Savitri C said:
My parents named me Maja because I was born in May
Reading through some of the posts on this thread, it's clear that in most cultures, our names come from our parents, or, as we get older, of few of us will select a different name to use instead.
Here I will offer a completely different approach to names from a culture with which I am familiar: the culture of Thailand.
Two stories -- from my personal experience -- to illustrate:
After knowing him for several years, one day my Thai teacher brought to me a photocopy of his identity card.
But I already had a copy of that, so I asked, "Why another copy?"
He explained, "I changed my first name. Last name is the same as before. I've had some problems in my life recently (divorce), so I went to a fortune teller who suggested a new and stronger name for me. I went to the provincial office and got it changed."
In Thai culture, want to improve your life?
Well, then, just change your name!
Second story about name meanings in Thai culture.
Three or four times a week, in the evening after supper, I will walk around the corner to a small foot massage shop.
After several months, I came to prefer one of the massage girls, who's name was "Bird".
A very common name in Thailand.
One day, Bird said to me, "Next month I am changing jobs. I will work in the foot massage shop across the street. Please come to see me there."
I agreed.
Early the following month, I was walking along the street, going to a restaurant for my supper.
There was Miss Bird, standing outside the shop across the street, wearing the uniform shirt of that shop.
She smiled and said, "Peter, when are you coming for foot massage at my new shop?"
I explained, "Okay, Bird, first I'll go to supper, then I'll come back here in an hour."
An hour later, I returned to that shop across the street.
Bird was not in sight, but several other staff were there, all wearing the uniform shirt of that shop.
"I have an appointment with Bird for foot massage."
But funny looks from the other staff.
"Miss Bird is not here! Today is Tuesday. It is her day off. She is not here."
Questions to other staff confirmed, Bird had not been seen all day.
Is this the first stage of Alzheimer's for me?
So I explained that I had just seen and talked to Bird, right there in front of the shop, only an hour ago.
Their looks indicated they thought I was more than a little crazy.
Then I explained it was Bird who used to work at the shop across the street, and started at this shop just a few days ago, at the beginning of the month.
Suddenly, the lights went on.
“Oh, no,” they explained, “That’s not Bird. Her name Sky.”
And one of them ran into the shop and called for “Sky” to come out to the front.
The lady who appeared, was exactly the one whom I’d talked to just an hour before.
I asked, “All this time I’ve been calling you “Bird”. Did I make a mistake?
She explained:
“In this shop there already is one staff with the name of Bird. So, when I came to work here a few days ago, I had to change my name. Now you can call me Sky.”
End of that story, but you may be wondering, if Thais change their names so easily and so quickly, how can you keep track of them?
It’s difficult.
It is common that one person may have several, different names: One at work, one among personal friends, another name within the family.
And if that person works two jobs, they may be known by different names at each job.
Now, to wrap up this long post, I’ll go back to Thai names given at birth.
Thais are very conscious of skin color.
A new-born baby with slightly reddish skin will be named, “Red”.
A baby with very dark, skin will be named, “Black”.
A tiny baby will be named, “Tiny” or, maybe, “Shrimp”.
“Fish” is a common name for girls, but I don’t know why or how they get that name.
Another common name for girls is “Mouse”.
But, in farming areas, a variation is “Field Mouse”.
Girls named “Field Mouse” are very proud of that name, and they make sure to explain that “Mouse” is not the same as “Field Mouse”.
When I asked the difference, I was told, “‘Field Mouse’ can eat, but ‘Mouse’ is dirty, can not eat.”
So, a typical conversation among Thais might be, “Good morning, Field Mouse. I’m on the way to visit Red and Black. Have you seen Shrimp or Fish.”
Sounds funny to us, but in Thailand, those names would not even crack a smile.
-- Peter
Bangkok