Gimpy
The Living Force
hlat said:Since I've gone gluten free, I no longer eat cookies and cakes formerly containing wheat flour. So in experimenting, my spouse finally approved a gluten free cookie recipe. So I consider that change falling in the category of change without sacrifice. I will continue to encourage change that is acceptable to my spouse. I don't see that as forcing change.
In trying to change myself, I've come across terrible tasting food that I could not will myself to like. Sometimes food just tastes bad to a person. I had to change the recipe of bone broth, with very helpful suggestions of members here. Now I have a bone broth that tastes good to me.
None of us can change everything at once, even if we had the all the knowledge of what to change. It appears the consensus of the top things to do are: elimination of gluten and dairy, removal of mercury fillings and detox, and very low carbohydrate diet with high amounts of animal fat. So I'm trying to make the changes that I can handle, while dealing with the attacks from the control system and raising young children.
An analogy that comes to mind if someone who has very limited experience in trying foods of different cultures. Slowly that person wants to try different foods that they haven't really had, such as Indian, Greek, Chinese, Vietnamese food, and I know there is really good food in all those cultures. But the person tries perhaps one Indian dish or several, and doesn't like it. I'd say ok you tried some bad ones, now let's go try some others, I know there's great Indian food and we're going to find it. And in this process eventually we find the great Indian, Greek, Chinese, Vietnamese food. I don't think that in this situation that I forced the person to like these different foods.
I think my spouse might take a year to change some of the important things like gluten, or maybe it will take 2 or 3 or 4 years. I think we will get there, and sooner in life than many others. I'm trying to cultivate a mindset that there is time, there's no rush, while acting quickly when I see the opportunity.
Expecting to 'steer' your spouse to modify eating habits can backfire on you. With my Hubby, I didn't bother. Instead I changed my diet and he saw clear evidence on what worked, and what didn't. People can become stubborn beyond reason when it comes to diet, and I was no different when I began to experiment with diet several years ago. The big difference for me? What I was eating, and not eating, was wrecking my health. If you have a chronic or serious health issue? Going slow is important.
FWIW, I can't use xylitol at all. Even on a KD diet, it tears me up as bad as dairy does. This leads me to think its an allergy based intolerance more than bacteria or other issues. The only sweetner that's tolerated is stevia, and I like using the leaves right off the plants when possible. When in doubt? Don't eat it.