessary, I hope it could help in some ways.
Thanks for reading, and for the answers you provided me.
And for all the rest, again and again.